Your Questions About Couples Counseling

Can couples counseling make a couple’s relationship worse?

My fiance and I are considering couples counseling. We basically have been fighting all the time for months now. He wants to stay in and play video games and watch TV on all free time and I would like to go out more often with him, together, doing something different together. That is the main problem as well as being able to communicate with one another without getting overly emotional. Can counseling make things worse someway? Like if I tell the counselor what bothers me about him, the counselor will probably tell my fiance what I said and it will make him angry. That’s my concern. My fiance is worried that the counselor “may say something like we shouldn’t be together”. Is that possible too?

Thank you

go to couples counseling or break up?

ive been dating a guy for a year now, we’ve had problems that are pretty serious off and on. we’ve tried working things out many times by ourselves and our relationship ends up going back to fighting and not communicating. at this point i feel the only way LEFT to salvage our relationship is go to couples counseling…

after a year of dating is it stupid to get couples counseling considering we arent married?
i feel like its a mature step to take if we want to have a heathy relationship but on the other hand i feel like its weird to get counseling when its only been a year and we arent married

any thoughts….?
i feel like all relationships take work and theres nothings wrong with admitting a relationship needs help i love him and want us to learn to communicate more effectivly
if he agrees to couples counseling then i want to work things out. if he doesnt want to do counseling i am going to leave him.
to answer the question why are we fighting. i feel like we are both ALOT of like in almost every way which is why we butt heads so much but on the other hand i feel like its why we love eachother so much and have such a intense connection with eachother. if i didnt love him i wouldnt even consider doing counseling. we both need to work on communicating, having patience and work on accepting responsibility.

Advice on couples counseling?

My boyfriend of 3 1/2 years and I have decided to start couples counseling next week. We both love each other very much but have some issues-old and new- that are really affected our happiness these days. I know that part of couples counseling is to have sessions together and then individually. I didn’t tell my boyfriend that part because I was afraid he would change his mind if he knew that. I’m just going to let our therapist approach that strategy. I know that I have some personal issues I need to work on and I really think my boyfriend does to if he will open up. So, our issues range from communication to lifestyle to addictions to sex. We are across the board. How do you approach that first session with so many things to talk about? Is someone out there willing to share thier experience (good or bad)? I have a feeling that my boyfriend feels like I’m the one with most of the issues and I admit I kinda feel that way about him. But we both want this to work. Thank you!

Is it haram to provide couples counseling for homosexuals?

Salaam,

I will soon be working as a couple’s counselor and I am expecting to work with
many homosexual couples due to the demographics of the area I will work in. I
understand that homosexuality is haram in Islam, however we should be
compassionate to those who are in need. How does this apply to homosexual
couples as clients? If I counsel them will I be condoning their lifestyle? I
understand that many topics that may arise in counseling are general to all
couples including communication, etc., however I am aware that homosexuals have
unique needs as well such as how to face adversity in their community, conflicts
with their religion, etc. Ethically, I can not try to change their beliefs, so
if I counsel them on how to deal with these problems, am I enabling.encouraging
their behaviors (which ultimately may encourage them to go against Allah’s
will)?

Jazaak Allah Khair.