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My husband wants a divorce and I don’t and I can’t afford a divorce lawyer…help?

My husband wants to file for divorce stating marriage isn’t for him. He says this after 8 years together. We have a 6 year old daughter and another on the way. We were together for five years before getting married and in our state it counts as a common law marriage. I’m absolutely against getting a divorce and currently seeking counseling but he refuses to go to counseling. Now he’s filed online and I need a lawyer but I’m unemployed. Any advice?

Just needing some advice?

Okay, I am really confused as to what happened. I got married, we were both VERY happy about it. We are expecting a baby in Aug. No, no one pushed him into the marriage, he wanted to do it, he was excited to do it. A little over a week after we got married, he just all of a sudden changed his feelings and he don’t know why. When we argue it’s jokingly and we laugh and are fine, nothing serious. On Monday night, we got into an argument and of course things are said that aren’t true when you hurt, confused, mad, and all them emotions, you know? I apologized for what I said. Then Tuesday when he came home it all started over again, this time it was him who like seemed like he wanted to argue about it. Not me. Anyways, that night, I offered to sleep on the couch since he told me that he doesn’t know how he feels anymore and that he don’t even know why. He told me not to go to the couch. He cuddled with me still, kissed me goodnight, and said he loved me, just like he does every night, even though we were arguing. I am a horrible mess. I left Wed and am still gone, so he can have his time and space. He ignored me all day yesterday wouldn’t even send a text or pick up my phone call. Btw, I am 32 weeks pregnant today, so really something could happen and I could go into labor anytime. I left because us fighting isn’t good on me, the baby, or my body. I asked him the other day if I could come home so we could just talk, he said he doesn’t think it’s a good idea because he needs his time and space. Anyways, I finally talked on the phone with him today for about 26 minutes. He told me that he is unhappy but he doesn’t even know why he is unhappy. I mean, he really doesn’t even know if it is me that is making him unhappy. He won’t give me any answers to anything other than I don’t know and I need time and space. I am going to be haven this baby soon, and I need to know what he wants. If I would have known, I wouldn’t have married him just to turn around and get a divorce. I offered for us to go to counseling but he said he just doesn’t know. He doesn’t talk about his problems much. I have a feeling that it could all be stress. He has a lot on his plate, he’s a full time college student, works part time, in the Army NG. Plus, he just got married and is expecting a baby. I’m sure he doesn’t think he can be a good enough husband and father so he is just freaking out and stressing about it. Do you think it will change once he sees his baby being born? Could he be stressing that we won’t have enough money to support ourselves and another life? I also have a lot of things on my plate, maybe not as much as him but I do. I go to college online, I’m pregnant, I work part time, and I am also in the NG. He KNOWS or SHOULD KNOW I’m not going to give up that easy, I want to work things out. As I said, I wouldn’t have got married if I knew it would turn to a divorce after well two weeks today. I just don’t understand how things were so great then all of a sudden changed. What is/are your opinions on the situation? If you need anymore information, just let me know.
His Mother and I were talking and she said that his father stressed out and what not when she was pregnant with his older brother wondering how he was going to raise his new family. So could he be just like his father? His Mother says he is just like him.

Sorry so long and thanks for your time. Please no stupid comments, I’m being serious and just need to talk to someone and get some advice. Possibly someone who has been through it before. I’ve tried to talk to him, but he wants his time and space so he doesn’t want to talk about anything.
I did ask last night. but I have tried to talk to people in real life, they just don’t understand, they are as confused as I am because they know him and how he is. They don’t even understand why he is doing this anyways.
Actually, I realized I was wrong and I DID apologize if you read that. He didn’t even want Me at the house to be honest with you. If you seen the way he acted when I was there you would understand, he doesn’t even want Me to come home, he says he wants his time and space. If I was to come home then he’d probably leave or ask Me to leave again. I talked to him today and he said that if I’m there he can’t have his time and space. He’s said things to me that he doesn’t mean, so therefore, it’s not just a one way street.

Please give me some advice……?

We were having a really rough time and separated. Early in our marriage I found out he was looking for sex online. I confronted him he said it was a joke but he had it the whole time we were together…I moved out -he kept telling me we weren’t going to work out, etc. I wanted to do counselling and he wouldn’t.Before this happened right afterfte the separation, we both slept with other people and confessed to eachother later (when we started doing counselling). After the confession, he cancelled counselling and filed for divorce (when we started counselling). I do not want my marriage to end as I want to work on us instead of throwing eight years away. He is moving forward w/ the divorce yet when he filed a court date, when I got to court, he withdrew it. Then the next day called me saying how sad he is but how he doesn’t want to be married/that is’ just a piece of paper, that he loves me. WTF? How do I let him go? I think he has been seeing someone all this time and won’t admit it. He also asks me if I’m dating someone but I am not. He still says he doesn’t want to be married. What can I do? I feel like my heart has been ripped outta my chest. Also before he filed divorce he said if I didn’t sign some immigration papers for him, he would file divorce.. please give me advice!!!!!

Divorce question! HELP PLS!!!!?

My husband divorced me in Dec. 2009 after 8 yrs of marriage. We have a 4 y/o son. Our marriage was perfect not until he started cheating on me in 2007. We went to marriage counseling & it went well. But in Aug 2009, he caught me in an online website. I didn’t have any relationship with anyone, it was just online. He divorced me because of that. So, he filed for a divorce and I didn’t showed up in court. We have a court hearing again in 6 months, in June. But after the divorce, him and I still remain like we’re married… we talk, see each other, go out, do things together, and sleep together (but I’m at my mom’s house right now bec I’m going to RN program school and our house is 3 hrs away) but we still treat each other like we’re married. But I noticed that he changed some few things…. like, he got himself a prepaid phone – and he said there is no passcode needed to listen to his voicemail, which is odd. So, now I’m really confused, he said he still loves me and he still have feelings for me and he wanted to get married again after I finish my RN school. He still gives me financial support. Basically, we are divorced, but not really because we act and treat each other like we’re still married. I trully believe that we still love each other that’s why we can’t just let go of each other…especially, there is NO 3rd party involve. We didn’t get divorced because the other person got caught. He divorced me because I was a member of a dating site online but never cheated on him or had a relationship with anyone. Right now, he told me that he still have feelings for me and that he’s not going to look for someone else because he still loves me and our son. He told me to just leave everything up to God and see what will happen. He doesn’t say he Loves me anymore (unlike before) but he still act like my husband. I’m really confused.. I love him with all my heart and dispite of everything, I still care for him and want to be with him for the rest of my life. Last time I spoke to him he said, he still loves me and would marry me again when I finish school and start all over again… does this mean he really wants to be with me again?? I know we both have doubts to each other because of what happened in the past, we probably don’t trust each other right now because of infidelity that happened before. But it seems like he’s still cannot let go of me eventhough he already divorced me. I need help and I want someone to pls. tell me if there is still hope in our relationship or marriage. We obviously still care for each other, but I want some advice to clear my mind… Pls. help me understand this situation..
Do we still give our marriage a 2nd chance after all what happened??