March 24, 2010
People with great marriages think differently than you do
Every young married couple starts out thinking they will be different.
They'll be truthful, they'll never lose their passion for each other…
They'll raise their children better, they'll always fight fair.
But every single one of us has something going against us.
Our culture, while demanding that people "get married and be happy" gives every one of us negative messages about marriage.
You expect that sooner or later you have to compromise.
You expect that "the honeymoon" is "soon over."
You expect that "passion will die."
You expect that women will see men as "boys."
You expect that men will see women as "emotional" and "hysterical."
The deck is stacked against you.
Most individuals and most couples fall prey to the "cultural messages."
People in great marriages are different.
They talk to each other differently.
They don't fall for the "standard bullshit" most people do about relationships and marriage.
They have a set of skills you don't have.
They know the secrets of communication.
If you want a great marriage, you'll learn those skills too.
You'll clear the bullshit out of your head and learn to communicate powerfully and intimately.
I made this for you so you can have a great marriage:
http://www.NowYouCanCommunicate.com
Go there and start thinking differently, escape the herd.
-Dr. Max
Posted via email from Marriage Counseling, Save Your Marriage, Stop Your Divorce
February 23, 2010
An Open Letter to Those Who Feel a Great Marriage Is Not That Important
A lot of people think they can "slide" on their marriage.
They think that problems will just "eventually go away" or "after the kids are gone things will be better" or "If it gets too bad, I'll just leave and meet someone new."
Here's a dose of reality.
None of that is going to happen.
It's not going to get better "later."
You may leave the marriage and find someone new, but it's going to be the same situation with them.
The problems – and the solutions – are right there at home.
They are literally staring back at you in the mirror.
You think that your partner is the problem.
Wrong. You are the problem.
Now you may think I'm wrong, but I'm not.
The problem is that you can't communicate.
So now it's time to decide whether to get your communication skills in order or…
Die unhappy and unsatisfied when you come to the end of your life.
Do you think things are tough now?
Then try getting old with no one there to comfort you.
Or feeling like no one truly understands you or cares for you.
Try living the single life.
Look, it's time to choose. Improve your marriage or die alone.
There's really only one way to improve your relationship and that is to learn how to communicate the right way.
Anyone who says "well marriage just isn't that important to me…" - now you know what that means. They have given up.
Anyone who makes a sick joke about marriage is headed for absolute solitude and a sad ending.
People in great relationships get it. They get the rewards, and they know how sacred it is.
If you want to get it, you have to see how important marriage is and put in an effort to communicate.
Time slips by.
You have maybe one more chance, now take it.
http://www.NowYouCanCommunicate.com
Don't fall into the trap of thinking that marriage is not that important.
Just think how relieved you will feel when you see your relationship improve… because you know how to communicate better.
Ahhhhh, so much better.
That's why I created this for you
And I want you to take it for a test drive by clicking here:
http://www.NowYouCanCommunicate.com
- Dr. Max
Posted via email from Marriage Counseling, Save Your Marriage, Stop Your Divorce
