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March 6, 2010

Fix Your Marriage by Doing Nothing


It may sound shocking, but sometimes the best thing to do to help your marriage is to do nothing.

Let me explain

This one comes from both personal experience and years in the trenches as a marriage counselor

More on that in a second

If you've been watching my videos or using any of my relationship products on couplescoach.com or have attended a seminar of mine, you know I m always showing couples specific simple techniques…

I'm a big believer in simple steps to success in relationships!

And the research shows conclusively that people learn best with simple understandable steps

But sometimes you have to throw the steps out the window

I love my wife and we have a great time together

We spend more time together than almost any couple I've ever met who wasn't retired and get along better than any other couple either of us knows.

We work together, we play together, we eat meals together, we are together constantly, even though we might be working in different parts of the house

Most people – even when they love each other – would probably go nuts spending this much time together

Especially if they were married to me :-)

I've got a lot of intensity and really like to move forward in everything I do.

Unfortunately some of that has spilled over into my relationship and I forget something

I forget how intense I am and then look into my wife's eyes glazing over and realize I need to shut up and relax

There's a time for pushing and a time for taking a break

Always pushing, always working on things is not always the best way to make changes

Sometimes the best thing you can do is

just

relax

relax

take it easy

This is one of the best things you can do… just let things go for a little while and take it easy

I forget what I learned in weight lifting early on in life

The maximum benefit of lifting weights doesn't happen when you are doing the actual lifting

It comes during the resting after

In relationships it's the same thing

I know things can be tough and it feels like the best thing to do is take some action

You just want to do something to make your relationship better

You want to try something

You feel you have to try something

Things just HAVE to get better

But this means your mind is nervous and jumpy like a monkey

You are focused on the things that are wrong and it can get to feel crazy

Totally crazy inside

This just feeds the monkey and he jumps around even more

Sometimes just stop and try this

Just step away from all those problems

Take a break from them

Just let your mind and heart take a break from problems

Take a deep breath

Let your mind and heart settle down

Many times problems will calm down when you stop pouring gasoline on them

You'll find that if you stop focusing on the problems sometimes you'll see the good things going on.

Then you can build on the good things, but take it easy

I totally understand that it can feel like "if this doesn't get settled today, then…." 

Well what?

Many times if you just take a break and consciously decide to "take it easy" you'll get more positive and more creative.

Positive creativity is enhanced by relaxation.

Brain research shows that a nap enhances your brain and it works better.

You can't think about good solutions when the monkey is jumping around.

Give the monkey a day off

Then tomorrow go here

http://www.CouplesCoach.com

And I'll give you some easy, powerful positive things to do.

Relax and then re-focus on positive solutions tomorrow.

I'm not problem focused, I'm relationship solution focused and relationship happiness focused. 

I'm the crusader for happy marriages.

Take the day off and then tomorrow go get some positive answers

I made this for you

http://www.CouplesCoach.com

Dr. Max

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February 16, 2010

Marriage Communication: Jenna Hates Chick Flicks (for now)


http://www.NowYouCanCommunicate.com “Free Video Reveals the #1 Secret for Solving Marriage Communication Problems in Only Five Minutes” http://www.nowyoucancommunicate.com now More on Marriage Communication: Jenna Hates Chick Flicks (for now)

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March 19, 2009

How to Make Money An Easy Way


Dr. Max Vogt
From Dr. Max Vogt
America’s Best Marriage Counselor
www.EasyMarriageCounseling.com

Now you know if you read my blog or get my email messages that I write almost exclusively about relationship issues.

99.9% of my messages to you are my heartfelt and very sincere attempt to help out in your marriage or that of someone you love.

I hear from people all the time that my emails have helped them in their marriage, or that they have passed them on to a loved one (daughter or son or friend) to help them in their marriage.

That truly touches me because it’s been my life’s work to help people have great marriages, in my opinion one of the greatest experiences we can have in this lifetime (yet great marriages are alarmingly rare).

