Marriage Counseling News: Bringing You All the Best Marriage Counseling and Relationship Advice » Focus http://www.marriagecounselingcafe.com Marriage Counseling Approaches to Enhance Your Marriage | Different Approaches of Marriage Counseling Save Your Marriage and Lead to a Very Satisfying Relationship Tue, 07 Feb 2012 03:30:02 +0000 en hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.2.1 When Does Infidelity in Marriage Occur? http://www.marriagecounselingcafe.com/2011/05/20/when-does-infidelity-in-marriage-occur/ http://www.marriagecounselingcafe.com/2011/05/20/when-does-infidelity-in-marriage-occur/#comments Fri, 20 May 2011 14:57:07 +0000 Dr. Max Vogt http://www.marriagecounselingcafe.com/?p=1991

When Does Infidelity in Marriage Occur?

When Does Infidelity in Marriage Occur?

With infidelity a focus of media attention these past few days I’m seeing more information surface not only about men and affairs but also women and affairs.  Here are a couple of figures that might surprise you:  80% -  people who become addicted to an online affair, 45-55% – of   married women engage in extramarital sex at some time during their relationship, 90%  – of Americans  believe adultery is morally wrong.

While infidelity can occur at anytime in a relationship, there are certain times when it is more likely to occur than others. In addition, there are certain relationship factors which can dramatically increase the potential for infidelity.

Is it possible for men and women to safe guard their marriages from the betrayal of marriage infidelity?

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I always make this comparison:

Focusing on problems in your marriage is like focusing on individual "diseased" trees within a magnificent healthy forest.

When you get obsessed with a few trees that aren't in great shape, you miss the whole point of the wonder of the forest.

In this case I'm talking about the "forest" of a happy marriage.

To be truly happy in marriage you have to learn to focus on the big picture.

You have to have a true spiritual basis to your marriage.

No, I didn't say a religious one, a spiritual one.

This means seeing the greater meaning and greater beauty.

That's the first step toward a truly hapy marriage.

Stick with the Science.

Learn and practice the Prescribed Way.

This is the best way to continue to see the "big picture" and not get hung up on "problems."

Here's where to start:

- Dr. Max

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The main reason you don't solve "marriage problems" is because you focus on problems.
 
Let me head you off.
 
The answer's not what you think.
 
Some people say you should foc us on "solutions" instead.
 
Not really.

That is still focusing on "problems." 

Even if you're trying to "solve" them.

The Science of Happy Marriage states that problems beget problems.

When you focus on anything, that's what you tend to see.

When you buy a blue car, you notice there are a lot of them around.

When you buy a new pair of shoes, all of a sudden everyone's wearing them.

It's just because you noticed.

When you focus on anything you tend to block other things out.

Energy flows where the attention goes.

There is a much better way to be happy in your marriage.

It's called the Prescribed Way.

It gets you out of the "problems" mindset and moves you quickly to happiness in marriage.

It's brand new.

I took all my other 12 programs down because THIS is the answer to marriage happiness.

There's nothing else like it.

Go here

The sooner you change direction, the sooner you'll find the real answers.

To your great relationship future,

Dr. Max

 

 

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Simplicity is an interesting concept.

Maybe what's meant is clarity and focus on what's really important – being your highest, best self; faith, purpose and gratitude; love.

For some people having lots of stuff is a distraction from that clarity and focus.

For other people not having is a distraction from that clarity and focus.

Having stuff or not having stuff is irrelevant.

Rich people can be mean, hurtful, hateful, invidious, stingy, miserly… but so can poor people. 

Poor people and rich people fight and hate and steal and kill and lie.

Poor people and rich people give, love, help and tell the truth. 

Judging someone by any socioeconomic scale doesn't seem fair.

How do you see this concept of simplicity?  

I'm very curious to hear your thoughts.

– -Dr. Max

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Is Your Marriage in Danger?

Many couples need guidance in identifying the specific problems they can tackle in improving their marriages or relationships.

You might feel that "something is wrong" or something hurts or doesn’t feel right, but you can’t exactly put your finger on it.

It can frequently be helpful to have something like a "danger signs" chart (like used in helping people diagnose cancer or other disorders). This kind of "chart" can help you pinpoint areas of pain or discomfort… and thus help know where to put your focus.

Also, you might wonder whether you should just "ignore it and it will go away…" and could use some help in identifying areas or "danger signs" that are really significant (and shouldn’t just "be ignored").  continued

 



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