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How to stay strong in your marriage when life gets a little crazy

Dr. Max Vogt — Sat, 29 Jan 2011 16:27:13 +0000

Wedding vows ask you if you will hang in there when it gets tough.

Everyone says yes.

Of course no one on their wedding day imagines what's coming.

Half the ones at the altar this very day will be divorced in 10 years.

And 80% of the other half will be moderately to supremely unhappy.

And half of the rest of them are either oblivious, addicted or don't care.

And only about 1/10th of the remaining number are happy.

Totally, totally unnecessary when all everyone needs is the Science of Happy Marriage.

Divorce is bad but marital unhappiness is no picnic either.

And don't think your kids think you're happy when you're not.

"We can't divorce, we can't do that to the kids."

But is it OK to inflict a lifetime of your marital unhappiness on them?

What kind of model is that?

"But kids, we stayed together for your sake."

"Thanks a lot mom, that really gave me a wonderful vision of marriage and adulthood."

Now all that is kind of harsh, I know, but here's the solution.

Give yourself a REAL chance to stay together and be happy.

It isn't hard, but you have to change your direction.

Stop.

Take a turn.

Go a new way.

Go the way thousands of others are going… toward happy marriage.

There is a science of happy marriage and it is an exact science.

Here are the details

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To your great relationship future,

Dr. Max

Dr. Max Vogt

Have to stand on your head to get noticed by your partner?

Dr. Max Vogt — Thu, 27 Jan 2011 23:19:58 +0000

Sometimes it seems like your partner hardly notices you.

After all you've done for him.

After the ways you've been there for him, done things for him.

The ways you've gone out of your way to be available.

The way you always think of the little things that make life run smoothly.

The tasks and chores you do that no one notices.

The birthdays and anniversaries and other holidays only you seem to remember.

The connections with relatives you maintain.

The family you hold together with love and caring.

Couldn't he just occasionally show you some true appreciation?

You don't ask much, just a little consideration now and then.

When he does show warmth, it always turns to sex.

Couldn't he just have a nice warm conversation, you hold each other?

Is he deaf, dumb and blind when it comes to relationship?

If these are the ways you feel, you are not alone.

However, all of the ways you've ever thought of to "make things different" will fail.

It's not your fault.

But you are on the wrong path.

And no one else will set you on the right one.

All of the things MOST people – incuding counselors, pastors and advice givers – have ever thought of will fail.

It's not their fault either.

They haven't heard this presentation yet.

Once they do they'll know it's time for a course correction.

You'll get it.

Things can be brand new in your marriage.

Not doing the things you've always done and been taught to do, but doing things a new way.

The Science of Happy Marriage Way.

To your great relationship future,

Dr. Max

P.S. No one else is talking about this yet. Why not? They don't know about it.

Soon everyone will, but you heard it here first.

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Are you intimate in your marriage? (the videl)

Dr. Max Vogt — Thu, 27 Jan 2011 05:28:47 +0000

Intimacy is not what you think:

To your great relationship future,

Dr. Max

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Can you heal old marriage wounds?

Dr. Max Vogt — Wed, 26 Jan 2011 23:17:46 +0000

Most long term marriages carry scars.

At one time or another over the years, somebody felt betrayed.

It just happens.

It can be the result of affairs.

It might because of disagreements.

It might be because of money losses, parenting differences, in-law troubles.

And it might be because you feel your partner isn't who they claimed to be.

You may feel let down, disappointed.

Can you heal those old wounds?

The answer is NO.

You cannot heal them.

Your partner cannot heal them.

Something greater than you is needed.

There is something beyond what we usually call "forgiveness."

Something much deeper.

Something much better than "healing old wounds."

Something which heals far more deeply.

I'll tell you about it in this presentation

To your great relationship future,

Dr. Max

P.S. Dramatic breakthroughs happen. I hear about them every day.

Some call them miracles. I call it good science:

Dr. Max Vogt

Intimacy in marriage (not what you think)

Dr. Max Vogt — Tue, 25 Jan 2011 14:57:34 +0000

Almost everyone is confused about the meaning of the word "intimacy."

And that confusion causes a lot of unnecessary suffering in marriage.

Everyone gets a little part of what it is, but few get the whole picture.

Yes, it includes sex.

But that's not all of it.

Yes, it includes feeling close and warmly toward another person.

But that's not all of it.

Yes, it includes communicating openly and truthfully with one another.

