Communication Skills

March 15, 2010

Beware the Ides of March!


The transition space between winter and the first glimmers of spring has always created anxiety in people.

The middle of March can be harbinger of warmth coming or cold lingering.

Of course this is all superstition because no one knows what the weather – or our personal future – will bring.

Maybe the better expression is "Beware the Trap of Beware of the Ides of March"

Of course that's too long to be catchy :-)

It's far better to decide the life you want to live and then actively create it.

When people talk about things like the Law of Attraction they leave something important out, which is PLANNING and WORK.

To make your dreams come true requires learning skills and then practicing them.

In the area of relationships, this means communication skills and practice.

That's why I made this
Couples Coach

http://www.CouplesCoach.com

- Dr. Max

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February 23, 2010

An Open Letter to Those Who Feel a Great Marriage Is Not That Important


A lot of people think they can "slide" on their marriage.

They think that problems will just "eventually go away" or "after the kids are gone things will be better" or "If it gets too bad, I'll just leave and meet someone new."

Here's a dose of reality.

None of that is going to happen.

It's not going to get better "later."

You may leave the marriage and find someone new, but it's going to be the same situation with them.

The problems – and the solutions – are right there at home.

They are literally staring back at you in the mirror.

You think that your partner is the problem.

Wrong.  You are the problem.

Now you may think I'm wrong, but I'm not.

The problem is that you can't communicate.

So now it's time to decide whether to get your communication skills in order or…

Die unhappy and unsatisfied when you come to the end of your life.

Do you think things are tough now?

Then try getting old with no one there to comfort you.

Or feeling like no one truly understands you or cares for you.

Try living the single life.

Look, it's time to choose.  Improve your marriage or die alone.

There's really only one way to improve your relationship and that is to learn how to communicate the right way.

Anyone who says "well marriage just isn't that important to me…"  -  now you know what that means.  They have given up.

Anyone who makes a sick joke about marriage is headed for absolute solitude and a sad ending.

People in great relationships get it.  They get the rewards, and they know how sacred it is.

If you want to get it, you have to see how important marriage is and put in an effort to communicate.

Time slips by.

You have maybe one more chance, now take it.

http://www.NowYouCanCommunicate.com

Don't fall into the trap of thinking that marriage is not that important.

Just think how relieved you will feel when you see your relationship improve… because you know how to communicate better.

Ahhhhh, so much better.

That's why I created this for you

And I want you to take it for a test drive by clicking here:

http://www.NowYouCanCommunicate.com

- Dr. Max

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February 22, 2009

Individual Therapy before Marriage Counseling?


A question asked by a reader is so important I’m moving it to a post:

Q: Do you think that both husband and wife should attend therapy individually and then together to save a marriage? If addictions are involved, should that be addressed before marriage counseling starts? Or as part of?

A: No, if you look on http://www.EasyMarriageCounseling.com you’ll find the answers to these questions. You have to address the core beliefs and not behavior nor symptoms. “Same-Old” Marriage Counseling and individual therapy embroil you in the same problems over and over and over again. The problem with most therapy is that people are constantly pushed into dealing with issues they have NO tools to deal with, using the same defenses and reactions over and over again and nothing moves forward. Most therapists, even fairly seasoned marriage therapists, neither have the knowlege nor skills to handle directing a change, and in regular therapy therapists get “co-opted” into the pathology of the client, siding, having emotional reactions, getting “politically swayed” by their own belief system, biases and cultural leanings. EasyMarriageCounseling.com avoids all those issues and handicaps.

-Dr. Max

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