Fields in Psychology that make the most money with just a Master’s Degree?

I’m a Junior in college and I’ve been reading about certain grad school programs. I think I’m finally getting an idea of what I wanna do with a Master’s degree. I know for sure I don’t want anything higher than that. The fields I’m most interested in are Clinical Psychology, Clinical Social Work, Mental Health Counseling, and Marriage and Family Counseling. Pretty much anything that involves one on one therapy sessions with patients who either have disorders of some kind or patients who just feel a bit overwhelmed. I keep looking for which field may pay the most and best fits my interest, but there are no websites that give me straight forward answers about salary. Can anyone help? I’m really not interested in I.O. Psychology so that’s not an option for me. I know money shouldn’t matter as long as I’m happy with what I’m doing, but to be honest what’s the point in accumulating so much debt if I’m gonna be broke and struggling like my parents? I don’t want a fortune once I graduate grad school, but I wanna know which fields will lead to a better salary as time goes on. Maybe something that starts in the 40,000′s and eventually goes up to about 65,000 or something.

please help i wanna go to family counseling but my husband refuses?

last night me and my husband had another one of our arguments. we argue over the same thing over and over. i have a step son and hes very disrespectful towards me lately ive been in his life for the past 3 years and hes never acted that way before up until here recently. he argues back with me on everything doesnt wanna listen to a word i say and then when i tell him to go to his room or that hes grounded he insists on calling on his dad thinking that will get him out of it. alot of the times when he is arguing with me my husband will tell us both to shut up or he’ll say will you two stop arguing. like im his kid or something i told him this that he treats me as im his child and when my step son wants to argue with me instead of telling us both to shut up or both to quit arguing what he should be doing is telling him to respect me and not argue with me.
my step son lives with us full time i dont work because my husband wants me to be here to take care of him. but its hard when i dont get the respect i need. when my husband tells him hes going to discipline him he winds up not doing anything and it all just turns into threats. i asked him about this last night and he said he doesnt want his son to hate him for punishing him all the time like he hated his dad. but how i feel is he shouldnt be afraid to punish him just because it’ll make him mad hes supposed to be the father not the friend.
i suggested to go to family counseling but my husband refused and said it wouldnt help that he tried that with his first wife and it did nothing. i told him this isnt his first marriage and im not her and i think we really need it but he still refuses to go. i told him that sometimes i feel like leaving because of all this and thats why we need to go to save our marriage and he still refused to go and told me to do what i gotta do.
please help.
and i say he told me to do what i gotta do he meant that as in if i wanna leave go ahead and leave. i told him i want to work this out and he doesnt think theres anything to work out. another one of his reasons for not wanting to go to counseling is he says he knows that hes the problem and he doesnt plan on changing because hes been that way for 33 years and doesnt need two people thinking hes an ass.

why do you think i am feeling pressures of a marriage and family when im still single?

i love kids as long as they are someone elses kids, however lately i am dealing with this feeling of stress anxiety just thinking about marriage and kids but this does not make sense as im single, ive never dated, not engaged nor in a relationship but i feel as if i am in one and the stress is really getting to me – its not the stress of not being one as much as the stress of being in one would bring – then again this seemed to have started after watching the batchelorette on monday with the jake and vienna interview – after seeing that i dont want to get married dont want to date because i just dont want any man treating me that way and sad to say my dad and brother both verbally abused me which lead to emotional abuse and so on – i did seek counseling but that didnt help
i just dont get this stress of being in relationship when im not – it needs to make sense and it doesnt right now
whats not making sense is the feelings of being in a stressful relationship – im not in a relationship at all never have been and stress is why i dont want to be in a relationship – thats whats not making sense – is dealing with the stress of a situation except there is no situation – its as if its phantom stress – if that makes sense
as to looking for mr right – im not going to “look”
all my married friends – unanimously said they didnt have to look for their spouse because they met them instead lol – so im not going to look at the same time – dont want to find anything –
im not ready for a relationship to answer the last poster – im not getting ready for a relationship = its not my dream and it never has been – i dont dream it – i dread it instead
i want to be single because i value freedom too much and will not be in that give and take game – thats not me

I want to become a police officer, Should I?

