What is it like for you when you know you’ve hurt your spouse or partner?
For most of us it’s not that easy to know what to do next.
Yes obviously it’s time to say “I’m sorry.”
But it’s not that easy, is it?
You may feel that your partner has hurt you too, and wonder why it’s always you saying “I’m sorry”
Why doesn’t your partner say that HE (or she) is sorry?
And what and how do you say it if you really don’t feel it?
Isn’t every relationship problem always 50/50 responsibility?
They say that Bambi doesn’t marry Hitler, if you know what I mean.
But is that true in real life?
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Have you ever said, “if I only would win the lottery, my problems would be solved”?

We all have, haven’t we?

Well I’d be lying to you if I claimed to have a method to win the actual lottery.

Plus the statistics show that people who do win the lottery are almost all deeply unhappy and

broker after a short period of time… often like 18 months.

Let’s get real.

I have something for you even better.

How about an endlessly happy relationship?

How about a great marriage?

For the rest of your life… sound good?

Well, there’s a way to win that lottery.

How can you get in?

Learn how to communicate.

If you can’t communicate, you’ll never win the relationship lottery.

If you can, winning the relationship lottery is pretty easy.

You only need 12 secret relationship communication techniques.

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To Your Great Relationship,
Dr. Max Vogt

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“Research shows that ten minutes into an argument 90% of couples can’t even remember what the argument was about” People say “We just can’t communicate, but it cuts more deeply than that…

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Shane in Springfield, Missouri has a problem with his wife. He says that after a long day at work, he just wants to unwind a bit. His wife, on the other hand, wants to tell him every detail of her day.

Steve, this problem is really common for married couples to have. In my book, I explain the intimacy paradox, which says that in a great marriage, you want to achieve 100% acceptance of yourself and 100% acceptance of your partner. This means accepting her behavior of telling you everything about herself when you are tired. See if you can tell her that you need to unwind a bit, and that you will listen to her during dinner. But make sure that after she does give you a bit of time to unwind, you really listen to her, and not just let your eyes glaze over. If you get into a good routine, soon you will both be enjoying these conversations.

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Missy from Des Moines is worried about people finding out that her husband always lies about their children. She says that he tells their friends blatant lies, for example, inventing college degrees and leaving out their DUIs.

Missy, it is important for you to see where your husband is coming from. In my latest book, I talk about different marriage plans, or marriage blueprints. If he selected his marriage blueprint, he would probably choose the ‘Royal Family’; a type that is very concerned about their view in society and what people think of them. Give your husband a copy of my book, “You Don’t Have to Change Who You Are to Have a Good Marriage”, and read it with him together. The intimacy paradox, which says that a great marriage is possible when you accept your spouse 100% as he is, will be useful for you. Your husband may find the intimacy paradox interesting and also the exercise on how to lower his defenses. Good luck with changing your marriage, without changing yourself!

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Experts say that self-motivation is one of the most important factors for somebody to live a good life. It is just so unfortunate that not many people have innate means of motivating themselves that is why many of them just give up and live a remorseful life filled with negative things.

Many people still don’t realize that problems would be a constant factor in their lives. And because of this inability to understand and accept certain situations, people just give up the chance to a better life. Experts say that problems are the number one factor that kills the people’s desire to be motivated. This is because due to so many problems, many people think that it is useless for them to put on a fight since they will only taste defeat later on.

DEALING WITH PROBLEMS THROUGH SELF-MOTIVATION

However, although experiencing problems indeed discourages people to want more things in life, this should not be enough reason just to let the chance of living a better life go. If you think that many problems hinder your process to self-motivation, here are some of the things that might help you realize how self-motivation itself can help you get over problems:

1. Let the past go. Experts say that the first step to deal with problem through self-motivation is by learning to let go of the past. This is because if you already accepted that there are things that are beyond your control, you will be able to forgive yourself and start anew. If you just keep thinking of the past, this will serve as a reminder of your failure. And if you keep thinking about your defeat, you will undergo a never ending cycle of blaming yourself for the things that you did not really opted to do.

If you want to start with self-motivation, try to finish each day and forgive yourself for the things that you were not able to finish or accomplish today. If you were able to do that, you will look forward to a new day and new opportunities that will come along your way.

2. Try to run your own race by setting your own pace. Although it is sometimes healthy to be competitive in terms of achieving goals, there would always be times when you will get tired of running after so many things because you don’t want other people to finish before you. More often than not, people who compare themselves with others are the ones who are left behind without anything because they spend too much time thinking how can they outlast the other person, thus, neglecting his or her own priorities.

To maximize self-motivation to its fullest, it is best if you run a race at your own pace so you won’t get tired. This will also be beneficial for you because you can rest whenever you want to since nobody is breathing down your neck to finish something.

3. Always take one step ahead. To be able to continuously motivate one’s self despite so many problems, it is always best to take one step ahead of things. Meaning, you need to plan ahead and do things ahead of time so you will be given more opportunity or chance in case the first plan did not work.

Taking and thinking one step ahead are the best foundations of self-motivation because if you were able to develop these, it would be easier for you to take tougher and bigger problems or challenges along the way.

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Marianne from Minneapolis writes that her boyfriend is finishing graduate school soon, but wants to establish his career before getting married. She thought that they would get married after he graduated, and she now doesn’t know if she should wait for him.

