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Affirming your marriage or negating your marriage? – marriage advice

Dr. Max Vogt — Tue, 17 May 2011 15:06:47 +0000

"It's the repetition of affirmations that leads to the belief. And once the belief becomes a deep conviction, things begin to happen."

Claude M. Bristol (1891 – 1951) American author of "The Magic of Believing.

The opposite can happen too.

The repetition of negations or negative statements can create just as deep a belief and conviction.

Mentally keep track of the numbers of times per day you think neutral or negative things about your spouse.

"She doesn't really love me" "He's very inconsiderate"

versus

"He really does everything he can for me and the family, he's a champ" or "What a loving person she is"

Count them and you'll see how it turns out.

If you are unhappy there are a lot more of the negations than the affirmations.

If you are happy then there are a lot more of the affirmations than the negations.

It's a mathematical certainty.

Get it?

Think it isn't as simple as I make it out to be?

It is that simple, if you make a couple changes

Here's how to make a change and turn it around

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Dr. Max

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Tired or bored of being married?

Dr. Max Vogt — Sat, 14 May 2011 21:45:41 +0000

Very few people will admit it, even to themselves.

So just between you and me, are you?

Are you tired or bored of being married?

Are you just politely "putting up with it" because it's the right thing to do?

Maybe the most convenient thing to do.

So let me say right away… there's nothing wrong with that.

Is there?

It's really your call.

It depends on whether you believe for… or hope for… something much better.

Your marriage relationship CAN be a lot better, you know.

You might not believe it, but it's true.

Thousands now have great marriages who never thought they could.

How?

They changed the way they think.

They changed the way they felt.

They changed the way they acted.

So it's up to you.

Same old humdrum… or something new.

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- Dr. Max

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Weekend Marital Sex Tip 5.13.11 (Top Secret – Men Only)

Dr. Max Vogt — Fri, 13 May 2011 21:45:42 +0000

Marriage help, be a better husband

OK guys you’re going to doubt me on this one, but “hear me now, believe me later.”

I’m going to give you the ultimate sex secret of all time.

It doesn’t come from a psychologist.

It doesn’t come from Dr. Phil or Oprah.

It doesn’t come from Dr. Ruth.

It doesn’t even come from some porn star.

No.

It comes from Billy Joel

Listen. If you really want to “get her hot” here’s what you do.

Get a copy of Billy Joel’s song “Tell Her About It.”

Then do everything he tells you to do in the song.

I’m serious.

Tell her about it
Tell her everything you feel
Give her every reason to accept
That you’re for real

The guy is a lady monster even though he looks like a toad (sorry Billy).

Need proof? He was married to Christie Brinkley.

Got divorced? Well I assume he stopped listening to his own advice.

This is the hottest, easiest and simplest tip I have for you guys.

Your wives will totally agree with me on this one.

And here’s the rest of the story.

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Enjoy your weekend,

Dr. Max

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Christian Marriage Counseling and Purpose Driven Marriage

Dr. Max Vogt — Thu, 12 May 2011 15:02:28 +0000

"Live has a value only when it has something valuable as its object." George Hegel.

In no place in life is having something valuable as your object as it is in your marriage.

Marriage is not just a social arrangement, it's something far deeper and more meaningful.

It is in fact one of the fastest, deepest and most effective ways to deepen your spiritual life.

Many people seek to have a richer and better spiritual life.

Often they turn to esoteric practices such as meditation, yoga and chanting.

All of that is fine, but completely unnecessary.

Take a deep breath and look into the eyes of your beloved spouse.

Start there.

See who is really there, the person he or she really is.

If you are having trouble even imagining doing that because of the past or because of your own resentments or for some other reason…

Look here for some guidance to get you there:

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- Dr. Max

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Marriage problems related to infants’ sleep difficulties

Dr. Max Vogt — Wed, 11 May 2011 15:46:11 +0000

Couples having marital difficulties may have infants who are losing sleep, according to a new study – and that may have a continuing impact on the children.

Marital issues with children

Specifically, researchers found that marital instability when the child was ninth months old was related to child sleep problems at 18 months, including difficulties falling asleep and staying asleep, according to Anne Mannering, an Oregon State University faculty member in the Department of Human Development and Family Sciences. read

You have to be able to deal with problems as they come up. The only way to do that is to have good communication.

Here’s where you develop good communication skills

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Aimless marriage vs. goals marriage

Dr. Max Vogt — Wed, 11 May 2011 14:03:26 +0000

.“The soul that has no established aim loses itself.”
Michel Eyquem De Montaigne (1533-1592, French philosopher, essayist)

In marriage, just like in any other human endeavor, it's important to have goals.