Hi I am a recent college graduate. Since i could remember i always wanted to become a police officer. I know kids grow out of their childhood dreams but this has not gone away. Now being 22, I have reached this point where my life can go 2 directions. I can apply to grad school and get my masters in child, family, and marriage counseling, or i can go to the police academy.
One way would make my family happy, and i know in the long run it would make me happy as well. The other, is my dream. It is dangerous, and i know i will get criticized for it.
I guess my question is, for those who become police officers, was it always what they wanted. I am afraid of choosing that path and realizing i made a mistake.
What should i do?

How would you prove that you don`t know a certain person?

I know it`s a bit weird question, but i`ve been having marriage issues for the past several months, where my husband is convinced that i cheat with my neighbor and everyone who lives in that house, when in reality we met only once when we first bought our home 6 years ago. I have never heated on him we`ve been together for 20 years, but last several months have been hell. He also accuses me that some people i work with are friends with those neighbors, they visit them and he hears stuff about me across the fence all the time. We been in marriage counseling for couple months, but there is not much more i can do but leave with my 13 year old.
I meant to go over and talk to the neighbors but they`re kinda roughnecks, and i am not sure if that would accomplish anything. In between police, therapists and psychiatrists, i don`t know how to convince him i have nothing to do with them.

Weird…..Impotency as ground for divorce!?

Hi

I have often come across questions where an Indian Hindu want divorce from his spouse due to his impotency,ie,inability to have sex.

I want to ask lawyers,In India,a person is usually a virgin before marriage.So he has sex for the 1st time only after marriage.Even if he is discovered to be impotent after marriage,shud the courts really give divorce to the immature & selfish partner?Because the person cannot know of his impotency b4 marriage.

Otherwise all Indians shud get the licence to have sex b4 marrige in order to confirm that they are capable of having sex.

Secondly,impotency is curable.So instead of the courts giving the partner divorce & in turn humiliate his spouse,shud this law not be banned?Instead they shud order the person to take his spouse for treatment.

Wud the courts take the same stand if the person wants a divorce because of his partner’s pneumonia,diabetes,allergy etc?In such a situation,then the courts will term this as cruelty.

On one hand sexologists are licensed by the govt. to counsel couples & heal sexual disorders.On the other hand,this very govt. does not allow an impotent to continue the marriage………Why this hypocrisy?

So sexologists shud be banned from practising.Then only this weird law makes sense.

What do the lawyers have to say on this?

Weird…..Impotency as ground for divorce!?

Hi

I have often come across questions where an Indian Hindu want divorce from his spouse due to his impotency,ie,inability to have sex.

I want to ask lawyers,In India,a person is usually a virgin before marriage.So he has sex for the 1st time only after marriage.Even if he is discovered to be impotent after marriage,shud the courts really give divorce to the immature & selfish partner?Because the person cannot know of his impotency b4 marriage.

Otherwise all Indians shud get the licence to have sex b4 marrige in order to confirm that they are capable of having sex.

Secondly,impotency is curable.So instead of the courts giving the partner divorce & in turn humiliate his spouse,shud this law not be banned?Instead they shud order the person to take his spouse for treatment.

Wud the courts take the same stand if the person wants a divorce because of his partner’s pneumonia,diabetes,allergy etc?In such a situation,then the courts will term this as cruelty.

On one hand sexologists are licensed by the govt. to counsel couples & heal sexual disorders.On the other hand,this very govt. does not allow an impotent to continue the marriage………Why this hypocrisy?

So sexologists shud be banned from practising.Then only this weird law makes sense.

What do the lawyers have to say on this?

My wife has anger issues and denies it is her with the problem?

