Love and marriage may go together like a horse and carriage but sometimes they become unhitched. Marriage without love is like a carriage without a horse…one without the other is not going anywhere. Perhaps your marriage is suffering a severe lack of love and you’re thinking about mounting the nearest available horse and getting the heck out of marriageville.

Wait! Maybe you and your spouse should seek counseling…or better yet be your own counselor.It can be done but it demands a saturated plan of action from both the spouse.

Most couples, in time of trouble, resort to their basic instincts of hate, disrespect, demands and anger.There goes the honour and love that will finally be replaced by hate which could turn out into separation.

You must take action to avoid divorce which is a life changing occurrence, usually not for the better.Make a plan to restore your love and respect.You’ve been playing your marriage by year day by day and trusting your inherent aptitude. This may work for awhile, even a few years, but as marriage breeds apathy you must seek and plan for a rekindling of that old flame

Remember how emotional you were when you first fell in love?When you’re in love with someone your feelings enable you to contribute to each other’s emotional needs.These range from being trustworthy, admiring, communicating and being lovable.You must have realize these qualities quite naturally early in your relationship. But, as love faded so did your emotions.

Love, no doubt, is the most important quality in a relationship but it takes more sometimes to make a marriage survive. It requires your readiness and ability to care and protect each other. Half hearted love and commitment will make it difficult to swim upstream when the waters get rough.

Know that love is both give and take, but if you’re keeping score of how much you give and your spouse takes your marriage might be doomed from the start. There will be both giving and receiving of bads and goods. Sometimes you’re the giver and sometimes the taker. Know how to do both with love and affection.

It may demand for a change in your behavioral method. If you’re prone to angry outbursts and criticizing replace these with calmness and compliments.Making your better half feel good is something you should enjoy doing. Husbands and wives need a certain amount of united attention. Don’t let volunteer work, family, work or children get in the way.

Being your own counselor you must learn to arbitrate and come to a joint contract that is pleasant and considerate. Look at the problems from all sides and that could include more than yours and your spouse.Brainstorm and offer productive solutions.If you get angry, stop mediating and come back later.

Nobody said marriage is easy and neither is being your own marriage counselor.You should make a move to become a better spouse in hopes of recovering your marriage.
Believe in yourself and you will believe in others.

There are few marriages that do not need help in maintaining their relationship. A marriage without a good relationship is probably a marriage that’s not going to last. If it does last, those involved are usually not very happy and content.

You can ask What’s the difference between a marriage and a relationship. A marriage is a bond formed by two people in holy matrimony; and in the eyes of man and the law they are united and only death or divorce can separate them.

A relationship is a meaningful feeling that’s formed after marriage and will continue to grow and deepen as long as the marriage is maintained. Relationships should actually begin long before the wedding vows are given.

It’s easy to tell if your marriage needs relationship help although others may notice it long before you. Tell tell signs include going to functions but going alone and offering excuses for the spouse not attending.

If you are together, you’re constantly criticizing each other and complaining about numerous petty annoyances. Or, it can go to the other extreme and you sit with each other but never talk. No matter what the other does or talks about, it’s boring and uninteresting.

Other signs of a declining relationship might be a dramatic lack of interest in the intimacy department. You’re both young and attractive, yet the spark isn’t there anymore while you fantasize about others.

Affection from your relationship is not enduring. There are no hugs, no kisses and no one says I love you. Human beings need to be touched to feel worthy, happy and satisfied. Touching part is a important ingredient of a successful marriage relationship.

Jealousy can be a turn off for your partner if carried to extremes. For the person who’s jealous he or she may withdraw from being intimate because they may view their partner as being unfaithful. For the person who’s being accused of wrong doing, they could also hide feelings being tired of the constant badgering of jealous questions.

Be sure you’re not magnifying the circumstances while establishing basic rules for both of you to follow. If jealousy is a continuing problem and is growing, you should seek help.If you want to return in your relationship, jealousy has to be stopped.

Relationship problems can arise from debt. Deficiency of enough money in a marriage is usually a reason of concern but two people working together on a budget to live within their means can overcome a small income.

It’s when one or both spend too much money and the marriage begins to drown in debt that the relationship also begins to sink. Debt can literally drain the life blood from a once loving relationship.