AND you also know that one of the biggest contributors to relationship unhappiness is… financial! More fights are about finances than all other areas of marriage put together.

And outside of infidelity or falling out of love and trying to get it back, the next most common thing I’m asked about is how to handle financial discussions and really solve them. In many cases the answer could simply be making a little more money a month. What is the expression? More month than money?

The curious thing is that in lots of marriages it’s not a matter of them being flat broke or anything, it’s a matter of only a few hundred dollars a month that separate them from being relaxed in their daily life financially… and which can make the difference between having a home and losing it.

Another thing you may NOT know is that there are people who are still making exceptional incomes through internet businesses… people whose incomes have not diminished one bit during this time, and who are thriving.

Becoming wealthy through online business is not a myth as some think either. Being a somewhat well known person on the internet, I can vouch for the fact that quite a few of my friends are making very large ongoing incomes through their internet businesses.

Now what does that have to do with you?

A lot, but only if you have interest in increasing your income and stopping the conflict around your house (again, IF you have any! and most of us do) about paying the bills, having any money left over for fun, sending kids to college and other things.

Now here’s the problem, and I know this problem intimately, from first hand blood, sweat and tears. The internet marketing experts make it sound like it’s easy to do internet business and become wealthy in your spare time with no prior knowledge and no understanding of internet business at all.

Well that’s just bullshit, or at least I thought it was up until now. You see I’ve poured a ton of my own personal time, energy and money into becoming a success online and I promise you that as smart and experienced as I am – and despite the success I’m experiencing now, if I knew then what I know now, I never would have started the process. That’s just the honest truth.

I could have made more money with less effort doing other things, and until I began being successful I constantly wondered if I had made the right choice to dedicate so my of myself to internet business.

It’s just too time consuming, too hard and there are way too many things you have to know to become a successful internet entrepreneur. Also, spending as much time as I have on the computer (I won’t even say how many hours a day) is hard on the body and even on the soul. It can be truly soulless, grinding and difficult.

I’ve done a lot of difficult things in my life, but getting an internet business to a successful level is without a doubt the hardest.

And yet the prize… the prize is passive residual income. The kind of income where you make money 24 hours a day 7 days a week no matter what you are doing. That’s of course why we go through all this learning curve.

That of course is the real draw, the promise, the reward. And that’s what I’d like you to have.

But I don’t want you to go through all the years of education, the frustration, the sedentary lifestyle, the sleep deprivation, the money suck of paying internet marketing experts only to find that they are just rehashing all the old things that “used to work” and repackaging it to you now that they have moved on to doing other things.

So you see my dilemma? I want you to be able to have the rewards of internet business but without the terrible draining punishment, losses and frustrations.

So I’ve kept my eyes out for quite a while for something which would have the benefits of everything I know about internet business but with none or very few of the drawbacks, something I thought I could recommend to you.

A good friend of mine showed me something which I think very well may be the answer – something with all the benefits but few drawbacks.

In fact it is free to join, and in fact I was one of the very first people to join up.

I am telling you about this because it is fresh, a brand new perspective, and to my trained eye it looks like it will be an effective and super simple way to make very good residual income. It doesn’t involve selling soap or herbs, so don’t worry.

It only involves giving people access to excellent information they are looking for already and want eagerly to know about.

Please take a few minutes to click this link and watch this video and see this page.
It may not be of any interest to you but then again it might be an answer to your financial prayers. I hope this helps you and I believe it will.

As always I say,

To your great relationship future,
Dr. Max Vogt

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August 30, 2006

Can I be a “Marriage Consultant” in PA?


lorddragon724 asked:


Can I be a “Marriage Consultant” in PA or would I have to be licensed under the counseling laws? I know you can’t say you’re a “licensed marriage counselor” unless you have a masters degree and take the board exam, but could I give advise (and get paid for it) to couples if I called myself a consultant instead?

Create a video blog…instantly.

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