She is constantly yelling at our 7, 4 and 2 year old and at me. She isn’t physically abusive towards them but has recently started showing physical aggression towards me and has threatened to stab me on a couple occasions. She is constantly accusing me of wanting to be with her friends (I have never cheated on her). I have tried to talk to her but she explodes immediately and puts all the blame on me, we have tried marriage counseling and when the counselor said she had a problem she refused to accept it and the counselor finally told us we were beyond his help. The other day we were at the doctors with our oldest son and she was raging out on me because I was going to ask the Dr if her yelling contributed to our sons ADHD so I asked her to leave. The doctor came in and told me she heard everything and that she has talked to my wife about this before. The doctor gave her an order to get a mental health evaluation or she is going to report her to Child Protective Services. She is refusing the evaluation saying the doctor has issues. I love my children and I love my wife but the kids come first. We recently switched roles in the house, Now she works and I’m a stay at home dad since she said she couldn’t handle the kids or the house, the house is calm until she gets home and starts yelling then it turns into complete chaos.Okay, I’m leaving out a lot of details but it would be a novel if I wrote everything, so here are the questions. 1- How do I talk to her without her going straight to anger? 2- How do I get her to go for this evaluation? 3- If CPS interveins, how do I keep them from taking the kids from me (if I have to move back with my moms with the kids to keep them I have that option)? 4- I live in Delaware and if she does assault me I will more than likely be the one to be arrested and what do I do about the stabbing threats? 5- If I have to leave her, how do I keep her from getting visitation (she has told me if I left she would take the kids and run, not for the kids but to hurt me)? Thank you for any suggestions and I will keep a close eye on this to answer any questions that may help find a solution
*update* Thank you for your responses. First, I would never lay a hand on any woman, that is very unmanly. The gene pool comment, I see your comments on a lot of post and wonder what causes you to respond this way. I have beautiful kids that are behaved in public and I believe are normal for their ages. Even the ADHD son isn’t bad, just twitchy.
To the realistic responses. She has agreed to go to counseling after I told her if she doesn’t I’m leaving with the kids. We are going to go together and hopefully we can get it to work this time. I really don’t want to leave her, I still know the woman I married is in there although I wonder how much of it was real and how much was an act. I forgot to add in my original post that the 7 and 4 y.o. are my stepsons, something I forget often. I knew she yelled a lot but once we got married it got worse and then when she was pregnant with our daughter all hell broke loose. I am very far from perfect and since our first counselin

How do you file for divorce if you are separated and it just is not working?

I have really tried, been to marriage counseling, changed many things about myself to accommodate my wife, etc. My wife has left me and taken our two kids (0.3 and 6 years) and said she will not return unless I do what she wants only.

Nothing I do helps. I change something about myself and then she wants me to change something else. There are many things about her I want changed, but I have no leverage except that I am still paying all the bills, and she is racking them up considerably. I haven’t played the ‘cutoff-the-finances’ card yet, but I am growing weary of this extortion and really hating my wife for depriving me of my kids. I know with a divorce, I probably won’t see them alot, but at least I will see them sometimes. What can I do? I am nearing the end of my patience. I want my family back, but not my wife. What can a man do?
Thanks for all the good advice people. DG is right, I seem to have become a convenient patsy because I fear if I cut her off, then she will go ballistic and who knows what will happen – any little progress will probably be wiped out. She has my kids 1800 miles away. I have never talked to a family lawyer. How do you go about these things? Another complication is that I’m in another state (AZ) and she is in TX. Should I get a TX lawyer or an AZ lawyer? We were married in TX.

Wife wants a break but doesn’t want a divorce?

My wife and I have been married for 6 years and been together for 9. We have 3 children. The past year has been extremely stressful for me and my work and has put a tremendous strain on our relationship. She tells me she wants a break and that she is just done. Her problems are that I nitpick everything she does and that I blame her for everything and that nothing she does is good enough for me. She says she isn’t going to get a divorce, she isn’t leaving, she isn’t looking for anyone else.
I am going to see a therapist to work on me and she says that’s a start. She tells me she has put up a wall and right now nothing is getting through and she is praying to god that there will be a time when she will want to go to counseling with me and make our marriage work. She is talking to me and says she loves me as a person and the father of her children but that’s it right now.

I don’t know what to do. I love her to death and don’t want to lose her. I can’t seem to function without her affection and love. This is killing me. What do I do?

Marriage Help: on verge of divorce!!?

