Your Questions About Marriage Counseling Advice Questions

What would you do? I need real advice?

So me and my fiance are in marriage counseling because although we are great people, we have serious issues. So before we get married we want to get the help we need. During the course of this counseling he has confessed to me that he cheated on me at the very beginning of our relationship with his ex-girlfriend. We have been together for 5 years. Well of course I am heart broken but we are still together. Believe me telling me to leave is not gonna help the situation (my family has done their share of trying to convince me). The thing is I have not been feeling well for the last two months. I thought maybe it was because of the stress of the counseling. But seeing as I was still feeling this way my good friend told me to go to the doctors. So I went to the doctor yesterday and got the shock of my life. I am 4 months pregnant. I could not believe it well b/c I am on birth control. I have not told my fiance yet because every time I go to say it, I just cry. My question is how to tell my fiance this? I really do not want to bring a child in the world with some much of our mess. Please do not judge me. Although he did me wrong I still love him deeply and I can not just stop in one day. There are so many things that he does for me and he understands me. However any advice would be great!
Thanks in Advance!

Where do I go from here in my marriage?

I have been married for a little over 2 years. In the past year, I have had a baby. During my pregnancy and after having the baby, my husband has been verbally abusive and has also gone behind my back and talked to other women both in person and on the internet. The most recent low blow involved him talking to girls from my job. He says he was never sexual with any of these women, but he never confesses to anything until he gets caught. I left him, and after much begging on his behalf, I returned. He is back to saying mean things and being disrespectful. The women aren’t involved now, but he’s still degrading me and questioning my “lifestyle” which is far from secretive nor is it provocative in anyway. I haven’t spoken to him in 2 days and he has made NO attempt to try to find out what is wrong. It’s as if he could care less. We start marriage counseling on Thursday but I’m not so sure he’s really willing to work through this. Part of me wants out of my marriage, but financially, I can’t afford to do this on my own. I have a good job, just a tremendous amount of debt that’s in my name. Any advice? I know I can’t change him, I just hate the tension and I’m slowly dying inside.
I would also like to add that my parents are not in my life. My mom passed away in 2003 and my dad re-married and has nothing to do with his children anymore. None of my family lives near me and they aren’t a reliable source to lean on.

Advice on where to go next – attempting to reconcile our marriage?

I posted a question a week ago where I had cut off contact with my ex-wife except where necessary and she did a number of things over the last two weeks that appeared to be about trying to get back into my life. That’s what most of the respondents thought as well. I spoke to her yesterday – during that face to face conversation she was extremely angry and matter of fact. A number of non-emotional things I needed to talk about she stated her response and would not discuss it any further. Later in the day she did a complete backflip. She spoke to me on the phone and even ventured into some emotional issues. Most of the issues related to our son and what we were doing with him. She provided me with her mobile number which she previously hid, arranged to do some paperwork together on the weekend although she had the availability to do this on her own, dropped all of the disagreement points of the previous two weeks and then rang me on the way home and told me where she was now living. The relationship broke up because of constant arguing which we couldn’t work out how to stop. My stance on the future is I would happily reconcile but only after some continued counselling first. My question does this sound like a round-about way of trying to re-establish the relationship? Me making the effort to wave the white flag is our usual pattern of resolving issues so I can understand she had a reaction to this. Am I reading too much into this? What should I do next?

I’m divorcing my wife, and I need some good advice.?

I’ve been married for a little over a year, i’m 22 and my wife is 21, we live in Washington State. She comes from a strong christian family, and I come from a strong muslim family. We had sex once, she got prego, and we were pretty much forced to get married by our families. I don’t love her, and she doesn’t love me. All we do is fight, avoid eachother, and seek revenge on eachother. I told her I want a divorce, she cried, but agreed it would be for the best. We have a 6 month old and another one on the way, as much as i hate to say it, i’m already assuming she will get custody, being a man I have no chance. We are both equally fit parents, and we both love our laughter. I guess. My question is this, we own a house and a mobile home. I want to give my wife the mobile home and I keep the house. The house is a piece of ****, and the mobile home is a triple wide 2009 marlette. They are both in my name though, can I change the locks on the house and refuse to give her the key? And I don’t mind giving half of everything we own, but is it possible she can take everything I own? And can one of you guys please give me an estimate of how much a divorce cost? Any and all advice will be helpful

And people please don’t bash, i’m giving her half of everything.. everything nice.. shes getting custody.. and i will pay my child support every month..

And people please, don’t start suggesting marriage counseling…
I make close to 8 grand a month on average, I have no problem forking over 1/4 of my paychecks. I will probably fork the 1/4 and start saving up another 1/4 for their college savings. And I don’t want another girl, women are effing crazy, being single is totally fine with me. And she wants the mobile home, its a triple wide on half an acre, its worth over 80 grand. The house we bought as a fixer upper, its a piece of shit and will take months and months plus a lot of cash to make it look nice.
We both already agreed, she gets the mobile home and I get the house. We have nothing in the house, it has bad floors, holes in the walls, we bought it as a fixer upper to resell. But now I am going to fix it and live in it. And my wife is a registered nurse, and I have my BA in petroleum engineering. She gots around 32 grand in the bank which is her money, and I have 3 grand. We have no bills..