March 24, 2010
People with great marriages think differently than you do
Every young married couple starts out thinking they will be different.
They'll be truthful, they'll never lose their passion for each other…
They'll raise their children better, they'll always fight fair.
But every single one of us has something going against us.
Our culture, while demanding that people "get married and be happy" gives every one of us negative messages about marriage.
You expect that sooner or later you have to compromise.
You expect that "the honeymoon" is "soon over."
You expect that "passion will die."
You expect that women will see men as "boys."
You expect that men will see women as "emotional" and "hysterical."
The deck is stacked against you.
Most individuals and most couples fall prey to the "cultural messages."
People in great marriages are different.
They talk to each other differently.
They don't fall for the "standard bullshit" most people do about relationships and marriage.
They have a set of skills you don't have.
They know the secrets of communication.
If you want a great marriage, you'll learn those skills too.
You'll clear the bullshit out of your head and learn to communicate powerfully and intimately.
I made this for you so you can have a great marriage:
http://www.NowYouCanCommunicate.com
Go there and start thinking differently, escape the herd.
-Dr. Max
Posted via email from Marriage Counseling, Save Your Marriage, Stop Your Divorce
February 25, 2010
Are your relationship beliefs reality? (Excuses, excuses, excuses)
Most people are unaware they walk around with a whole system of beliefs about relationships.
But wait, answer these questions:
Is there one person in the world truly just right for you (a soul mate)?
Is the original passion you felt when you got together bound to fade over time?
Do you have to compromise in marriage to stay married?
Are women better at communicating their feelings than men?
See, you have answers to all these questions, don’t you?
That shows you have a belief system about marriage.
Here’s the problem.
You are surrounded with negative messages about relationships and marriage day in day out.
You are surrounded with confusing and just plain wrong messages about relationships and marriage day in day out.
Television shows, movies, commentators, music, advertising…
It’s entertaining, but it appeals to the lowest common denominator.
See people would rather think that things are too hard and that’s why they are failing.
If you think well there really aren’t any great marriages anyway, I’ve never seen any, then you are let off the hook.
Then the fact that your relationship is boring or a living hell just seems “normal.”
Then you feel well this is just the way it goes.
Then you have an excuse for either getting out or not working on your marriage.
There’s a better way.
Here’s the secret.
There is such a thing as a happy, passionate, powerful and positive marriage.
You don’t have to sit around and wait for someone to show up on a white horse.
It’s much easier than you think. Click here to find out.