But that's not all of it.

None of these are even most important part of intimacy.

Intimacy really begins in your own heart and soul.

These other things are behaviors.

It begins with your own courage to be who you truly are.

It begins with the courage of revealing your true self to your partner.

And then incredible magic begins to happen.

Irresistible things begin to happen.

You stop getting hung up in "problems."

Things you used to consider "problems" now just don't bother you anymore.

Because you are enjoying your life together in a whole new way.

You'll discover what true intimacy is.

It's not some shallow "Cosmo" tips about relationship.

It's way beyond Dr. Phil.

It's what runs the happiest marriages on earth.

You can do it too.

It all begins here

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To your great relationship future,

Dr. Max

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Your partner needs an attitude adjustment

Dr. Max Vogt — Fri, 21 Jan 2011 14:45:07 +0000

Your partner needs an attitude adjustment

If only your partner would have a little better attitude.

If only he (she) would do things just a little differrently.

If only he (she) would express more appreciation.

If only he (she) would be more fair and considerate.

If only he (she) would be more physically affectionate.

Sure seems like things would be different then, doesn't it?

Well, I've got bad news for you.

It's you. You need an attitude adjustment.

The way you're framing what would "work" is wrong.

What you think would improve things won't.

Almost everyone has this wrong.

Even marriage counselors get mixed up in this misguided idea.

Marriage counselors, relationship advice givers, "would be" psychologists alert:

YOU need an attitude adjustment.

There's a better way to be happy in marriage.

It's a new way.

When I discovered this, I took all 12 of my programs offline.

You can't buy them anymore.

I took my books off the bookshelves of the stores.

Even I had it wrong before.

After 30 years of hard work I finally discovered the Formula.

The Science of Happy Marriage is the new way.

It's the only way, you can throw everything else out.

It's what works permanently and works for everyone, no matter who you are.

Here's where I show you the answer:

To your great relationship future,

Dr. Max

P.S. You can see this presentation now and get on the path,

or you can wait until your marriage is even worse off.

It's up to you

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Dr. Max Vogt

Stop trying to “fix” your marriage

Dr. Max Vogt — Thu, 20 Jan 2011 14:49:14 +0000

Marriage counselors and relationship advice givers are good people.

I've known quite a few of them over the years of my practice.

They are well-meaning and sometimes their advice can help… temporarily.

But almost without exception they are caught in the same trap you are.

They are trying to help you "solve problems."

Like there was something "mechanical" wrong with you that could be fixed.

You tell them there's this or that problem and they try to help you get a solution:

"We just can't communicate anymore."

"He never tells me his feelings."

"She doesn't want sex."

And then the counselor goes to work to try to help you fix it.

I've got bad news for you.

When you focus on a problem you make things worse.

The counselor gets your husband to speak up about his feelings.

You feel better.

You think this is progress.

He feels worse, and now he feels resentful and trapped.

I can give you examples until the cows come home, but they all turn out the same.

You try to fix one problem, ten come up.

There's a better way.

It's called the Science of Happy Marriage

You can learn about it here in this presentation.

To your great relationship future,

Dr. Max

P.S. People all over the world are discovering a completely new and differrent way.

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Dr. Max Vogt

Are you still focusing on problems in your marriage?

Dr. Max Vogt — Wed, 19 Jan 2011 15:04:45 +0000

The main reason you don't solve "marriage problems" is because you focus on problems.

Let me head you off.

The answer's not what you think.

Some people say you should foc us on "solutions" instead.

Not really.

That is still focusing on "problems."

Even if you're trying to "solve" them.

The Science of Happy Marriage states that problems beget problems.

When you focus on anything, that's what you tend to see.

When you buy a blue car, you notice there are a lot of them around.

When you buy a new pair of shoes, all of a sudden everyone's wearing them.

It's just because you noticed.

When you focus on anything you tend to block other things out.

Energy flows where the attention goes.

There is a much better way to be happy in your marriage.

It's called the Prescribed Way.

It gets you out of the "problems" mindset and moves you quickly to happiness in marriage.

It's brand new.

I took all my other 12 programs down because THIS is the answer to marriage happiness.

There's nothing else like it.

Go here

The sooner you change direction, the sooner you'll find the real answers.

To your great relationship future,

Dr. Max

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Dr. Max Vogt — Wed, 19 Jan 2011 00:13:02 +0000

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