It’s the most important question you must ask yourself about your marriage but few people ever try to really answer it.

It’s on your mind all the time

Some people have this question on their mind every single day.

Others have asked the question and come up every time with a “No!” followed by a “and then what?”

The question is very simple.

Are you happy in your marriage?

It’s a question I’m sure you ask and one which you may not want to answer.

Now you are married. How did you get here?

Well at some time you said “I do” but you really didn’t know what you were getting into, did you?

No one can really explain what it’s like being married until you get there.

Now that you made that choice, are you stuck with it?

That depends on your belief system…

But it also depends on a lot of other factors

Like if you are unhappy why is that?

I’m sure you have some anwers but they are built on false thinking.

The other thing is you might kid yourself to say “well I’m as happy as the next person.”

But do you believe the next person is happy in their marriage?

Do you even believe people can be truly happy in marriage?

Most people just figure, well this is my bed now I have to lie in it… or they finally make a decision to get out.

Maybe the next relationship will “work out.”

Wrong.

The next relationship is going to be EXACTLY like this one.

That is unless you do two things:

The first is to really understand why you are unhappy (it isn’t for the reasons you think).

The next is to do some things differently… to use different skills.

Your life would be entirely different if you were in charge.

Are you surprised when I say you aren’t in charge of your life now?

The reason you are unhappy in your marriage is because you aren’t in charge.

I don’t mean being a control freak.

Being a control freak means you are most definitely NOT in charge because you are going around seeing chaos everywhere.

I mean really knowing who you are, who your partner is and what is REALLY happening in your marriage that makes you unhappy.

Again, in the strongest language, I insist you do NOT know what is making you unhappy.

Now the only way to change this is to get better information and to get a GAME PLAN for change.

You can’t become happy unless you have info and a plan.

Sitting around thinking about how unhappy you are isn’t a game plan.

Also… ignoring how unhappy you are isn’t a game plan.

That’s where I come in.

I spent a lifetime creating this for you… for these very reasons, to help you be happy in your marriage

Click Here to find out how to be happy in your marriage

The only thing stopping you from taking the path to happiness in marriage and life is that you haven’t gone here

Click Here to find out how to be happy in your marriage

You have my promise this will help

Dr. Max

Most people are unaware they walk around with a whole system of beliefs about relationships.

But wait, answer these questions:

Is there one person in the world truly just right for you (a soul mate)?

Is the original passion you felt when you got together bound to fade over time?

Do you have to compromise in marriage to stay married?

Are women better at communicating their feelings than men?

See, you have answers to all these questions, don’t you?

That shows you have a belief system about marriage.

Here’s the problem.

You are surrounded with negative messages about relationships and marriage day in day out.

You are surrounded with confusing and just plain wrong messages about relationships and marriage day in day out.

Television shows, movies, commentators, music, advertising…

It’s entertaining, but it appeals to the lowest common denominator.

See people would rather think that things are too hard and that’s why they are failing.

If you think well there really aren’t any great marriages anyway, I’ve never seen any, then you are let off the hook.

Then the fact that your relationship is boring or a living hell just seems “normal.”

Then you feel well this is just the way it goes.

Then you have an excuse for either getting out or not working on your marriage.

There’s a better way.

Here’s the secret.

There is such a thing as a happy, passionate, powerful and positive marriage.

You don’t have to sit around and wait for someone to show up on a white horse.

It’s much easier than you think. Click here to find out.

Steve from Dallas says that he works a lot, because he is trying to provide a good home and better opportunities for his wife and himself. His wife complains that she is lonely and wants him to spend more time at home.

Steve, in my book, I try to explain to couples how it is possible for two different people, who each have different requirements on what the marriage should include, to have a successful marriage. Growing up, I would bet that the two of you built different belief systems from what you observed from your parents and other couples. Hers is probably that she wants to be close to her husband, even if it means sacrificing working overtime to get the best house. Although there are ways to keep your spouse in mind when making decisions, you can’t change who you are or who your wife is. When you are deciding whether or not to finish the project or go home for dinner, try to remember your spouse’s history and belief system in the back of your mind.

A question asked by a reader is so important I’m moving it to a post:

Q: Do you think that both husband and wife should attend therapy individually and then together to save a marriage? If addictions are involved, should that be addressed before marriage counseling starts? Or as part of?

A: No, if you look on http://www.EasyMarriageCounseling.com you’ll find the answers to these questions. You have to address the core beliefs and not behavior nor symptoms. “Same-Old” Marriage Counseling and individual therapy embroil you in the same problems over and over and over again. The problem with most therapy is that people are constantly pushed into dealing with issues they have NO tools to deal with, using the same defenses and reactions over and over again and nothing moves forward. Most therapists, even fairly seasoned marriage therapists, neither have the knowlege nor skills to handle directing a change, and in regular therapy therapists get “co-opted” into the pathology of the client, siding, having emotional reactions, getting “politically swayed” by their own belief system, biases and cultural leanings. EasyMarriageCounseling.com avoids all those issues and handicaps.

-Dr. Max