Most married people say they value marriage.

But they don't act like it.

They throw their spouse under the bus every day.

They don't really defend their spouse against all comers.

They aren't loyal.

If you really believe in marriage, in your marriage, it's time to awaken from your slumbers…

and go on an all out crusade.

The reason you are stuck is because you aren't really committed.

You won't go all out for your marriage.

If and only if you are ready to go all out for your marriage….

to go on a crusade for what's right and holy and good…

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"Live well, do well and be well"

-Dr. Max

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A woman named Tia wrote me from a small town in Ecuador

"Dr. Max, help.  We've been married a year.  My husband has moved back in with his mother.  His mother never liked me.  She told him she would commit suicide if he didn't move back in with her."

Tia had yelled, cajoled, begged.  Nothing changed.

Her husband was under an unbreakable spell.

A very convenient one.

He didn't want to grow up and his mother had given him a perfect excuse.

This is obvious…

What's not so obvious in more "urban, sophisticated" situations like yours is that the same thing is happening.

It may be you who is going back to mother, falling under the spell, or it may be your spouse.

You might be male or female.  It doesn't matter.

Men get accused of being "boys" but just as many women are "girls."

A lot of people don't want to grow up.

They want excuses to stay a child.

Look around you and you'll see it's true.

Or look in the mirror.

And before you go calling your spouse a child, remember:

A perfect example of being a child is calling someone else a child.

Adults make choice, they don't around and say "if only…"

"If only things were different."

That's what children think. 

Adults think, "how can I make a change?"

"What can I do to change this situation?"

It involves choices, and then developing skills and courage.

I told Tia she had three choices

1. Wait for her husband to grow up.
2. Go find a man.
3. Live without a man and find her own way.

You have another choice.

That's fortunate for you because you're not in Tia's situation.

That choice is "invite both you and your spouse to grow up."

How?

You have to learn how to communicate.

Communication is the essence of being an adult.

The right kind of communication, that is.

It's a matter of skill and practice.

The right kind of skill and practice.

If you are ready to grow up and communicate, I made this for you

Click here for Communication Secrets

http://www.NowYouCanCommunicate.com

-Dr. Max

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Well this is a provocative book

Warren Farrell's "Father and Child Reunion"

If you are prepared to have your eyes opened to things you never suspected ("dads are better at teaching their children empathy") and much more you might never imagine to be true about fathers in relationship to their children, I recommend the read.

Based on 13 years of research, not just opinion.

You might end up throwing the book across the room, but you'll go back and pick it up again if only to find more things to argue with.

Just don't throw the book at me!  I didn't write it! 

-Dr. Max

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Jamie Jungers won the Tiger Woods Mistress Beauty Pageant on the "Howard Stern Show" this morning. The winning alleged mistress earned $75,000 for her championship performance, and listeners were treated to juicy tidbits from Jungers, Jaimee Grubbs and Loredana Jolie.

As usual our culture celebrates the worst among us

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"When the pressures and demands of the world around you seem unmanageable and far too heavy, it's a blessing to have a great marriage" – Dr. Max www.CouplesCoach.com

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