Most people drift aimlessly through life and aimlessly through their marriage.

What are your goals in your marriage?

I don't mean your wishes as in "I wish my husband would take me dancing"

I mean your goals.

Specifics that you are going to work toward, to achieve, to have a happy marriage.

If you have no idea what I'm talking about, watch this free presentation:

http://www.EasyMarriageCounseling.com/3index.html

Dr. Max

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Is this the answer to extramarital affairs?

Dr. Max Vogt — Tue, 10 May 2011 21:13:05 +0000

Two Indonesian couples caned for extramarital affairs in Muslim …

ACEH, INDONESIA (BNO NEWS) — Two Indonesian couples on Friday were publicly caned for having had extra marital affairs in a conservative Muslim province in Aceh, the Jakarta Globe reported. Two men and two women were accused of sex …

Publish Date: 04/08/2011 14:48

http://wireupdate.com/wires/16526/two-indonesian-couples-caned-for-extramarital-affairs-in-muslim-province/

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There's a better solution

http://www.couplescoach.com

Dr. Max

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Don’t argue

Dr. Max Vogt — Tue, 10 May 2011 14:03:11 +0000

One of the biggest mistakes people make in their marriages is arguing.

It never turns out well.

Think back on every argument you ever had and then think about the result.

Was it ever positive?

Did you ever feel good afterwards (really… not just in the vengeful way).

If you want to try a new way, the answers are here:

http://www.CouplesCoach.com

- Dr. Max

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Marriage Counseling for Infidelity

Dr. Max Vogt — Tue, 26 Apr 2011 18:23:36 +0000

From time to time I like to include posts from other sources, bloggers or news sources I think are important. Here are a few I've been looking at recently. Couple of experts and then a person going through the fallout of infidelity after a year. What would you advise?

Infidelity Expert Says Happy Husbands Cheat Too | The Houston Exponent

In an infidelity study published earlier this year in the Journal of Sex & Marital Therapy, 75% of the cheating husbands who were questioned, said they did NOT have “lots of marital problems” prior to their affair. …

Publish Date: 04/15/2011 9:54

http://www.houstonexponent.com/infidelity-expert-says-happy-husbands-cheat-too/

Challenges Dealing With Infidelity — After-The-Affair

He practices marriage counseling in Portland, OR at the Portland Couples Counseling Center. http://www.marriage-and-relationship-counseling.com/marriage-counseling-portland-oregon.html. For information about how to choose a Relationship …

Publish Date: 04/18/2011 18:25

http://after-the-affair.info/challenges-dealing-with-infidelity

Almost a year : Where am I? – Talk About Marriage

Coping with Infidelity Relationship recovery from the destructiveness of infidelity. …. Planning a conversation with some else to talk through marriage issues or any issues would be "financially stupid" according to her. As much as I would like her to get rid of some of her stress and then have her come to a realization of "I want to be with him, I can't believe I almost lost him. ….. Get The Family & Marriage Counseling Directory Help Guide via Email: …

Publish Date: 04/25/2011 9:10

http://talkaboutmarriage.com/coping-infidelity/24662-almost-year-where-am-i.html

For more information about how to THRIVE after an affair, take a look at this Suriviving After An Affair.

Take care,

Dr. Max

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Love stinks!

Dr. Max Vogt — Tue, 26 Apr 2011 16:12:20 +0000

The J Geils Band sang in their hit song from 1980

LOVE STINKS
J. Geils Band

You love her
But she loves him
And he loves somebody else
You just can't win
And so it goes
Till the day you die

Now isn't that a lovely vision of love?

How does it end up this way for so many people?

Let me advance three possibilities.

1. People are horrible and faithless.

2. The guy singing this song is just a loser.

3. These people are walking around in a trance.

I can't accept #1. There are lots of people who are wonderful and faithful.

Number 2 is not quite right, although there's an element of possible truth in it,

If he had a better, clearer mindset about relationships he'd probably find someone better.

Number 3 is dead on.

99% of all problems in relationships come about because people are in a trance.

This is a trance deliberately created by movies, television, books and magazines.

The more you stay in that trance, the more garbage they can produce that convinces you even further that "love stinks" (although you long for it).

There's only one way out of that trance, and that is to know the truth.

I swear to tell you the whole truth and nothing but the truth about relationships.

Let's start here

http://www.CouplesCoach.com

- Dr. Max

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