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July 27, 2010

Accept the things to which fate binds you…


Accept the things to which fate binds you, and love the people with whom fate brings you together, but do so with all your heart.
– Marcus Aurelius

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How to love the people with whom fate brings you together…Click here

- Dr. Max

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April 24, 2010

Stop fooling yourself in your marriage… Stop the lies


9 times out of 10 people who come in for marriage counseling are lying.

They aren’t really there for change – not really.

9 times out of 10 they are there only for one of these reasons:

To prove to a professional how crazy their partner is…

To get assistance in making their apouse do what they have already decided is the answe to the problems…

Because their partner blackmailed them and made them come to counseling…

To put on a show of cooperation before they drop the hammer and leave…

If you assume you can identify in each case which applies to women and which to men, think again – you are wrong.

This is “equal opportunity bullshit”

Ready to cut through it all?

The couples coach accept no b.s. And you can’t hide.

Go to the no b.s. Zone http:www.couplescoach.com

– Dr. Max
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March 27, 2010

Are you faithful or unfaithful?


Most people think of "faithfulness" in marriage as sexual faithfulness.

Granted, an affair can be devastating to a marriage.

But there are other forms of unfaithfulness you may not be considering.

Over time they can be just as destructive on a marriage.

An affair is like a sledgehammer, but lots of seemingly minor disloyalties can do just as much damage.

Like a Chinese Water Torture things can erode.

Let me mention one here, which is talking to your friends about your relationship.

Now you'd think that might be healthy.

It isn't.

I know, you think it helps.

It doesn't.

The problem is that your friend supports your way of thinking.

You train your friends.

Meantime you are talking behind your spouse's back.

That's bad.

And the reason you do it is because you think you can't communicate with your spouse.

You're right, you can't.

It's better to learn how to communicate and stop being unfaithful to your spouse by talking behind his or her back.

That's why I made this

For you

http://www.NowYouCanCommunicate.com

"Live Well, Do Well and Be Well

Dr. Max

(that's my new salutation I learned from an old dude I sat next to yesterday outside the fitting rooms while our wives were in trying on clothes… he was a very wise and seasoned old guy of probably 88 years old)

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March 16, 2010

She’s a woman, he’s a boy


A woman named Tia wrote me from a small town in Ecuador

"Dr. Max, help.  We've been married a year.  My husband has moved back in with his mother.  His mother never liked me.  She told him she would commit suicide if he didn't move back in with her."

Tia had yelled, cajoled, begged.  Nothing changed.

Her husband was under an unbreakable spell.

A very convenient one.

He didn't want to grow up and his mother had given him a perfect excuse.

This is obvious…

What's not so obvious in more "urban, sophisticated" situations like yours is that the same thing is happening.

It may be you who is going back to mother, falling under the spell, or it may be your spouse.

You might be male or female.  It doesn't matter.

Men get accused of being "boys" but just as many women are "girls."

A lot of people don't want to grow up.

They want excuses to stay a child.

Look around you and you'll see it's true.

Or look in the mirror.

And before you go calling your spouse a child, remember:

A perfect example of being a child is calling someone else a child.

Adults make choice, they don't around and say "if only…"

"If only things were different."

That's what children think. 

Adults think, "how can I make a change?"

"What can I do to change this situation?"

It involves choices, and then developing skills and courage.

I told Tia she had three choices

1. Wait for her husband to grow up.
2. Go find a man.
3. Live without a man and find her own way.

You have another choice.

That's fortunate for you because you're not in Tia's situation.

That choice is "invite both you and your spouse to grow up."

How?

You have to learn how to communicate.

Communication is the essence of being an adult.

The right kind of communication, that is.

It's a matter of skill and practice.

The right kind of skill and practice.

If you are ready to grow up and communicate, I made this for you

Click here for Communication Secrets

http://www.NowYouCanCommunicate.com

-Dr. Max

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March 12, 2010

Free Video explains marriage counseling


I don't want you to buy anything when you go here, I'm just very happy to lay to rest some of the strange notions people have about marriage counseling, therapy and relationship advice. 

I've been trying to figure out exactly how to say this for a while now and feel I've explained it as I wanted to, finally.

Please go here to see the video and give me comments

Free Video Explains Marriage Counseling

Dr. Max

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February 27, 2010

How to Win the Lottery (Personal)


Have you ever said, “if I only would win the lottery, my problems would be solved”?

We all have, haven’t we?

Well I’d be lying to you if I claimed to have a method to win the actual lottery.

Plus the statistics show that people who do win the lottery are almost all deeply unhappy and

broker after a short period of time… often like 18 months.

Let’s get real.

