
Susan asks…
NVQ 3 Beauty Therapy Work Experience?
Im a Level 3 student and supposed to be doing Work Experience at a Beauty Salon in a couple of weeks. Im just wondering what to expect? Do I have to carry out any treatments like Pedicures, Manicures and waxing? Or is it again just stocking, filling, towels and booking appointments?
No guesses please, just people who actually know the answer!

MarriageCounseling answers:
You will be expected to do a bit of everything.

Michael asks…
is acting a form of therapy???
I heard a couple of actors beat depression without meds and all that extra stuff. I’ve been thinking about acting a long time. I read a book on emotions and stuff that helps actors be the best they can be. They feed off of the bad in their lives..past and present. I somehow see myself doing that same thing. I was wondering is it known that acting is some form of therapy? I’m sure it is but I was wondering everyone else’ input.

MarriageCounseling answers:
Let me ask you this…does acting make you feel good? Does it open your creativity to levels you wernt aware you had? Does it make you forget about current situations and allow you to enjoy the freedom of being someone different? If yes,to any of these, than its damn good therapy. Anything that makes you happy can only be good for the mind and soul. Regardless of what it is. Hope this helps.

Robert asks…
Should I give my emotionally unstable mother another chance? I’m 35yrs old, her only daughter in a good place
After years of self help books, a couple of years of therapy, and taking time to heal from years of neglect that I endured as a child, I’m finally coming into my own. about 8-9 yrs ago my parents divorced – a good thing and a long time coming. My father was horrible to her – and I’m sure she’s suffered from battered womans syndrome. The problem is, when she divorced my father, she divorced herself from all of her offspring ( I have 3 brothers). I pleaded with her to take this chance to renew our relationship, she looked me dead in the eyes and said I gave 30 some odd years to my family, now I’m taking 30 some odd yrs for myself. I figured we all had soo many issues from our dysfunctional family, we all needed time. 2/3 years after her estrangement, I saw her getting on a bus, asked to xchange contact info, she denied me. Last yr. we contacted each other, it was unhealthy and unstable almost most of the time we got together, she stopped calling. Now she wants to try again. Help

MarriageCounseling answers:
You should do what you feel is right for you.
You should also consider her situation while you was a child.
She most probable thought she was doing the best that she could in the situations she has been in and didn’t know any different.
I would be careful though, and make sure you are strong enough to deal with her.
And you should also be aware that she could go ahead and do the same thing to you again – be ready for that.
Have you got anyone you can talk your feelings through with?
If you like, you could email me and I will be a ear for you to vent any emotions on to.
Atreehugger@yahoo.com.
Good luck x.

James asks…
why do i feel no pain? shouldn’t i feel sad or mad? or something?
i am breaking up with my bf of 4 years. we have just been back and forth with the fighting and bickering. he is verbally abusive and i told him that i can’t take it anymore. i have asked him over the last 4 years what we need to do to change our relationship for the better and he rarely takes the initiative to change. he always says that i need to change first. according to him, it is my actions that lead to his reaction and if i eliminate my actions than his reactions will stop. but i do not control the nasty things that come out of his mouth. he calls me bi*ch, cu*t, ect. does not apologoze and says i bring it on myself. i have went through so many of his “i can change” things… it is only temporary. that is why this time i am leaving seriusly. i moved out of state with him and he is getting worse. i am not sure if it is because i am 10 hrs away from my family or what but he is just so bad… worse than ever. and he does not want to goet help with a counsalor or couples therapy. i am not even married to him. my dad and mom want me back home, 10 hrs away from where i am… and i do too. i am leavinf next saturday. i have cried so many times in the past and up until recently… but within the last 3 or 4 days i have just felt like “hey i can do this… and it will be ok”… i am reading a book called “it is called a breakup because its broken” and it has shead some light. now it is like i am immune to his comments and i just dont even care if he was around or not. shouldnt i be irrational, angry, irratic, hysterical, or feel some emotion? when will i????

MarriageCounseling answers:
There’s nothing at all wrong with the way you’re feeling. You’ve said it yourself, there is no willingness on his part to get counseling nor to make permanent changes, you “bring it on yourself”" (LMFAO!), your actions cause his reactions…Lordy, Lordy, Lordy!
Kudos for wanting better in life and the courage to move on!
That you’re not feeling the negative fallout is because you’ve recognized that you’ve taken as much of his crap as you were able to handle, all the while offering viable solutions…suffice to say, you’re emotionally ready and able to let go.
I’ve never read the book you mentioned but the title sure makes sense!
I know we gravitate towards people we’re comfortable with, even those with abusive traits. We don’t have to like their behavior, we’re comfortable with it.
Not knowing your background, I would strongly suggest counseling for yourself. Because you were drawn to him, there’s likely something in your past that a counselor could help you recognize where the attraction was, why you stayed as long as you did and how to avoid making the same mistake in the future.
You’re right when you say: “hey i can do this… And it will be ok”…you deserve far more than tears and abuse. Just keep believing in you!
If you need a cheerleader, email me!
All the very best and I’m sending a cyber hug
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