My husband and I are having serious problems with our marriage. We have two children, a 4 and a 1 year old. Our problems started since we had our second child. I had a hard time when our second child was born. I had to have a csection so it was rough recovering from that. Since we had 2 children I have not been keeping the house spotless. There are toys here and there, dishes sometimes get backed up and so do the clothes. I started back in college last month and I have gotten farther and farther behind with everything. I have a full work load in school and between that, the everyday messes with kids, taking our daughter to preschool and soccer, and household chores that I used to do by myself, the house just stays messy with toys here and there. My husband says he never wants to come home because its such a mess and dinner is rarely done right when he gets home from work. I never get out of the house by myself unless I am going to school (and he gets mad at me cause he has to watch the kids by himself those nights). We never do anything alone anymore. He works in A/C and heating so it‘s tough work so I usually don’t ask him to help out with anything when he gets home but since I have been so busy I have been needing help and he gets so mad if he ever has to do anything. Am I wrong for asking for help around the house after he gets in from work? I don’t have a job, just stay at home with the kids and take them to all of their little things and then I am full time at college so should I be able to do everything like I used to with just one child? Our marriage is going to come to an end if we don’t do something soon. We can’t afford any counseling. What should I do? I try my best to do as much as I can but I am reaching my limit. I have been prescribed medication for depression in the last month. I hate needing the pills but I could not cope with everything anymore. I don’t know what to do. I don’t want to get divorced but every time my husband and I try to talk about things we just start yelling and everything gets worse!
Thanks to everyone with helpful advice.
Guys – if you were given the job of a stay at home dad with 2 kids and being full time student you would understand, until then you have no right to criticize me! And screw you dude, “it‘s all about me”? I don’t think so. I’m having problems cause I don’t keep everything up to HIS standard. Our house is not a wreck, it just isn’t spotless like it used to be but I can never do things good enough for him. He gets his breaks and nights off to go to friends houses or just come in and sleep…when is it gonna be my turn? I have not had a night off in over 4 years and have not complained til now.
School just started a month ago so I’ve been trying to get everything on a schedule. I am in college cause we do not have money. The longer I hold off, the longer we stay broke so there really isn’t an option to not go. My husband was all for me going back and SAID he would help me out. I was only out a year because we had our 2nd child

Filing taxes while waiting for divorce to be final?

I worked the majority of 2011 and I am filing for divorce in Washington State. I want to pay off bills with the tax money (will be getting about $5000 back). I don’t plan on taking any lavish trips or buying flat screen t.v’s. I just want to pay bills off and be done with them. How does that work while waiting for a divorce to be finalized? I am also afraid of my husbands mother. She has always made little comments about if we ever got divorced she would fight to have my husband get full custody of our daughter. He is a wonderful father and in no way do I want to take her away from him but she has lived her entire life in the house I live in next to my parents. Her doctor is up here, her preschool is up here, etc. He moved 2.5 hours away. I have already filled out the proposed parenting plan but I am afraid his mother will hire a lawyer for him and try to take our daughter from me. I have child proofed my home as well.
Right now we are trading my daughter week by week but she NEEDS more structure and stability than that. She needs a stable place to live and it seems like I am the only one who realizes that. We went to marriage counseling and he laughed and joked the whole time. He didn’t want to go back, he refused. That really hurt my feelings but we DID try. Any advice is wonderful. Thank you. ALSO, I cannot afford a lawyer so comments about hiring a lawyer..thats out of the question.

when having marriage problems, should you…?

1. go to marriage counseling together (my proposal)
2. go to two different councelors (my husband´s proposal)

my husband is suffering from depression due to stress and long-term unemployment and I have a lot of selfesteem issues ….we are both questioning what we want and don´t want in life and in a turning point in life, we both suffer from a lot of stress due to studies and lack of money….we are in our mid thirties btw ..our main conflict is that my husband wants to move back to his city, about 6 hrs from here, and if he does going to marriage counceling together is not even an option, but he says that our individual happiness is more important than the marriage, does this mean he is ready to move on??? we have been together for 17 years… any wise words would be apreciated, thanks!!
can a temporarily break be a good thing for a couple btw??? any personal experiences?

Trying to figure out my marriage continued!?

We have done marriage counseling and I opted for individual counseling after that was over. When things are good I feel like they are being fake. I don’t like walking on eggshells in my own home. I feel like a punk because I let her get the best of me all the time. I dont loose my composure normally. I can get along personally and professionaly with people that I dislike and I know that they dislike me. The question is that when you have reached your max like I have and you think your done is there a way to end it without it being bad. I dont come from a family of divorce no one gets divorced in my family if they have a bad relationship tough SH## just stay together and hope for the best. I dont want a mediocre or bad relationship. However as weird as it sounds my wife really is my best friend but as a wife and husband it is horrible we have grown really apart. Do people ever stay friends after a divorce and if not how do you end it the right way. Oh yeah and I am really close with her family and she is really close with mine.

How Can I Get My Husband To Go To Counseling?

I’ve already asked this question, but I want more opinions.