Marianne,
In my book “You Don’t Have to Change Who You Are to Have a Great Marriage” I point out to couples that to see into the future, they sometimes have to look in the past. He may not want to commit to marriage so soon because his parents got married before they had a chance to establish themselves, or for a hundred other reasons. What is important for you to realize is that you have to accept your boyfriend (and that means his decision) 100%. If you can’t do this before you are married, you may not be able to do it after you are married. It may be hard for you to wait, but rushing him (and making him change his beliefs) could cause him to resent you in the future.

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Theresa in Miami asks what she should do about her loss of sex drive. Her husband is starting to get annoyed, and has even said that he will find someone else to satisfy him if she doesn’t.

Sometimes low sex drive is caused by health issues, drugs or alcohol or other physical issues, but Theresa assured me she is healthy and doesn’t take drugs. I answered:

Theresa, you can’t change your husband’s behavior, but since you are writing to me, you probably want to change yours, right? Well, here’s how: write down all the reasons you don’t want to have sex with your husband. One of your beliefs might read: “he’s unromantic”. Now you are going to forget this belief and write a new one down to replace the old belief that is damaging your marriage. Here is an example of a new belief that you can use: “My husband is romantic in his own way.” Now you have to go and search for the proof for this new belief. The next time your husband helps you out, you can say to yourself: “See, he really does love me, he is romantic.” You will see a change within a week if you are really trying!

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From Dr. Max Vogt
America’s Best Marriage Counselor
www.EasyMarriageCounseling.com

Now you know if you read my blog or get my email messages that I write almost exclusively about relationship issues.

99.9% of my messages to you are my heartfelt and very sincere attempt to help out in your marriage or that of someone you love.

I hear from people all the time that my emails have helped them in their marriage, or that they have passed them on to a loved one (daughter or son or friend) to help them in their marriage.

That truly touches me because it’s been my life’s work to help people have great marriages, in my opinion one of the greatest experiences we can have in this lifetime (yet great marriages are alarmingly rare).

AND you also know that one of the biggest contributors to relationship unhappiness is… financial! More fights are about finances than all other areas of marriage put together.

And outside of infidelity or falling out of love and trying to get it back, the next most common thing I’m asked about is how to handle financial discussions and really solve them. In many cases the answer could simply be making a little more money a month. What is the expression? More month than money?

The curious thing is that in lots of marriages it’s not a matter of them being flat broke or anything, it’s a matter of only a few hundred dollars a month that separate them from being relaxed in their daily life financially… and which can make the difference between having a home and losing it.

Another thing you may NOT know is that there are people who are still making exceptional incomes through internet businesses… people whose incomes have not diminished one bit during this time, and who are thriving.

Becoming wealthy through online business is not a myth as some think either. Being a somewhat well known person on the internet, I can vouch for the fact that quite a few of my friends are making very large ongoing incomes through their internet businesses.

Now what does that have to do with you?

A lot, but only if you have interest in increasing your income and stopping the conflict around your house (again, IF you have any! and most of us do) about paying the bills, having any money left over for fun, sending kids to college and other things.

Now here’s the problem, and I know this problem intimately, from first hand blood, sweat and tears. The internet marketing experts make it sound like it’s easy to do internet business and become wealthy in your spare time with no prior knowledge and no understanding of internet business at all.

Well that’s just bullshit, or at least I thought it was up until now. You see I’ve poured a ton of my own personal time, energy and money into becoming a success online and I promise you that as smart and experienced as I am – and despite the success I’m experiencing now, if I knew then what I know now, I never would have started the process. That’s just the honest truth.

I could have made more money with less effort doing other things, and until I began being successful I constantly wondered if I had made the right choice to dedicate so my of myself to internet business.

It’s just too time consuming, too hard and there are way too many things you have to know to become a successful internet entrepreneur. Also, spending as much time as I have on the computer (I won’t even say how many hours a day) is hard on the body and even on the soul. It can be truly soulless, grinding and difficult.

I’ve done a lot of difficult things in my life, but getting an internet business to a successful level is without a doubt the hardest.

And yet the prize… the prize is passive residual income. The kind of income where you make money 24 hours a day 7 days a week no matter what you are doing. That’s of course why we go through all this learning curve.

That of course is the real draw, the promise, the reward. And that’s what I’d like you to have.

But I don’t want you to go through all the years of education, the frustration, the sedentary lifestyle, the sleep deprivation, the money suck of paying internet marketing experts only to find that they are just rehashing all the old things that “used to work” and repackaging it to you now that they have moved on to doing other things.

So you see my dilemma? I want you to be able to have the rewards of internet business but without the terrible draining punishment, losses and frustrations.

So I’ve kept my eyes out for quite a while for something which would have the benefits of everything I know about internet business but with none or very few of the drawbacks, something I thought I could recommend to you.

A good friend of mine showed me something which I think very well may be the answer – something with all the benefits but few drawbacks.

In fact it is free to join, and in fact I was one of the very first people to join up.

I am telling you about this because it is fresh, a brand new perspective, and to my trained eye it looks like it will be an effective and super simple way to make very good residual income. It doesn’t involve selling soap or herbs, so don’t worry.

It only involves giving people access to excellent information they are looking for already and want eagerly to know about.

Please take a few minutes to click this link and watch this video and see this page. It may not be of any interest to you but then again it might be an answer to your financial prayers. I hope this helps you and I believe it will.

As always I say,

To your great relationship future,
Dr. Max Vogt

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In this video I show you in detail why Easy Marriage Counseling is the only marriage counseling online you should consider

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