I have something for you even better.

How about an endlessly happy relationship?

How about a great marriage?

For the rest of your life… sound good?

Well, there’s a way to win that lottery.

How can you get in?

Learn how to communicate.

If you can’t communicate, you’ll never win the relationship lottery.

If you can, winning the relationship lottery is pretty easy.

You only need 12 secret relationship communication techniques.

Here’s the relationship lottery ticket:

Click here for your ticket

To Your Great Relationship,
Dr. Max Vogt

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February 26, 2010

Are You Hypnotized?


Almost everyone walks around in a trance.

Look around.

See those vacant stares in the Walmart stores?

They park right in the middle of the aile.

People walking around in an daze, oblivious.

It’s the same thing in relationships.

People walking around like zombies.

Reacting to everything.

People have been hypnotized into beliefs about relationships.

Here’s a typical one.

If your parents got divorced, fought a lot, didn’t communicate, you are doomed to repeat a poor relationship.

That’s a load of donkey dump.

If you were abused by your parents, you are likely to abuse your own childen.

More donkey dump.

The only thing that determines whether you end up with a great relationship or great marriage is your mindset and your beliefs.

And after that, whether you can communicate.

You must be able to communicate the right way to have a great relationship.

I had a client I’ll call Carly.

She had been terribly abused by her parents.

Her parents had a horrible, screaming, nasty relationship.

Now she had a terrible relationship.

She was worried she was going to abuse her daughter.

Another therapist told her she was doomed to these things.

She was in a trance.

The trance was produced by the other therapist.

The other therapist poured donkey dump into Carly’s head.

Carly and I had two sessions.

On the first one I shocked her by telling her that her head was full of donkey dump and there was no reason she needed to worry about repeating her “past.”

She had to go home and think about it,

On the next session, she came and said she now felt free to have a great parenting and marriage relationship.

And her husband was relieved to hear this.

Then I told her that she didn’t need any more sessions.

All she needed was this and she didn’t need any more expensive therapy sessions.

This is the answer

http://www.NowYouCanCommunicate.com

To your great relationship,
Dr. Max

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February 25, 2010

Are your relationship beliefs reality? (Excuses, excuses, excuses)


Most people are unaware they walk around with a whole system of beliefs about relationships.

But wait, answer these questions:

Is there one person in the world truly just right for you (a soul mate)?

Is the original passion you felt when you got together bound to fade over time?

Do you have to compromise in marriage to stay married?

Are women better at communicating their feelings than men?

See, you have answers to all these questions, don’t you?

That shows you have a belief system about marriage.

Here’s the problem.

You are surrounded with negative messages about relationships and marriage day in day out.

You are surrounded with confusing and just plain wrong messages about relationships and marriage day in day out.

Television shows, movies, commentators, music, advertising…

It’s entertaining, but it appeals to the lowest common denominator.

See people would rather think that things are too hard and that’s why they are failing.

If you think well there really aren’t any great marriages anyway, I’ve never seen any, then you are let off the hook.

Then the fact that your relationship is boring or a living hell just seems “normal.”

Then you feel well this is just the way it goes.

Then you have an excuse for either getting out or not working on your marriage.

There’s a better way.

Here’s the secret.

There is such a thing as a happy, passionate, powerful and positive marriage.

You don’t have to sit around and wait for someone to show up on a white horse.

It’s much easier than you think. Click here to find out.

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April 9, 2009

I need marriage counseling. How much is it?


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Don H asked:


I just posted a thread and majority of the people advise that I need marriage counseling. For those of you that have gone to marriage counseling, how much does it generally cost? Is there anything as free counseling?
Any recommendation for one in Houston, TX. Or a good website? I’m new to this. Thank you.

It’s very easy to make money

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January 18, 2009

Stubborn Spouse!


Is your spouse “stubborn?”

Whenever there is something tough to talk about, or you have a legitimate problem to talk about, does he (I’ll use “he” for simplicity here) just

- fold his arms, or
- look away, or
- get that “out of here” look on is face, or
- walk out of the room, or
- “explain away everything, or
- turn it right back on you, or or or …

People can get creative about this

Of course we know this is an absolute roadblock to going any further.

It’s like you are driving on a road going somewhere you really need to be and you see a sign that says “bridge out ahead.”

It’s like you are driving on a road going somewhere you need to be and there’s a rockslide or a mudslide which stops all traffic…

It’s, well, frustrating as hell!

Listen.

There are answers.

There are ways around this “roadblock.”

I’ll be talking about some of those ways soon.

For right now I just wanted to say “I get it.”

I know you and I know what you are going through…

To your great relationship future,
Dr. Max

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