Marriage Counseling Cafe » Unconditional Love http://www.marriagecounselingcafe.com America's Top Marriage Counselor Provides Free Relationship Advicee Mon, 02 Aug 2010 00:01:52 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.1 en hourly 1 Don’t Trust Your Spouse http://www.marriagecounselingcafe.com/2010/03/08/dont-trust-your-spouse/ http://www.marriagecounselingcafe.com/2010/03/08/dont-trust-your-spouse/#comments Mon, 08 Mar 2010 15:45:52 +0000 admin http://www.marriagecounselingcafe.com/2010/03/08/dont-trust-your-spouse/ I often hear people use the word "trust" in marriage, like "I don't feel I can trust him anymore."

It goes along with the phrase "unconditional love."

There are no such things in mature relationships.

If you are still depending on these things to be present in your relationship, you are being a child and under a spell of fantasy.

In mature relationships of ALL kinds, not only marriage, our reliance on another person is based on experience and judgment, not upon blind trust.

I suggest you use the word "confidence" instead of trust.

Confidence can be earned and it can be lost.

It helps put mature relationships into proper focus when you see that they are actually conditional and dependent upon good behavior.

Earn confidence and expect your partner to earn your confidence.

Dr. Max

Posted via email from Marriage Counseling, Save Your Marriage, Stop Your Divorce

Copyright © 2008
This feed is for personal, non-commercial use only.
The use of this feed on other websites breaches copyright. If this content is not in your news reader, it makes the page you are viewing an infringement of the copyright. (Digital Fingerprint:
)

© admin for Marriage Counseling Cafe, 2010. | Permalink | | Add to del.icio.us digg
Who's linking ? Technorati BlogPulse Google
Want more on these topics ? Browse the archive of posts filed under Blog.

]]> http://www.marriagecounselingcafe.com/2010/03/08/dont-trust-your-spouse/feed/ -1