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March 8, 2010

Don’t Trust Your Spouse


I often hear people use the word "trust" in marriage, like "I don't feel I can trust him anymore."

It goes along with the phrase "unconditional love."

There are no such things in mature relationships.

If you are still depending on these things to be present in your relationship, you are being a child and under a spell of fantasy.

In mature relationships of ALL kinds, not only marriage, our reliance on another person is based on experience and judgment, not upon blind trust.

I suggest you use the word "confidence" instead of trust.

Confidence can be earned and it can be lost.

It helps put mature relationships into proper focus when you see that they are actually conditional and dependent upon good behavior.

Earn confidence and expect your partner to earn your confidence.

Dr. Max

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February 27, 2010

How to Win the Lottery (Personal)


Have you ever said, “if I only would win the lottery, my problems would be solved”?

We all have, haven’t we?

Well I’d be lying to you if I claimed to have a method to win the actual lottery.

Plus the statistics show that people who do win the lottery are almost all deeply unhappy and

broker after a short period of time… often like 18 months.

Let’s get real.

I have something for you even better.

How about an endlessly happy relationship?

How about a great marriage?

For the rest of your life… sound good?

Well, there’s a way to win that lottery.

How can you get in?

Learn how to communicate.

If you can’t communicate, you’ll never win the relationship lottery.

If you can, winning the relationship lottery is pretty easy.

You only need 12 secret relationship communication techniques.

Here’s the relationship lottery ticket:

Click here for your ticket

To Your Great Relationship,
Dr. Max Vogt

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February 26, 2010

Are You Hypnotized?


Almost everyone walks around in a trance.

Look around.

See those vacant stares in the Walmart stores?

They park right in the middle of the aile.

People walking around in an daze, oblivious.

It’s the same thing in relationships.

People walking around like zombies.

Reacting to everything.

People have been hypnotized into beliefs about relationships.

Here’s a typical one.

If your parents got divorced, fought a lot, didn’t communicate, you are doomed to repeat a poor relationship.

That’s a load of donkey dump.

If you were abused by your parents, you are likely to abuse your own childen.

More donkey dump.

The only thing that determines whether you end up with a great relationship or great marriage is your mindset and your beliefs.

And after that, whether you can communicate.

You must be able to communicate the right way to have a great relationship.

I had a client I’ll call Carly.

She had been terribly abused by her parents.

Her parents had a horrible, screaming, nasty relationship.

Now she had a terrible relationship.

She was worried she was going to abuse her daughter.

Another therapist told her she was doomed to these things.

She was in a trance.

The trance was produced by the other therapist.

The other therapist poured donkey dump into Carly’s head.

Carly and I had two sessions.

On the first one I shocked her by telling her that her head was full of donkey dump and there was no reason she needed to worry about repeating her “past.”

She had to go home and think about it,

On the next session, she came and said she now felt free to have a great parenting and marriage relationship.

And her husband was relieved to hear this.

Then I told her that she didn’t need any more sessions.

All she needed was this and she didn’t need any more expensive therapy sessions.

This is the answer

http://www.NowYouCanCommunicate.com

To your great relationship,
Dr. Max

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February 24, 2010

Is Your Relationship Full of Disappointments?


If you still believe in relationships but feel hurt and skeptical, check out this email from a reader

“Dr. Max

I still love my husband, but he’s not the man I married ten years ago. He used to be fun. We talked together all the time and seemed to be always on the same wave length.

We were always touching each other and couldn’t seem to get enough of each other. Now he’s absorbed in his work and seems completely cut off and unavailable. What do I do, I’m so disappointed?

Thanks, I hope you can help, Ellyn”

You know what Ellyn? What you are describing is what every couple goes through sooner or later.

Everyone goes through the natural stage of disappointment and change. (continued)


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February 23, 2010

If you only had five minutes to live…


" What would you say to your spouse or intimate other? OK now don't wait, start saying it" -Dr. Max

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Open Letter To Those Who Feel Marriage Isn’t That Important


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The Blessing of a Great Marriage


"When the pressures and demands of the world around you seem unmanageable and far too heavy, it's a blessing to have a great marriage" – Dr. Max www.CouplesCoach.com

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February 22, 2010

Soul Mate: Is There One Out There For You?


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Marriage Danger Signs Which You Must Pay Attention to Now


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February 16, 2010

Marriage Communication: Jenna Hates Chick Flicks (for now)


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