Have you ever said, “if I only would win the lottery, my problems would be solved”?

We all have, haven’t we?

Well I’d be lying to you if I claimed to have a method to win the actual lottery.

Plus the statistics show that people who do win the lottery are almost all deeply unhappy and

broker after a short period of time… often like 18 months.

Let’s get real.

I have something for you even better.

How about an endlessly happy relationship?

How about a great marriage?

For the rest of your life… sound good?

Well, there’s a way to win that lottery.

How can you get in?

Learn how to communicate.

If you can’t communicate, you’ll never win the relationship lottery.

If you can, winning the relationship lottery is pretty easy.

You only need 12 secret relationship communication techniques.

Here’s the relationship lottery ticket:

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To Your Great Relationship,
Dr. Max Vogt

Almost everyone walks around in a trance.

Look around.

See those vacant stares in the Walmart stores?

They park right in the middle of the aile.

People walking around in an daze, oblivious.

It’s the same thing in relationships.

People walking around like zombies.

Reacting to everything.

People have been hypnotized into beliefs about relationships.

Here’s a typical one.

If your parents got divorced, fought a lot, didn’t communicate, you are doomed to repeat a poor relationship.

That’s a load of donkey dump.

If you were abused by your parents, you are likely to abuse your own childen.

More donkey dump.

The only thing that determines whether you end up with a great relationship or great marriage is your mindset and your beliefs.

And after that, whether you can communicate.

You must be able to communicate the right way to have a great relationship.

I had a client I’ll call Carly.

She had been terribly abused by her parents.

Her parents had a horrible, screaming, nasty relationship.

Now she had a terrible relationship.

She was worried she was going to abuse her daughter.

Another therapist told her she was doomed to these things.

She was in a trance.

The trance was produced by the other therapist.

The other therapist poured donkey dump into Carly’s head.

Carly and I had two sessions.

On the first one I shocked her by telling her that her head was full of donkey dump and there was no reason she needed to worry about repeating her “past.”

She had to go home and think about it,

On the next session, she came and said she now felt free to have a great parenting and marriage relationship.

And her husband was relieved to hear this.

Then I told her that she didn’t need any more sessions.

All she needed was this and she didn’t need any more expensive therapy sessions.

This is the answer

http://www.NowYouCanCommunicate.com

To your great relationship,
Dr. Max

He’s a hero on the golf course because of his understanding of the need for building skills and practicing… but in marriage it’s a whole different matter. Click here for a complete free video on solving your relationship communication problems:

Missy from Des Moines is worried about people finding out that her husband always lies about their children. She says that he tells their friends blatant lies, for example, inventing college degrees and leaving out their DUIs.

Missy, it is important for you to see where your husband is coming from. In my latest book, I talk about different marriage plans, or marriage blueprints. If he selected his marriage blueprint, he would probably choose the ‘Royal Family’; a type that is very concerned about their view in society and what people think of them. Give your husband a copy of my book, “You Don’t Have to Change Who You Are to Have a Good Marriage”, and read it with him together. The intimacy paradox, which says that a great marriage is possible when you accept your spouse 100% as he is, will be useful for you. Your husband may find the intimacy paradox interesting and also the exercise on how to lower his defenses. Good luck with changing your marriage, without changing yourself!

Everyone wants to have a healthy relationship with that perfect partner. When you have one, you’ll want to maintain it, but one of the mistakes people tend to make is that they forget about the “me” time in their relationship.

It’s not healthy to always be around your partner. You need to spend some “me” time so that you have more to give your partner. This is a common problem with couples – whether they’re still in that newlywed stage of romance or have been together for decades.

