Your Questions About Marriage Therapy Books

Absolutely gorgeous! But don’t know what to do..?

I am studying sex therapy. It’s really interesting and intriguing to say the least. I’m doing my own little study on the side though to make sense of something that’s been on my mind that simply can’t be answered by a single person who, frankly, knows too much for their own good (talking about the authors to the books I’ve read).

If you could answer the following questions, that would be amazing! I’ll be happy to answer your questions if you leave the link aswell =)

1) What is your sex (female/male)?
2) What is your age?
3) What is your job or career (if applicable)?
4) Are you a virgin?
5) How, when and where did you loose your virginity (if applicable)?
6) What is your fetish or fantasy that you’ve always wanted played out?
7) Is marriage in your future? What is your sexual orientation? Do you believe in gay-marriage?

Thank you so much!
Give as many details as possible please! Guys, I need more of yal answers too lol!

MY HUSBAND IS A SCHIZOID!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!?

After years of wrecking my brain clueless as for what’s the reason my husband feels so uncomfortable having sex, and socializing. After tons of research, self and professional therapy, i came across the word schizoid. I was reading one of my spiritual religious books for some inner strength. The author clearly stated that communication isn’t always the best problem solver. She said that people who insist on communicating instead of acting waiting and seeing what others do for the right reasons(not cause we made a case)probably suffer from some form of personality disorder! Now it never occurred to me that this could be the problem.So i did some reasearch and came across schizoid. WOW!!!!!!! The characteristics ,signs and symptoms where that of my husbands to the T . Now he hasn’t been diagnosed but i been in a confusing marriage for 6yrs, i lived with him for 8 and know him for 10. I think i can pretty much say he defanitly has all the signs and symptoms .
Anyone married to a schizoid . how can i cope with this. I know we all suffer from some form of personality disorder. but to have all the symptoms is a problem. I’ve stayed in this relationship because i do believe in honoring the vows i took with him. But it really tough.

My wife left me and the boys and she won’t talk to me about us.?

My wife has been upset with me for years. The last few years we have been fighting more often. We have got to the point that she left me with our teenage boys and moved to a different state, she said she’d return in four months. It’s been 2 months now. We relocated and she doesn’t know anyone here. I offered to move out, but she wanted to leave. I don’t think I understood why she was upset, but I’ve been reading and even gone to my first therapy session. I’ve been reading a book “Good Husband Great Marriage“, recommended by the therapist. I see what she’s been saying all these years. I need to talk to her more, be appreciative, and it’s not all about me. I’ve made so many mistakes. I want to make the corrections, but it’s hard to show these to her when she is so far away. I make an effort to take to her each day, but I don’t feel like we are ever talking about us. — Lonely

Married for a year & unable to be intimate…please help?

My husband & I have been married for just over a year. Lately I can NOT be intimate with him & I don’t know why. I’ve tried talking to him and he’s trying to help me, but neither one of us knows whats going on. I spoke with my Dr and she recommended sex therapy but of course my insurance doesn’t cover it and I don’t have $200 a week to go on my own w/o insurance. Every time we try and I fail it gets worse the next time (does that make sense), I think now I’ve put so much pressure on myself that even if I was able to be intimate physicaly I still wouldn’t be able to mentaly. Please help. Any suggestions, web-sites with useful information, books, ANYTHING at all I’m willing to look in to…I don’t want my marriage to end. Thanks for your help.
By can’t be intimate I mean, I physicaly and mentaly am unable to have sex. if we really forcesed issue and tried having sex anyways it would be just as a stranger was forcing himself on me. my body is completely shut down
I wanted to thank everyone who has responded thus far. I truly appreciate your advice. I myself have many issues from my past, I know these issues contribute to the stiutation, as they always have, but it has never been this severe. Thank you again, I hope I can save my marriage and/or keep my husband from maybe looking somewhere else to get what he needs and deserves.