My husband and I have been married for 2 years and all of a sudden he wants to divorce. It came out of nowhere and he never talked to me about it before. He moved in with his dad and we separated. I tried to make things work, and he said he would too, but then he went back to saying he wanted to split. I still love him, even though he’s put me through hell for the past three weeks. My head is telling me to just stop trying and try to move on, but my heart won’t let him go; it’s telling me to fight for him. I have loved him for almost 8 years now, and yes we’re young, but when I told him I would marry him, I meant forever and he knew that. He asked me twice and he picked the date (which was sooner than I actually wanted, but I wanted him). He’s hurt me so much, and I know that I should just stop and give in, but I just can’t. Not until I’ve done everything that I can. I would like to try marriage counseling, just for a while, and if it doesn’t help, I’ll sign the papers. But I’m sure that he’s not going to go for it. Not with his dad (who is on his 3rd or 4th wife and is a male chauvinistic pig in some cases) and other family members telling him how to handle it. I would like to just be able to sit in a neutral setting and at least try to work this out. I love him and I just don’t know what to do. How can I talk him into going to a counselor?

I don’t want to force him into the decision, I just want to figure out how I could possible persuade him; make it sound a bit more appealing than just quitting. I’ve never been a quitter, and he knew how I felt about this when we were dating.
Also, I just found out that we can’t file until we have been separated for at least 6 months.

How Can I Get My Husband To Go To Counseling?

I’ve already asked this question, but I want more opinions.

My husband and I have been married for 2 years and all of a sudden he wants to divorce. It came out of nowhere and he never talked to me about it before. He moved in with his dad and we separated. I tried to make things work, and he said he would too, but then he went back to saying he wanted to split. I still love him, even though he’s put me through hell for the past three weeks. My head is telling me to just stop trying and try to move on, but my heart won’t let him go; it’s telling me to fight for him. I have loved him for almost 8 years now, and yes we’re young, but when I told him I would marry him, I meant forever and he knew that. He asked me twice and he picked the date (which was sooner than I actually wanted, but I wanted him). He’s hurt me so much, and I know that I should just stop and give in, but I just can’t. Not until I’ve done everything that I can. I would like to try marriage counseling, just for a while, and if it doesn’t help, I’ll sign the papers. But I’m sure that he’s not going to go for it. Not with his dad (who is on his 3rd or 4th wife and is a male chauvinistic pig in some cases) and other family members telling him how to handle it. I would like to just be able to sit in a neutral setting and at least try to work this out. I love him and I just don’t know what to do. How can I talk him into going to a counselor?

I don’t want to force him into the decision, I just want to figure out how I could possible persuade him; make it sound a bit more appealing than just quitting. I’ve never been a quitter, and he knew how I felt about this when we were dating.
Also, I just found out that we can’t file until we have been separated for at least 6 months.
**EDIT**
The reasons that he keeps giving are just lame excuses, like we were too young (which he asked me twice and set the date, so I know that’s a cop-out). There hasn’t been any real reason for it. One minute he was fine, and the next he wasn’t.
***EDIT***
Zeke S – - My name is Zanders Mommy because that is my son’s name (who I lost during the 13th week of pregnancy).

Dating While Separated?

I’ve been separated from my husband for 3 months now. He doesn’t love me anymore and he refuses to work with me on our marriage. He refuses to go to counseling with me, whereas, I’ve been to counseling.
I even tried to read marriage self help books and got him to read but he said the book(s) make sense but it doesn’t apply to him because he doesn’t love me anymore and quits on our marriage.
I invited him to where I was living and he stayed with me and my son for 3 weeks before flying back home. He didn’t do anything to help improve our relationship while he came to visit. He keeps rejecting me over and over and constantly disrespects me. It’s frustating to save my marriage on my own.

I’ve been seeing another man while I was separated. We just hang out as friends and he knows about my situation and he’s okay with it. We have NOT been intimate but we have feelings and care deeply for each other. I was advised by my lawyer that if I’m going date while I’m still married, to not introduce my children to him and to keep my relationship “discreet”.

Need your opinions.
This man I’m seeing happened by accident. It’s not like I was “looking” for someone on purpose.

my husband have no erection what should i do?

we have intimacy about 3 times in a period of 6 to 8 months and from those 3 times twice didnt have and erection ,we have 12 years marriage 3 kids ,he lieves in the morningh after work go to the gym every day even sunday come home about 6:30 pm and seat to watch tv till i put the kids to bed then we talk for a bout 2 or 3 minuts and then he go to sleep .dont know what to do anymore i feel invisible most of times i get depress i dont now what to do i try books counseling nothing seems to work ;he call me e few times during the day to tell me that he loves me ,that he dont now how to live without me,always in the phone even during dinner he tells me is work any ideas ?