Some people spend so much time with their partner that they feel lost and alone when they’re left alone for any period of time. Here are some ways you can nurture yourself so that you’re able to give the best to your lover when it is time to be a couple:

1. Spend an evening reading that book you’ve been waiting to get your hands on. Quiet time at home enjoying a good book without any interruptions can energize you when you meet up with your partner again.
2. Watch a movie that you’ve wanted to see, but your partner wasn’t interested in seeing (like a good chick flick). Don’t deny yourself something you want to do just because your partner doesn’t want to do it.
3. Visit your family. Spending time with your family can help you keep a relationship strong. We often alienate our own family in favor of a new love interest.
4. Go out with your friends. Spending time with your friends allows you to let loose and be yourself without worrying how you’re coming across to the other person. If your partner exhibits jealousy to an extreme level, then you may want to reconsider whether it’s a healthy bond.
5. Play sports or do your favorite hobby. If you’re a golfer and your partner isn’t, there’s no reason you shouldn’t take a day and hit the links. Take in a friendly game with someone or just play a round by yourself. If you like to sew, spend a day doing that. Just because your partner finds it boring, doesn’t mean you can’t do it.
6. Enjoy a bubble bath or whirlpool. Pamper yourself with a bubble bath, hot tub, whirlpool or massage. Make yourself feel good and get energized for the next time you meet up with your partner.
7. Go shopping. You can go shopping and pick up something for yourself. If you choose, you can find something for your partner. Eat out if you want to and splurge on that “Great Wall of Chocolate” you’re always too embarrassed to have your lover see you eating. Spend a day and window shop or go antiquing.
A healthy relationship requires “me” as much as “we” time. Be sure to plan a healthy dose of both in your relationship. And when your partner begins to find his own me time, allow him the freedom to reconnect to his own soul, too.

Ron wrote:

We had been married for a year. We shared the same interests, felt very at ease together, had (often) discussed future plans and had even spent some of the holidays together. Our intimate relationship seemed right on track and just right in general.

Then, without warning, he said he “needs some time to think and figure things out.” He stopped talking. When he did, I was often met with silence. When I asked “what happened”, I just got a run around of excuses about how overwhelmed…

What happened? What did I do? I don’t know what to think.

Does the above scene sound at all familiar? If so, you can relate to being confused and stunned over the sudden change in a their behavior.

Now think about this – What if your intimate relationship wasn’t what you thought it was? What if unspoken issues had existed all along? What if there were signs you chose to ignore or just didn’t see? Are any of these possible?

Probably.

This sudden change in a couple’s intimate relationship is reported quite a bit by individuals who have just broken up with a significant other. Unfortunately, it leaves the person who has been “dumped” with feelings of low self-esteem, regret, inadequacy and anger.

There is often no real closure, as the couple is never able (willing) to talk through what went wrong or was never right with their intimate relationship.

So, how can you know what the problem was and hope to avoid a repeat of this hurtful experience? You can do this by examining your failed intimate relationship and gaining insight and understanding about what just wasn’t right between you.

In order to assist you with this; I am providing a basic framework of the intimate relationship stages a couple must pass through TOGETHER in order to get to a place of shared intimacy and commitment. If either person’s feelings change before, during or after one of these stages; it is not necessarily the “fault” of the other individual. It is simply a statement about the individuals’ rightness (or not) for each other. It is also a reflection of each individual’s intimate relationship readiness and ability to handle long-term, committed intimacy.

How an individual handles their changing feelings and resultant behavior toward the other is a subject for another article, coming soon…

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Sometimes “trying hard” is the worst thing you can do in your relationship. Here are a few of the reasons

1. If you are taking the wrong approach, doing more of it only digs you in deeper.

2. If your partner doesn’t like what you are doing to “try” and can’t get into it, you’ll just piss him or her off more

3. You are likely to generate “defensiveness” in your partner by pushing the “wrong buttons.”

4. The “Same-Old” Marriage Counseling advice and techniques you are flooded with by therapists, counselors, television personalities and book writers don’t work, and if you try to keep hammering at them you’ll make your marriage worse.

Get the truth at Easy Marriage Counseling and stop “trying hard.”

http://www.EasyMarriageCounseling.com More on Sometimes the Worst Relationship Mistake

Here’s the next in my series on great married sex, where I talk about the concept of “one size fits all” sexual techniques…

Here’s the final video in the series on deciding whether to stay together or not