Your Questions About Christian Marriage Counseling

Marriage guidance/counselling?

I am interested in having marital counselling but my wife refuses to do this with me. I am starting to think I need to take that route myself…What services/facilities are there for finding counselling alone (in the southeast, UK). Has anyone done this? Any advice? Would especially welcome a response from Christian people.

Boyfriend molested as a child by uncle refuses to seek counseling?

My boyfriend revealed to me he was molested by his uncle for over a year at the age of 10. He never told anyone about it and says he likes to pretend it was a bad nightmare. The uncle who molested him is a homosexual so he convinces himself his ucle only harmed him because he was experimenting. He has bulimia for over 1 year and he just revealed both of these secrets to me. He have struggled with obesity ever since being molested. He want ot deal with it his own way but he refuses to seek counseling. I told him that he is still suffereing from what happend and its coming out through eating disorders. We are both Christian and waiting until marriage to have sex and we are supposed to get married next year. I told him I don’t know if I can marry him when he refuses to get help. Does he have too many issues to be in a serious relationship? I’m worried what should i do would it be wrong to end the relationship if he refuses to seek counseling? He was also physically abused by his father and his moms a alcoholic.
I do love him for who he is I just want a healthy relaionship not one riddled with emotional problems and I feel that for us to have the best chance he needs to deal with the pain he has and seek professional help…he can die from bulimia and I can’t watch that happen

I have been in an abusive marriage and although separated the pain I feel is intense. How do I keep keeping on?

I have good days when I try to focus on how I’ve stood up to him and refuse to put up with with his abuse but there are still days when I feel so oppressed and depressed knowing first of all that he has caused so much pain and doesn’t want to take any responsibility for it and to know that he is raging right now that I would leave him and he will try to make my life unbearable throughout our divorce process. I’m using all the supports I can like domestic abuse support groups, keeping family and friends close that encourage me, Christian counselling, and of course lots and lots of prayer and soul-searching. Anyone have any more advise for getting through this very difficult time in my life?

Should I give up on my marriage?

My husband and I met as children. We were High School sweethearts. At 17 I got pregnant and we married before our first child was born. We now have three children and have been married for 12 years. We have both made some mistakes, and have not had a perfect marriage. (Has anyone?) There has been no infidelity or abuse from either of us.

Two days ago he told me he “thinks” he wants a divorce. He says I am not there for him emotionally, and that we lack trust and communication. He also says he doesn’t feel like he could put the effort into counseling or trying to save our marriage. Although I do know that he has been unhappy at times, this news came out of the blue for me.

I am madly in love with him, and totally devastated that he would want to throw away our marriage and family. I am a Christian and do not believe that divorce should be an option. I think that people give up on their relationships too easily. I am willing to do whatever it takes to save our relationship but know that I cannot do it on my own. Should I push him to go to counseling in the hopes that someone can help us, or should I just unwillingly let him go?