Marriage Counseling News: Bringing You All the Best Marriage Counseling and Relationship Advice » Mindset http://www.marriagecounselingcafe.com Marriage Counseling Approaches to Enhance Your Marriage | Different Approaches of Marriage Counseling Save Your Marriage and Lead to a Very Satisfying Relationship Tue, 07 Feb 2012 03:30:02 +0000 en hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.2.1 Love stinks! http://www.marriagecounselingcafe.com/2011/04/26/love-stinks/ http://www.marriagecounselingcafe.com/2011/04/26/love-stinks/#comments Tue, 26 Apr 2011 16:12:20 +0000 Dr. Max Vogt http://www.marriagecounselingcafe.com/2011/04/26/love-stinks/

The J Geils Band sang in their hit song from 1980

LOVE STINKS
J. Geils Band

You love her 
But she loves him
And he loves somebody else
You just can't win 
And so it goes
Till the day you die

Now isn't that a lovely vision of love?

How does it end up this way for so many people?

Let me advance three possibilities.

1. People are horrible and faithless.

2. The guy singing this song is just a loser.

3. These people are walking around in a trance.

I can't accept #1.  There are lots of people who are wonderful and faithful.

Number 2 is not quite right, although there's an element of possible truth in it,

If he had a better, clearer mindset about relationships he'd probably find someone better.

Number 3 is dead on.

99% of all problems in relationships come about because people are in a trance.

This is a trance deliberately created by movies, television, books and magazines.

The more you stay in that trance, the more garbage they can produce that convinces you even further that "love stinks" (although you long for it).

There's only one way out of that trance, and that is to know the truth.

I swear to tell you the whole truth and nothing but the truth about relationships.

Let's start here

- Dr. Max

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Dr. Max Vogt

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The main reason you don't solve "marriage problems" is because you focus on problems.
 
Let me head you off.
 
The answer's not what you think.
 
Some people say you should foc us on "solutions" instead.
 
Not really.

That is still focusing on "problems." 

Even if you're trying to "solve" them.

The Science of Happy Marriage states that problems beget problems.

When you focus on anything, that's what you tend to see.

When you buy a blue car, you notice there are a lot of them around.

When you buy a new pair of shoes, all of a sudden everyone's wearing them.

It's just because you noticed.

When you focus on anything you tend to block other things out.

Energy flows where the attention goes.

There is a much better way to be happy in your marriage.

It's called the Prescribed Way.

It gets you out of the "problems" mindset and moves you quickly to happiness in marriage.

It's brand new.

I took all my other 12 programs down because THIS is the answer to marriage happiness.

There's nothing else like it.

Go here

The sooner you change direction, the sooner you'll find the real answers.

To your great relationship future,

Dr. Max

 

 

Dr. Max Vogt

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Almost everyone walks around in a trance.

Look around.

See those vacant stares in the Walmart stores?

They park right in the middle of the aile.

People walking around in an daze, oblivious.

It’s the same thing in relationships.

People walking around like zombies.

Reacting to everything.

People have been hypnotized into beliefs about relationships.

Here’s a typical one.

If your parents got divorced, fought a lot, didn’t communicate, you are doomed to repeat a poor relationship.

That’s a load of donkey dump.

If you were abused by your parents, you are likely to abuse your own childen.

More donkey dump.

The only thing that determines whether you end up with a great relationship or great marriage is your mindset and your beliefs.

And after that, whether you can communicate.

You must be able to communicate the right way to have a great relationship.

I had a client I’ll call Carly.

She had been terribly abused by her parents.

Her parents had a horrible, screaming, nasty relationship.

Now she had a terrible relationship.

She was worried she was going to abuse her daughter.

Another therapist told her she was doomed to these things.

She was in a trance.

The trance was produced by the other therapist.

The other therapist poured donkey dump into Carly’s head.

Carly and I had two sessions.

On the first one I shocked her by telling her that her head was full of donkey dump and there was no reason she needed to worry about repeating her “past.”

She had to go home and think about it,

On the next session, she came and said she now felt free to have a great parenting and marriage relationship.

And her husband was relieved to hear this.

Then I told her that she didn’t need any more sessions.

All she needed was this and she didn’t need any more expensive therapy sessions.

This is the answer

http://www.NowYouCanCommunicate.com

To your great relationship,
Dr. Max

Dr. Max Vogt

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