Ladies and Men: What would you do?

Ladies: You’ve reached the point where you try to walk out the door and he won’t let you. You’ve a child and realize it’s important to work things out – he says he is working on it, but refuses to meet you halfway. He thinks you’re unreasonable for asking for ‘YOU’ time yet he has asked you to put your goals on hold while he reaches his. He says he loves you but only shows it when he wants sex. You are 8 years older than him; he’s 25. You want this to work but he’s difficult, stubborn and judgmental. This makes you feel desperate, frustrated and confused. You try everything; books, counseling and try to communicate in any way you can. At this point you are feeling somewhat exhausted and you’re beginning to neglect your appearance and your relationships with your friends and children. How do you make a final move?

Men: Where is this man coming from? Could you provide some male perspective? If this was your sister, what would you tell her? Does it sound like a convenience factor? I’ve never been in a relationship like this. We’ve been together for 2.5 years; he’s never had a long-term relationship and I’ve had several, including a marriage.

I’m not afraid to be single but I’m afraid to be a quitter, quickly.

what can i do?

I love my husband more than life itself. But he’s frustrating because he’s a closed book so to speak. He works very long hours and when he comes home, he doesn’t seem to have much to say to me. He’s very quiet. Sometimes i wonder how we ever fell in love he’s always been like this. But now i’m starting to feel alone in the marriage. He won’t go to marriage counseling. Is there any hope left? plus, we are TTC and now i’m worried because I feel like even though i’m married…i’ll be a single mother. it’s making me have doubts. anyone else have this issue?

Did couples therapy help you?

Did going to therapy with your spouse help your relationship at all?

Anyone attend couples therapy/premarital counseling? What was your experience like??

My fiancee and I are planning on attending couples therapy. We don’t have any major issues, but a few minor ones. We recently broke up because he was all of a sudden experiencing commitment issues….he broke up with me saying things moved too fast and he wasn’t ready for a serious relationship. After me refusing to speak to him for 2 months (I was deeply hurt), he apologized and wanted to work things out. He explained that he felt like he was losing his individuality and his sense of self. We still want to be together and get married, and we are planning on attending couples therapy to help us work things out.
I would like to know if anyone has attended couples therapy and if it helped?????
Is this the right kind of therapy we should attend for our situation??????

Is couples therapy usually successful?

Married or not?

Couples Therapy? What if one person has insurance and one doesn’t?

I have called around to litterally 5 different therapists and none of them have answered their phone. I don’t get it, but anyways I left messages. My husband has Post Traumatic Stress Disorder as well as Borderline Personality Disorder and I read that sometimes they do couples Therapy or Family Therapy. I would really like to do this with my husband and he wants to as well. I am wondering how they bill you though. How do you bill a Couple when only one has insurnace?

does texas mediciad cover marriage counseling?

my wife and i are a low income family and are wondering if texas medicaid covers marriage counseling.

Family therapy, marriage therapy, indivdual therapy, how do they all fit together?

I’m not sure how to approach this, we decided to go to therapy of some kind. I am married. We have two young kids 2 and 5.
I feel like all four of us need to go individually, plus as a family, plus my husband and I need to go to work on us. Is that what family counseling is?
Or would we seriously need to do each thing seperate, therapy, play therapy, marriage counseling, AND family counseling????
Because thats a LOT of therapy. Lol
And can kids as young as ours, benefit from family counseling?

Where should a wanna be marriage counselor volunteer at?

For an undergrad psychology major who wants to go to grad school to do family and marriage counseling to boost grad school applications.

Any good masters counseling programs in Ohio?

So far, all I have is Ohio State University and University of Toledo. Does anyone know of any other good M.A. programs for community counseling, marriage and family therapy or other therapy/counseling programs?

What type of background or education?

Do some of you have to be able to counsel about marriage? I have posted a few questions and found a lot of very good answers through you guys..I was just wondering if there any true counselors amongst you or what type of education and background do you have? I’m trying to figure out if education has anything to do with a more efficient way to handle issues in marriage…..Just curious!

