Your Questions About Marriage Counseling Questions Before Marriage

Does anyone feels need of real website telling every true fact u have to know before marriage.?

Like how much one can expect in first night first time.A site which should tell that it is alright if u could play only 20 Sec first time because this time will increase automatically with tries and nothing can stop this increase.Site having such information that premature ejaculation is not disease or weakness and its reason is over excitement which is natural so no need to take medicine for it.When a person consider it as lack of performance due to childhood mistakes then there comes mental block and he ignores the woman.This creates problems in their relation.He will feel shyness in getting help because he thinks by telling this he will prove himself lack of male power in peoples eyes.He spend much money on treatment but of no use and finally Ayurvedic doctors put him on opium mixed medicines.At the moment he thinks he has been cured but after giving up medicine more bad effects appears.Site should tell him that natural erection demands proper condition as sex starts with view and imagination.Stress ,fear , anger and doubt about erection stops erection completely and person starts using b.p increasing medicines having salt Sildenafil citrate which has bad effects on body.Even 20 year boys take pills to make sure their erection.In high b.p or in trance of opium or drink no one can enjoy sex.Even a normal person can face lack of proper erection sometimes due to unfavorable conditions .This happens when some problem distract his mind.This does not means he is impotent.A site which should provide such information that normal period of sex is between 3 to 5 minutes.Any way to enhance it ruins sex pleasure.Site should tell that proper foreplay before sex can fully satisfy wife even with 1 minute of intercourse.Generally porn movies and rubbish talk of friends give wrong concept to boys that a person will have more male power to satisfy woman if he can play much long time in sex.Then he try various medicines from branded companies available on internet and waste money to cure his problem which does not exist.Whole life he will doubt on his performance.Strange that sex plays a major role in life of everyone even then people does not know from where they can get true information about it. When a normal person consider himself weak in sex then it effects his everything including his work,thinking,behave.Site should tell people that if they have deeply seated doubts in mind about their sexual weakness then they should go straight to good doctor and ask him to check sex hormones in their body and lab report will make sure that they have no weakness.Similarly site should tell people that size of sex organs does not matter.
Lots of websites about sex misguide boys about sex.To sell their useless stuff they create doubt in mind of people by advertising wrong facts of sex through internet,media,literature so as to make normal people think that they are sexually weak.Every true information should be on that website in simple language with live counseling support.The site must be free.That website must be easy to find on net.I already know that in the reply of this question many people will give rubbish answers but if they will deeply think then they will agree with me.

OMG I’m so frustrated!?

What is the purpose in marriage anymore? Many states require counseling before they will grant a divorce. Most states allow people to divorce based on the fact that their marriage is simply “irretrievably broken.” In a divorce it doesn’t matter if someone committed adultery. Geez! Sometimes marriage sucks, we all know that.

My question is out of frustration from spending the last 2 hours being frickin’ lazy and reading all these marriage/divorce questions. Shouldn’t the marriage laws be changed? I mean, how about counseling BEFORE marriage? How about a longer waiting period after purchasing a marriage license…like 6 months? What about when the person who was proven a cheater lost everything in the divorce? Did you know that there are actually cases that were fought and won by spouses who were the victims of cheaters? They were able to sue the spouse’s boy/girlfriend for damages! And I’m so sick of hearing people say they didn’t know their boy/girlfriend was married! If someone refuses to allow you to know where they live or they are only talking to you at certain times of the day….red flag idiot! I thought ignorance was not an excuse according to the law. Even if the laws can’t be changed, can’t anyone else see how screwed up society has become? When did we start disregarding the value of family?

For my friend Tilda! Is he running from marriage!!!?

Guys, I am reposting to get several opinions. Due to the fact, the questions appear in a feed format ~ the older post are pushed down. In no way do I want anyone to side with me… However, as I stated in my question, I have never lost a parent and I would like to hear everyone’s opinion. If you don’t side with me….GREAT! You may be the very person to shine light on the situation. It has been a very hard year…..and I did not include that I lost my grandmother two weeks after he lost his mom. At this point, we are looking for light….

With that being said, you do not have to read this twice, or even respond, but we are a young couple who’s trying to pick back up the pieces. And I did say We because we are both looking for answers on how to move on.

