Your Questions About Marriage Counseling Does It Work

If a couple needs marriage counseling after less than a year is it meant to be?

We dated for 2 years before we got married and lived together most of that time and we’ve now been married almost a year but we fight ALL the time about love and communication. Is it meant to be? Should we try counseling? Does it work?

Can marriage be saved after violent incident?

My husband exploded in a rage, and caused bruises. I filed a police report, got a protection order, and I will be seeing a counselor next week. I miss him and the kids so much (his kids), and would do anything to get my family back. This happened only a week ago. I have no money. He has said that he would like us to see a counselor. It was so out of character of him to do what he did, however he did it, and that scares me. I have talked with him since, and he has calmed down, but will that come back? Will counseling work? I have heard once an abuser always an abuser. Is getting out of control, making someone labeled as an abuser? Everything I have seen so far on the internet says that a woman shouldn’t stay in a situation when someone has become violent. People make mistakes. People snap, and there is stresses of life. Some handle easier than others. When is it past the reconciliation stage? When is it forgivable? Does marriage/couples counseling work?

Husband that was a Ex- Abuser Is now trying to make our marriage work. what should i do stay or leave ?

i have been with my husband since 2004 and we have had lots of things go wrong in our marriage we were childish and dumb i am now 23 and i don’t want to be with my husband because our past sometimes i don’t like that he has OCD and he tends to have some anger issues he hasn’t been abusive for about almost 2 years but he tends to spank our children and i don’t like the way he does it i am okay with a old fashion spanking but not the way he does it . he also has started a Business and if i have any issues about his spending and stuff he doesn’t want to hear it he doesn’t believe on holidays for a long time .. but now he tells me after i told him that i want to leave he tells me that he wants to celebrate holidays and be more giving and more like a loving husband .. i have three very young children 11months,3 & 7 i want to stay for the kids and his kindness but i am confused what should i do we have gone though some counseling but it seem not to help i hold the past against him and since i left in oct of 08 i saw that i can do it on my own and be happy . but i see that my little ones love their dad , please help me we have tried to go to church too but it seems not to work i am not happy i keep thinking about all his negative stuff , thank you so much

Does it sound as though marriage/couples therapy will be good for us?

Hubby and I have been married for just over 9 years. We still both love each other very much, but there are definitely some cracks in our relationship. We tend to argue an awful lot, with a lot of antagonizing and insulting each other, without getting our problems resolved. Often, we end up arguing about something different than what we started discussing. I also feel that my husband loses his temper with me far too easily, over very small things, and he gets very sarcastic and, well, mean when we argue. Our sex life is also suffering as I am almost always feeling resentful of him and I know that isn’t helping my libido at all, he is very unsatisfied with our sex life and I feel like there is an expectancy for sex.

Despite this, we both really do love each other, and badly want to make our marriage work. We have no plans at all to separate, but we know that our relationship needs work, which we’re both 100% committed to….I guess we just need some help. We both have quite stressful and busy lives and maybe some outside influence will give us the tools we need.

Does it sound as though counseling will be helpful for us? If you have been through it yourself, what was your experience? Many thanks.