Marriage Counseling News: Bringing You All the Best Marriage Counseling and Relationship Advice » Springfield Missouri http://www.marriagecounselingcafe.com Marriage Counseling Approaches to Enhance Your Marriage | Different Approaches of Marriage Counseling Save Your Marriage and Lead to a Very Satisfying Relationship Wed, 08 Feb 2012 01:55:02 +0000 en hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.2.1 He wants to unwind, she wants him to tell him every detail http://www.marriagecounselingcafe.com/2009/04/25/he-wants-to-unwind-she-wants-him-to-tell-him-every-detail/ http://www.marriagecounselingcafe.com/2009/04/25/he-wants-to-unwind-she-wants-him-to-tell-him-every-detail/#comments Sat, 25 Apr 2009 23:51:58 +0000 Dr. Max Vogt http://www.marriagecounselingcafe.com/?p=105

Shane in Springfield, Missouri has a problem with his wife. He says that after a long day at work, he just wants to unwind a bit. His wife, on the other hand, wants to tell him every detail of her day.

Steve, this problem is really common for married couples to have. In my book, I explain the intimacy paradox, which says that in a great marriage, you want to achieve 100% acceptance of yourself and 100% acceptance of your partner. This means accepting her behavior of telling you everything about herself when you are tired. See if you can tell her that you need to unwind a bit, and that you will listen to her during dinner. But make sure that after she does give you a bit of time to unwind, you really listen to her, and not just let your eyes glaze over. If you get into a good routine, soon you will both be enjoying these conversations.

Dr. Max Vogt

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