All marriages suffer day to day problems in their relationship. Conflicts and disagreements are common and should be expected. Just take a relationship inventory from time to time to determine if you and your spouse are where you want to be. If adjustments are necessary make them and move forward.

Shane in Springfield, Missouri has a problem with his wife. He says that after a long day at work, he just wants to unwind a bit. His wife, on the other hand, wants to tell him every detail of her day.

Steve, this problem is really common for married couples to have. In my book, I explain the intimacy paradox, which says that in a great marriage, you want to achieve 100% acceptance of yourself and 100% acceptance of your partner. This means accepting her behavior of telling you everything about herself when you are tired. See if you can tell her that you need to unwind a bit, and that you will listen to her during dinner. But make sure that after she does give you a bit of time to unwind, you really listen to her, and not just let your eyes glaze over. If you get into a good routine, soon you will both be enjoying these conversations.

Jared from Sacramento says that his wife wants more romance, but when he asks her what she wants, she says that it isn’t romantic if she has to tell him what to do.

Well Jared, you’re not the only person who has this problem. Whether it is romance, housework or earning money, nearly every couple has disagreements on the right amount of something in their marriage. There are many different marriage types; each one is neither better nor worse than the other. I’m sure you know what being romantic includes, but you may not know how to put romance back into your relationship if it has been missing for a while. You can’t go wrong with a warm smile, a dinner at her favorite restaurant, a love note or taking the kids out of her hair for a bit. If you listen to your wife, she’ll probably give you more than enough hints on what she likes. Just don’t shoot down what she says before you consider it.

Missy from Des Moines is worried about people finding out that her husband always lies about their children. She says that he tells their friends blatant lies, for example, inventing college degrees and leaving out their DUIs.

Missy, it is important for you to see where your husband is coming from. In my latest book, I talk about different marriage plans, or marriage blueprints. If he selected his marriage blueprint, he would probably choose the ‘Royal Family’; a type that is very concerned about their view in society and what people think of them. Give your husband a copy of my book, “You Don’t Have to Change Who You Are to Have a Good Marriage”, and read it with him together. The intimacy paradox, which says that a great marriage is possible when you accept your spouse 100% as he is, will be useful for you. Your husband may find the intimacy paradox interesting and also the exercise on how to lower his defenses. Good luck with changing your marriage, without changing yourself!

The dictionary defines union as an act of uniting or joining two or more things into one.
The union of marriage is a good example of the joining together of two people as one. Anytime two things are joined together, it takes a concerted effort and determination. When two unlike materials are drawn together in an effort to merge them into one there is a certain natural resistance.

Marriage, however, is a natural union and even though there may be resistance and friction in the beginning, when the union is made the people who are united become stronger as one. Love and commitment is the glue that bonds it together and over the years this bond becomes stronger as love endures all things.

Most marriages are stronger in the beginning and grow weaker as love becomes routine and is oft times taken for granted. As strong as your love and dedication to your spouse may be in the beginning, it’s more vulnerable than you realize if you fail to plan.

Yes, it takes more than love to maintain the durability of your marriage union. Together you must map out a strategy on how to maintain your love in spite of day to day pressures and temptations. It takes hard work and commitment but the sanctity of marriage is worth every sacrifice as you build a life and family together.

Early in the marriage, with the shock of leaving the family who has raised you and guided you in your early years, you could experience a feeling of loneliness and even jealousy. If your spouse is too busy with business or household demands to give you the attention you think you deserve and need it’s easy to seek comfort with another.

This could lead to cheating and even divorce if you give into the temptations of satisfying your lonely heart. Those who have developed a balance of closeness and independence in their marriage make the conversion much easier than those who are less secure. Make the extra effort to form a bond that will last forever by maintaining the spark that drew you together in the first place.

Know that this is not unusual. Most couples suffer from many seemingly unresolvable differences and as this conflict grows it can divide your union. Fight the tendency to withdraw and hope things will get better. Without a good approach, it rarely does. Closeness is harder to restore if you put your marriage on hold while you proceed with the demands of every day living.

One spouse may view the situation as feeling overloaded with business pressures and being hit with too many demands while the other feels neglected and even bored. Start early to avoid these issues and build a positive attitude in your relationship.

If there is something you dislike about the other, talk it over and resolve the matter or it will only grow and persist to the point of annoyance and resentment. Be interested in each other after the marriage as you were before.