Really messed my relationship up willing to pay $ for real help?

i have posted other questions which i have received answers for but now its serious i made some serious mistakes and now i have lost my wife and kids she went to florida where her parents live and i am in ny. i know i have made mistakes but i am willing to go the distance and pay someone to really help me out to get her back. i will try marriage counseling when she gets back to ny. i have even started seeing a regular counselor now. i just dont want to spend christmas alone and i want to prove that i truly am sorry for the mistakes i have made. when we talk she sometimes says she wants to work this out and she even says she loves me then other times she is so mean and says she doesnt. like i said if anyone can provide me with real help i am willing to pay you. my email is draconixtechnology@yahoo.com or aim s/n is rwb9900

Fear of marriage and hatred towards girls? You may hear this type of question at the first time in your life?

I have asked this question several times in yahoo answers. But it does not mean that I am violating the guidelines.
I fear to marry. But the reason is a different one than those of other persons who fear marriage. When I hear the word marriage a palpitation occurs in my heart. The reason is that marriage occurs only once in life. I fear that whether the girl is a virgin. There is no proof for virginity. I also fear that my spouse may not be faithful to me. I have seen about 4 psychologists. They give several medicines but in vain. They send me to counseling. Three or four counselors advised me. But in vain.
You may feel this question as a silly one because “in your country virginity is not a dignity”. But in my country it is the only thing having dignity. The counselors said ” you should try”. But if I can try why should I consult them. Do you have any suggestion?

The counsellors taught me mental exercises for relief and taught meditation. I am physically getting healthy day by day by doing this, but day by day I am mentally getting depressed.
Your answer may be like this:
“Marry a girl who you know a lot about her”.
But I can’t even believe my cousin. What should I do?

Are there Korean counselors in Portland Oregon?

I apologize for this repeated question.

Ms Kimchi, I was wondering if you had found a suitable counselor, and if so, if you could provide contact info. My spouse and I live in Portland. Many thanks for your help.

Original question follows:

http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index?qid=20081206225018AAVhuaM

My Korean husband (who barely speaks English) and I are in need of marriage counseling and he is having major adjustment issues living in the U.S (we live in Oregon).

We need to see a marriage counselor, but live in a small city in Oregon, where there are no bilingual counselors/organizations.

Does anyone know, especially any of you who are Korean, of any support organizations (churches, groups, psychologists) where we can connect with someone to help find us counseling? I can’t seem to find anyone.

Is it time for divorce or counseling?

Weve been married for 25+ years. The spark seems to be gone…and so does the love….We went to the Bucket list the other night and Morgan Freeman said (while talking about his wife) ” How do you go through life with someone that you used to be not able to walk down the street with holding their hand, and now dont even think about it.” I started thinking about my own marriage, that was us….now there is no intimacy, unless you count the habbit of us kissing each other good bye, there is no touching no hugging no sex at all anymore, we both have busy careers, both work about 60 hours a week and I work swing shift….but we used to always make time for each other now it seems like a chore..I started to tear up in the movie..she looked over at me sniffeling and said ” What the hell is wrong with you, this is a funny movie and your crying?” She didnt get it. Ive never cheated and wont(while we are married)….but it just hurts and Im thinking Its over and time to move on…….any help?

i don’t love my wife but i love my son!?

I have been married for 12 years. for the last 2 plus years my wife and i have been going to marriage counseling to work on our relationship. we have been to and are still seeing our 3rd counselor. the counselors have asked her to see a shrink to get help for herself and she hasn’t done it yet! i have done all that was asked of me and i still have absolutely no feelings towards her. we tried the “love dare” and she bombed that in the first week. i’m thinking it‘s time for me to move on and get a divorce. so here is my problem, we have a 9 year old son and while i love coming home from work for my son i dread it at the same time because she is there. i don’t love her and there is no affection in the house with us at all and hasn’t been for several (7) years. i want to do what is best for my son and have researched the effects of divorce on children. i’m hopeful that there are people out there that have had positive results for their children through the divorce and re-marriage process. i’m asking for your input as a divorced parent, what happened to your kid(s)?

My wife of seven years wants to have a “break” but doesn’t want a divorce.?

