Your Questions About Christian Marriage Counseling

Christians: What do you do if faced with this situation?

Say you’re a Christian and believe in your marriage vows, but after 5 years (no children- if that’s a factor) your spouse tells you they aren’t in love with you and that you don’t make them happy and they only stayed with you this long to keep from hurting your feelings, and they say they probably should have left earlier, or that your marriage was a mistake. They say they don’t feel anything for you more than as a friend and want to leave.
What do you do if you’ve already gone to marriage counseling and tried to rekindle things, but they tell you it’s not your fault, that they just don’t want to be married anymore and want to leave?
What do you do?
It’s not helpful to tell me not to break the vow- you didn’t get the context of, or read, the question. If you believe in the committment and the vow, and the other person decides they do not… you could say we were not equally yoked, but does that mean I should just give up? I see a lot of people saying move on…but is that the answer of society, or is that the Christian answer?
Thank you Nathan and No1home2day… I’ve always turned everything over to God, and it’s worked so far for me… I’ll never give up on God.
Just moved after I got back from 16 months in Iraq, location isn’t an issue, nor is eating out going to fix things. We need to cut back on splurges like that, if anything… tried saying I know I’m not perfect, tried saying it’s not always about feelings- it’s about commitment…

Working on doing more activities together… hoping and praying… and turning it over to God.
Despite pleading, she had said God can’t be the only thing holding us together… sorry, should have put that in sooner. Brain’s a little frazzled.

who should i see as a psycharitist?

well i have to go see a psychatirst for my condition i feel emotional and stressed out so my doctor has given me a medication and she insisted me to go to a psychatirist. so who should i see a

Anxiety Disorders
Attention Deficit Disorder
Christian Counseling
Cognitive Behavioral Therapy
Domestic Violence
Marriage/Family Focus
Mood Disorders
Parenting Issues

or a social worker

I am never happy. I am a Christian. I have a nice house. Decent job. I am losing my faith.I always wanted?

I have always wanted to be a pastor, but have always struggled with ‘am I good enough’ and ‘money for my family and future’. So here I set, with debt, a nice house, a decent job that I don’t like and have a hard time giving time to. I have two awsesome kids. My wife is seriously depressed after the second child and not doing well in many areas. I am extremely committed to the marriage. It seems that ever year my life gets worse and I attribute it to my not making the decision to go into ministry. My father was a pastor. I have been to counseling, psyciatrists, small groups, etc. Lately, especially at work, it seems that all relationships that I make fail miserabley. If you asked people closed to me, they would say I am great. I don’t like hobbies, sports, TV. All I do is think… think…. think… I feel that I am the only person this way. Being a strong Christian makes is 100x harder because ‘God is supposed to be enough’.
All I want to do is sleep and be alone.
I have always wanted to be a pastor, but have always struggled with ‘am I good enough’ and ‘money for my family and future’. So here I sit, with debt, a nice house, a decent job that I don’t like and have a hard time giving time to. I have two awsesome kids. My wife is seriously depressed after the second child and not doing well in many areas. I am extremely committed to the marriage. It seems that ever year my life gets worse and I attribute it to my not making the decision to go into ministry. My father was a pastor. I have been to counseling, psyciatrists (on meds) small groups, etc. Lately, especially at work, it seems that all relationships that I make fail miserabley. If you asked people closed to me, they would say I am great. I don’t like hobbies, sports, TV. I can’t find anything I enjoy. All I do is think. I feel that I am the only person this way. Being a strong Christian makes is 100x harder because ‘God is supposed to be enough’.All I want to do is sleep and be alone

How to solve this problem?Is there any way out?

A friend of mine Hindu is married to a Christian lady(marriage not registered) for the past 10 years. They have adaughter aged 6yrs. For the past 4years they are incompatible. Neither of them is ready for a compromise. The lady wants a divorce. The guy is ready but wants the custody of the girl and an out of court settlement. Life for both has become miserable. The little girl is affected. How to solve this problem amicably? They are not willing for counselling.