Marriage Counseling News: Bringing You All the Best Marriage Counseling and Relationship Advice » Divorce http://www.marriagecounselingcafe.com Marriage Counseling Approaches to Enhance Your Marriage | Different Approaches of Marriage Counseling Save Your Marriage and Lead to a Very Satisfying Relationship Tue, 07 Feb 2012 03:30:02 +0000 en hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.2.1 Tired or bored of being married? http://www.marriagecounselingcafe.com/2011/05/14/tired-or-bored-of-being-married/ http://www.marriagecounselingcafe.com/2011/05/14/tired-or-bored-of-being-married/#comments Sat, 14 May 2011 21:45:41 +0000 Dr. Max Vogt http://www.marriagecounselingcafe.com/2011/05/14/tired-or-bored-of-being-married/

Very few people will admit it, even to themselves.
So just between you and me, are you?
Are you tired or bored of being married?
Are you just politely "putting up with it" because it's the right thing to do?
Maybe the most convenient thing to do.
So let me say right away… there's nothing wrong with that.
Is there?
It's really your call.
It depends on whether you believe for… or hope for… something much better.
Your marriage relationship CAN be a lot better, you know.
You might not believe it, but it's true.
Thousands now have great marriages who never thought they could.
How?
They changed the way they think.
They changed the way they felt.
They changed the way they acted.
So it's up to you.
Same old humdrum… or something new.
- Dr. Max

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Two Indonesian couples caned for extramarital affairs in Muslim …

ACEH, INDONESIA (BNO NEWS) — Two Indonesian couples on Friday were publicly caned for having had extra marital affairs in a conservative Muslim province in Aceh, the Jakarta Globe reported. Two men and two women were accused of sex …

Publish Date: 04/08/2011 14:48

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There's a better solution

Dr. Max

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One of the biggest mistakes people make in their marriages is arguing.

It never turns out well.

Think back on every argument you ever had and then think about the result.

Was it ever positive?

Did you ever feel good afterwards (really… not just in the vengeful way).

If you want to try a new way, the answers are here:

- Dr. Max

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The J Geils Band sang in their hit song from 1980

LOVE STINKS
J. Geils Band

You love her 
But she loves him
And he loves somebody else
You just can't win 
And so it goes
Till the day you die

Now isn't that a lovely vision of love?

How does it end up this way for so many people?

Let me advance three possibilities.

1. People are horrible and faithless.

2. The guy singing this song is just a loser.

3. These people are walking around in a trance.

I can't accept #1.  There are lots of people who are wonderful and faithful.

Number 2 is not quite right, although there's an element of possible truth in it,

If he had a better, clearer mindset about relationships he'd probably find someone better.

Number 3 is dead on.

99% of all problems in relationships come about because people are in a trance.

This is a trance deliberately created by movies, television, books and magazines.

The more you stay in that trance, the more garbage they can produce that convinces you even further that "love stinks" (although you long for it).

There's only one way out of that trance, and that is to know the truth.

I swear to tell you the whole truth and nothing but the truth about relationships.

Let's start here

- Dr. Max

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I offer this because so many people are in pain about their marriage, and they don't know where to 

turn.

You can do a lot – make a lot of changes and improvements – on your own, but the true source of help comes from God.

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Dear God

Help me go beyond my own limitations.

Help me see my spouse as the truly radiant being he or she is.

Help me see him or her as a new person each day.

Help me look beyond petty grievances I may have against my spouse.

Help me stay out of temptation to be disloyal in any way.

Help me let go of old histories which may keep me bound in anger or distrust.

Help me realize that it is not mine to forgive my spouse but it is Yours, God.

Because I have no right to judge anyone.

Help me look for ways to love more and accept more and understand better.

Turn me away from those who judge men or women negatively.

Turn me away from the gossips and hurtful people who don't see marriage as a true sign of Your Love for us.

Turn me toward Your love and help me show it to my spouse.

Help me be a better friend, lover and husband or wife to my spouse.

Show me where and how I can become more accepting and less judging.

Show me where and how I can grow as a person and be more loving.

Each day I vow to be more loving, more grateful and more tolerant.

Help me on my path to true, happy, complete marriage.

Amen

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- Dr. Max

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George wrote me.

A lot has happened in the last few years in his financial life.

He's lost his business, the family's main car and the family's house.

His 2 sons, 1 daughter and wife are living in a small apartment.

They used to live in a big sprawling house.

Now he feels ashamed and guilty.

He feels he's lost the respect of his wife and kids forever.

He wrote me and asked me "How do I get rid of the guilt?"

Here's what I wrote:

Dear George:

You can't.

Not on your own.

And your wife and kids can't take it away from you either.

Even if they "forgave you" it wouldn't be enough.

You'll have to go to a bigger – the true – source of forgiveness and guilt reduction.

You'll have to go to God and get help.

Ask for your burden to be lifted and for direct help.

That's the only way.

There are some things in life that we can do on our own and can be great at them.

This is not one of those.

How you do that is up to you.

God will heal you and help you in ways you never can do it yourself.

You don't have to do penance.

It's not about your being punished.

It's about your starting your life back up again.

If I had a simpler or more "behavioral" way that worked I'd tell you.

But I'm telling you the thing that will help you and make a difference for you… the ONLY thing.

I hope that helps you.

Dr. Max

Now if YOU really want to know how to completely turn around your marriage with God's help:

I show you ALL the steps in the Science of Happy Marriage.

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Most men want to be great husbands.

But we don't want to be criticized for our efforts either.

And we don't want gobbledegook from some therapist.

We just want instructions.

Do this, don't do that.

But we DON'T want you ladies telling us that!

And we aren't going to ask our guy friends or anyone else how to do it.

So I snuck one in here.

Guys, this is just simple, follow this information

- Dr. Max

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Here's an information-packed video about how to find money and get wealthy.

Check it out, it will inspire you.

God bless you and yours,
-Dr. Max

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When you have a fun trip coming up, you are looking forward to it.

When there's a big game or a big event in your child's life coming…

When a child is going to be born…

When you get to move into the new house…

When you get to see a long-lost friend once again…

When you're next going to have sex together…  WHAT?

For many married couples the anticipation of sex isn't there.

After all, you can have it "any" time (but  you don't much anymore).

For this weekend I suggest you make a "sex date" with each other this weeekend.

Decide where and when you're going to rendezvous.

If you already have a time you normally have sex on the weekend, change it.

Instead of Sunday afternoon (or in addition) make a different time.

And spice it up.

Decide you're going to do something sexually you haven't for a long time.

Or something new.

Talk about it in advance – that's the most important part of this.

OK, what is sex?

You decide.

If it's intercourse, sure.

If it's exchanging backrubs then that.

Another time we'll talk about what sex is.

For now, just make that date.

- Dr. Max

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Most long term marriages carry scars.
 
At one time or another over the years, somebody felt betrayed.
 
It just happens.
 
It can be the result of affairs.
 
It might because of disagreements.
 
It might be because of money losses, parenting differences, in-law troubles.
 
And it might be because you feel your partner isn't who they claimed to be.
 
You may feel let down, disappointed.
 
Can you heal those old wounds?
 
The answer is NO.
 
You cannot heal them.
 
Your partner cannot heal them.
 
Something greater than you is needed.
 
There is something beyond what we usually call "forgiveness."
 
Something much deeper.
 
Something much better than "healing old wounds."
 
Something which heals far more deeply.
 
I'll tell you about it in this presentation
 

To your great relationship future,
 
Dr. Max
 
P.S.  Dramatic breakthroughs happen.  I hear about them every day.
Some call them miracles.  I call it good science:

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