I appreciate your positive help ~ regardless if you are for my beliefs or against ….

Below is our story:

Ok, this is a hard one, and I have found myself in a daze for a couple of months now…

My fiance and I have been together for a while now. We also have a daughter. We met when we were 14/15. We have been together for 12 going on 13 years (two “so-called” break ups in between). Last year, he asked me to marry him. It was way over due….We started marriage counseling through our church and everything was going great. Last June, as we were leaving marriage counseling, we found out his Mom died unexpectedly ~ we just spoke with her hours before. At first, he said continue with the wedding plans. Our wedding was originally scheduled for Dec. 09. He wanted to change the date. He explained too much was going on with him (mentally and emotionally). I did not like it at first, but I agreed to April 10. Then he wanted to change the wedding date again, so we did. We were thinking this summer. Then he asked me to give him a minute to get himself together.
June is approaching and it will mark the 1 yr. anniversary of his mother’s death. He was extremely close to his mom and I knew the event would have taken a toll on him, but I did not know it would affect our relationship as much as it has. I been with him forever… Is it wrong that I still want to get married now? I really don’t know…..I never lost a parent. We moved in together last summer, as we were beginning to merge our lives for marriage. Prior, we always lived separately because I did not want to become his live in girlfriend. He feels as if I am not being supportive because I want to get married right now. Honestly, (in the most respectful way) I really do not understand how the death of his mom connects to our marriage. I have never been in his shoes.

Thank you for your thoughts!
Sorry, her username is Tada!

Do you think that there is a resolution to this major issue within our marriage?

Long story short…..
We moved into my in laws house after a financial downfall.
When we got there I had felt defeated , very insecure, very unstable.
My wife had a job ( her and the kids moved there for a few weeks before i did so i could stay back and work).
I moved down there , was unable to use the vehicle that her family is letting her use.
We were unable to get insurance on the vehicle and get a mailing address. I was unable to use the mailing address.
After about a week of being there, I felt as if the in laws were threatnening the marriage due to certain events that took place. I had expected my wife to say something to her family about allowing me to use the address so i could get a job or help get some insurance on our truck.
Nothing came from this….
Every time my wife and I would try to discuss something the in laws had to butt in.
I felt very unwelcomed there, and ,my wife and i were constantly argueing over her parents.
We chose a day to move out, my wife had made a comment of feeling like she was running away and left the room.
I was packing our stuff. two hours elapsed and my wife asked if i wanted to leave. I left. We argued ( fallout of marriage?) .
Now i lost everything, and my wife is barely speaking to me ( once in a great while).

Due to my own nsecurity (which i have since reconsiled within and realised that it is mainly due to the communication issues why we even had financial issues, and why we landed into her parents home).
I am working my but off at a job, and working my butt off at trying to secure my wife in our marriage.
My wife has denied marriage counseling, is hardly speaking to me, still is mourning and grieving…
I fear that it may all be over, and yet i am still trying to find a way to get through to her.
I am no longer angry or hurt. I have found my sense of security and I know without question that I love her.
I am not perfect and I took things for granted, that should of never been taken for granted.
I feel like she over stepped a boundary and i focused on that for a while. I also over stepped a boundary and went out with another women.
I did this out of sheer shock , insecurity, and fear of it happening to me due to the shock factor of how we separated.
I have NEVER cheated on anyone in my life.
What happened and can this be resolved???
Please mature answers, I can handle it.
We have been separated for 6 months, noone has filed divorce papers ( that i know of) she says she isn’t leaving me but is not talking to me at the moment. When we do talk we have normal conversations now. I am not pressing the issue that we need to work together on getting a place cause that leads to an arguement.
We have had a great marriage and been together for 8 years. She asked for space then threw a fit when i didnt talk to her for two days. So i am confused. Also her parents are not supportive of the relationship there is quite alot of manipulative behaviour going on from her parents.
Thank you brook. It was a date and it lasted 15 minutes . Before I had even finished my hamburger. I had told her that she wasnt my wife and that it wont work out.
Brooke*
Thank you Craig. I felt defeated at the time we moved there.
My wife had told me two weeks after being there that her ex husband and her had similiar issues with her parents.
Thank you Max. By the way there is an issue of distance due to miles ( now emotions as well).
I currently reside 400 miles away.