No matter how busy you are, make time for the person you love. Start with love and commitment, mix in a little strategy with a workable plan and your will forge a union that is unbreakable.

Dr. Max Vogt
From Dr. Max Vogt
America’s Best Marriage Counselor
www.EasyMarriageCounseling.com

Now you know if you read my blog or get my email messages that I write almost exclusively about relationship issues.

99.9% of my messages to you are my heartfelt and very sincere attempt to help out in your marriage or that of someone you love.

I hear from people all the time that my emails have helped them in their marriage, or that they have passed them on to a loved one (daughter or son or friend) to help them in their marriage.

That truly touches me because it’s been my life’s work to help people have great marriages, in my opinion one of the greatest experiences we can have in this lifetime (yet great marriages are alarmingly rare).

AND you also know that one of the biggest contributors to relationship unhappiness is… financial! More fights are about finances than all other areas of marriage put together.

And outside of infidelity or falling out of love and trying to get it back, the next most common thing I’m asked about is how to handle financial discussions and really solve them. In many cases the answer could simply be making a little more money a month. What is the expression? More month than money?

The curious thing is that in lots of marriages it’s not a matter of them being flat broke or anything, it’s a matter of only a few hundred dollars a month that separate them from being relaxed in their daily life financially… and which can make the difference between having a home and losing it.

Another thing you may NOT know is that there are people who are still making exceptional incomes through internet businesses… people whose incomes have not diminished one bit during this time, and who are thriving.

Becoming wealthy through online business is not a myth as some think either. Being a somewhat well known person on the internet, I can vouch for the fact that quite a few of my friends are making very large ongoing incomes through their internet businesses.

Now what does that have to do with you?

A lot, but only if you have interest in increasing your income and stopping the conflict around your house (again, IF you have any! and most of us do) about paying the bills, having any money left over for fun, sending kids to college and other things.

Now here’s the problem, and I know this problem intimately, from first hand blood, sweat and tears. The internet marketing experts make it sound like it’s easy to do internet business and become wealthy in your spare time with no prior knowledge and no understanding of internet business at all.

Well that’s just bullshit, or at least I thought it was up until now. You see I’ve poured a ton of my own personal time, energy and money into becoming a success online and I promise you that as smart and experienced as I am – and despite the success I’m experiencing now, if I knew then what I know now, I never would have started the process. That’s just the honest truth.

I could have made more money with less effort doing other things, and until I began being successful I constantly wondered if I had made the right choice to dedicate so my of myself to internet business.

It’s just too time consuming, too hard and there are way too many things you have to know to become a successful internet entrepreneur. Also, spending as much time as I have on the computer (I won’t even say how many hours a day) is hard on the body and even on the soul. It can be truly soulless, grinding and difficult.

I’ve done a lot of difficult things in my life, but getting an internet business to a successful level is without a doubt the hardest.

And yet the prize… the prize is passive residual income. The kind of income where you make money 24 hours a day 7 days a week no matter what you are doing. That’s of course why we go through all this learning curve.

That of course is the real draw, the promise, the reward. And that’s what I’d like you to have.

But I don’t want you to go through all the years of education, the frustration, the sedentary lifestyle, the sleep deprivation, the money suck of paying internet marketing experts only to find that they are just rehashing all the old things that “used to work” and repackaging it to you now that they have moved on to doing other things.

So you see my dilemma? I want you to be able to have the rewards of internet business but without the terrible draining punishment, losses and frustrations.

So I’ve kept my eyes out for quite a while for something which would have the benefits of everything I know about internet business but with none or very few of the drawbacks, something I thought I could recommend to you.

A good friend of mine showed me something which I think very well may be the answer – something with all the benefits but few drawbacks.

In fact it is free to join, and in fact I was one of the very first people to join up.

I am telling you about this because it is fresh, a brand new perspective, and to my trained eye it looks like it will be an effective and super simple way to make very good residual income. It doesn’t involve selling soap or herbs, so don’t worry.

It only involves giving people access to excellent information they are looking for already and want eagerly to know about.

Please take a few minutes to click this link and watch this video and see this page. It may not be of any interest to you but then again it might be an answer to your financial prayers. I hope this helps you and I believe it will.

As always I say,

To your great relationship future,
Dr. Max Vogt

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