I told her that a break to me is the first step toward divorce but she says that she feels differently. Plus she wants me to leave the house and the kids not the other way around. Our kids are 5 and 3, I’m not going to just walk out on them. She says that she wants me to take more responsibility around the house. Such as cleaning, laundry, repairing, regular maintenance and now I am doing those things. She feels that if she doesn’t have to do these things then that is me showing her how much I love and respect her.
I offered to go to marriage counseling and she agreed then when we got there she told the counselor that she didn’t want to be married anymore but would stay just for the kids. But now she feels that is not enough reason to stay. Here’s the thing after one session with the counselor she said she doesn’t want to go to marriage counseling anymore just individual counseling by ourselves. This was now 6 months ago but she still doesn’t want to go to marriage counseling just individual. I keep going to my counselor to find way to better our marriage but it is a two way street. No sex in about 8 months now and she is now sleeping in the spare bedroom. But yet she tells me that she loves me and wants to do things with me. Oh yes and I am doing things like flowers, notes, cards and small presents – romantic things. She always throws her arms around me and gives me a big kiss then tells me that she loves me but nothing more.
Any advice here on what should I do? Leave, Stay? Continue to work on the marriage? What???

Marriage heading for divorce HELP?

I am not a perfect wife or mother but I do my best and I don’t think that I deserve to be lied too all the time. That is the problem with my marriage. My husband sneaks around my back to smoke pot or hang out with friends when he’s supposed to be at work then he lies to me about it! I am not a square either, I would like to hang out even though I don’t like pot. I don’t understand. Don’t say it‘s that he needs space either because he travels for a living and spends a lot of time out of town for jobs that last 3 to 12 days at a time. When I catch him in a lie it makes me mad for so long and I treat him like crap and our relationship falls apart. But eventually I give him a chance and things will be good for a couple weeks before the whole cycle starts again. We can not afford counseling btw. I already suggested that to him.

How do I make our marriage more exciting…?

Mrs Swipe and I have been for marriage counselling, and one of the things they suggested is that we should spice up our sex life. Please… no lurid comments.

I have taken advice… and all the indications are that the ‘Good Lady’ errs on the side of something called ‘Vanilla’? I have no idea what that means.

I have however… bought a load of stuff on line from ‘dungeonproducts.com’. I am planning to surprise her on christmas morning with several crates of the stuff. I hope she likes it, because it cost me a fortune. I also downloaded a booklet about orifices. Apparently… there are more than two.

Does anyone have any suggestions as to what I should do with all this stuff? Also… where can I buy cheap batteries in bulk…?

my husband goes out without me to party and drink, but says he wants a baby. What should I do?

One night I was waiting for him to come home from playing poker. I woke up at 330 and had to call him to come home; he said he was passed out on a friend’s couch. the rest of the weekend he acted funny and then finally on Sunday night he told me that on that night he had been at a party and was alone in a truck with an ex girlfriend told him that he’s what she misses the most about the area, how much she was hurt when they separated, etc. He says it was never physical, but when I question him about the conversation, he tells me the above things, and adds that that’s “basically it.” He’s been asking if we could have a baby, but once this happened I told him that he needed to prove to me that he can be the kind of husband that doesn’t need to go out and party without me and drink every time he is out with friends. He gets mad if I question him at all about the incident, and says he just wants me to be happy again and get over this. Anytime we try to talk about this he tells me that he thinks I’m looking for on “out” to end the relationship. We’ve had sex once since then, but all I could picture was him with her, even though I believe him when he says they weren’t physical. I had been seeing a counselor before all this happened due to depression and a history of abuse as a child that I had never fully dealt with. I felt like I was really making progress. I’m off of anti-depressants and I’m in a job I love and was looking forward to starting a family. His main concern about marriage counseling is whether or not it costs more that my counseling, which I am paying for on my own. I have been a mess, and hate coming home lately because of my negative thoughts about my marriage and my husband. Any thoughts?

Why do people always say..”go to counseling.” Do they know how much counseling?

costs???? In CA it is $250.00 to $500.00 bucks an hour!…I do not know about you; but way too EXPENSIVE for me. I just feel people need to solve their problems themselves or if they CAN’T then “go your separate way”….I am sure you could go to a pastor; but he will NOT ask the correct questions to save the marriage; but you can go. It may be cheaper. What do you think???

What course I take to become a counsellor in Ottawa?

I have just moved to Ottawa from Australia and would like to begin studying. I want to study counselling to become a marriage and relationships counsellor.

What course do I take?
Where is this course offered and how much does it cost?