Donna asks…
Marriage question?
My husband and I have been married for 6 years. During a recent disagreement, my husband said he doesn’t know for sure that he should have married me. But he says he doesn’t believe in divorce. It’s been a couple of weeks now, but I still can’t get it off my mind that if he had it to do over again, he may not have married me. Is he just “stuck” with me then? I don’t feel as attracted to him anymore as I used to be if you know what I mean. I thought about getting some counseling, but I can’t afford it as I have no money. What, if anything, should I do?
I did tell him how much his remark hurt me, but he just shrugged his shoulders and hasn’t recanted.
MarriageCounseling answers:
Sounds like you’re married to a lazy, self-centered, abusive creep. He wants to make sure you don’t feel a sense of comfort in the marriage, yet he would never file for divorce himself. He believes in abusing women, but not in divorce. Nice guy! I would start to agree with him. Tell him, “you know, you’re right, I’m not sure we should have gotten married at all and I feel the same as you. The only difference is that I believe in divorce. Therefore, I need to take the next few weeks and consider my beliefs. Then, you take off for a few days and go somewhere. Go to mom’s house, sister’s house, go to a hotel. Just get out of the house for 3 days. See what happens.
Linda asks…
marriage survey, please answer for my research paper!?
1. What is your age?18-2526-3536-4545+
2. What is your spouse/significant other’s age? 18-2526-3536-4545+
3. Are you living with your spouse or significant other?YES / NO
4. How long have you been living together?<1 year 1-3 years 3-5 years5+ years
5. Are you currently married?YES / NO
6. How many times have you been married?01234+
7. How many children do you have?01234+
Answer the following questions based on your level of agreement with the statement:
1-Strongly disagree 2-Disagree 3-Don’t know or N/A 4-Agree 5-Strongly Agree
8. Marriage means forever:12345
9. You can have a committed “forever” relationship and not be married: 1 2 3 4 5
10. Couples should go through pre-marital counseling:12345
11. You should be married before you have children:12345
MarriageCounseling answers:
1. What is your age? 30
2. What is your spouse/significant other’s age? Almost 30
3. Are you living with your spouse or significant other? YES
4. How long have you been living together? 1 year
5. Are you currently married? YES
6. How many times have you been married? 2
7. How many children do you have? 2
Answer the following questions based on your level of agreement with the statement:
1-Strongly disagree 2-Disagree 3-Don’t know or N/A 4-Agree 5-Strongly Agree
8. Marriage means forever: 4
9. You can have a committed “forever” relationship and not be married: 4
10. Couples should go through pre-marital counseling: 3
11. You should be married before you have children: 3
Paul asks…
A quick survey on marriage for my research paper!?
1. What is your age?18-2526-3536-4545+
2. What is your spouse/significant other’s age? 18-2526-3536-4545+
3. Are you living with your spouse or significant other?YES / NO
4. How long have you been living together?<1 year 1-3 years 3-5 years5+ years
5. Are you currently married?YES / NO
6. How many times have you been married?01234+
7. How many children do you have?01234+
Answer the following questions based on your level of agreement with the statement:
1-Strongly disagree 2-Disagree 3-Don’t know or N/A 4-Agree 5-Strongly Agree
8. Marriage means forever:12345
9. You can have a committed “forever” relationship and not be married: 1 2 3 4 5
10. Couples should go through pre-marital counseling:12345
11. You should be married before you have children:12345
MarriageCounseling answers:
1. 18-25
2. 18-25
3. YES
4. <1 year
5. NO
6. 0
7. 1
8. 3
9. 4
10. 5
11. 1
Ruth asks…
Concerning marriage what do you think see ? below?
I just get very sad when I hear of yet another couple getting a divorce, nobody seems to have a happy and healthy marraige anymore. My question is this why do couples give up so easy is marriage worth fighting for? In my parents generation love was more comittital not as sex orented and people endured the trials and kept going on for the Lord and eachother? Do you think people know what getting married is really about? Why do people spend thousands of dollars on a wedding yet wont pay hundreds of dollars to get counselling to preserve thier marraige?
MarriageCounseling answers:
I just got back from a great Bible based marriage retreat. We had 16 couples there who believe enough in the God ordained sanctity of marriage to do something like this.
We are in a fallen world and we shouldn’t be surprised at the rampant divorce rate as fewer and fewer people believe the inspired Word of God.
Rome was not much different and we can expect things to get much worse. Couples give up because they didn’t really take it seriously in the first place.
In this day and age as we progress ever closer to the end of God’s time of grace fewer and fewer people are raised with any concern for other people, there is so little taught about love (the real thing), truth, sacrifice, grace, forgiveness and so on.
I am pleased to say that after a mere 5 years of marriage, my husband and I know we will weather the storms, live sacrificially for one another, love one another second to God only, and be blessings to one another for the rest our natural lives.
It has been said that marriage is a 50-50 deal. That is not correct, it is 100-100. A marriage cannot survive if you are not willing to give 100% to the effort.
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