Your Questions About Marriage And Family Counseling License


Mary asks…

Any suggestions on how to encourage my 18 yr old stepdaughter to accept/cooperate so we can foster/adopt?

My husband and I have been married for 5 years and my step daughter has lived with us for the last 4 years. I have 2 boys from a previous marriage 10 and 13 yrs old. We have plenty of space and money for another child or 2 and want to foster adopt. We went through the foster care classes, did the home study and everything needed for foster to adopt. A few months ago my step daughter decided she didn’t want us to have a child and refused to give a copy of her drivers license so they could do a background check to complete everything and still refuses. This was a total suprise to us, since all times before when we had mentioned it to everyone in the family – all the kids were supportive. Since then she refuses to cooperate. I have paid for to start community college this month and go to counselling to try to work this out. I am wondering if anyone else has experienced & if you have any suggestions/ideas. I thought after having Xmax with her Grandmother that she might reconsider.
She is not ready/mature enough to be on her own, so kicking her out isn’t an option for us until she is mature enough to handle it. If we “force” her to submit the information, then I wouldn’t want her to potentially be passive agressive or agressive to any child we might then get. It isn’t anything I would expect, since she has always been fine with the boys, but we were totally suprised by this, so don’t know anymore what to think. We have asked her a million times what the issue is, reassured her that we have plenty of love for everyone and would make sure she still had special time with us. She is being really selfish, but not sure how to help her understand. She tells us we are the ones being selfish by expecting her to go along with this. I was crushed telling the foster care agency yesterday to put our file on hold indefinately to give her time. :(

MarriageCounseling answers:

You are the selfish one, not your step daughter. Hasn’t your stepdaughter been through enough? Her parent’s divorce, her father’s remarriage, and now having to live with your two sons who are related to each other, but not her. She’s probably changed houses, maybe more than once. I don’t even know what her mother has going on.

Why can’t you just put your do-good-er work on hold until she moves out? Or better yet, give this ‘daughter’ some TLC while she is under your roof?

You married her father knowing he had a daughter. It is your responsibility to act as much like a mother as you can. It may not be the charity work of your dreams, but you choose it.

I think you’re the one who needs the ‘counseling’ here, not her. You are the adult! Just because she isn’t going along with your plan lock-step means SHE needs help?

You need compassion. Big time.

Ruth asks…

Single parents, divorced moms?

6 months pregnant and my marriage is really on the rocks. So much has been said and done by both of us and obviously there is his side and my side of the story. At this point I don,t really care who is wrong or right.
My question is for divorced single mother’s -where do I go from here. I wanna know about stuff like :
custody-i wnat her to live with me full time and he can have visits. i would ultimately like to move state? is this at all possible? how about to change towns get form melb to geelong in the case that i only get joint custody?- he is a cannabis smoker and big drinker always had his mates around 3-5 guys(was hidden from me in the past til he lost his licence for drink driving so now he cant go anywhere so “brings the party to our house” and now i feel like im living in a drug house literally 4 dyas a week at least). i dont feel safe myself let alone to leave my baby with him.
any assistance from centrelink-rent , daycare
daycare cost for what will probably be a 6 month old baby(i have no family in aus)
any other advice you can give me.
we tried counselling but i dont feel he is serious. at this point i just want to get out…..

MarriageCounseling answers:

Settle Jo, your first worry is the health of your baby. We all make mistakes in life, your was to spend time with a boy not a gentleman.

Being a single mum must be the hardest job in the world but there are young gentlemen still around that can see beauty comes from within. I must stop all the worry and put all your time into yourself and the baby. I’m sure there must be a government dept. That can help you with all the other crap after the baby is born.

Good luck & we want to see pics after the birth.

Betty asks…

Do we need degrees to provide marriage/relationship counseling?

My husband and I have so many friends and family members asking us for relationship and marriage advice, because our advice works, and is helping so many relationships, that we would like to be able to help as many people as we can and share the joy of healthy balanced relationships. However, my husband and I don’t have the money or the desire to get a degree in the field. We’ve looked into it and started, but simply aren’t interested in wasting the money or time on a degree, since we don’t agree with many of the theories of mainstream psychology anyway, but we’d still love to help people in this area. Is there any way to do this as a non-profit service, if you generally need a Counseling License and a degree?

Thanks for any help, God bless :-)

MarriageCounseling answers:

To be licensed you will have to have a degree, and usually that degree will be a graduate degree.

Advise from friend to friend is one thing, but counseling? No way.

Nancy asks…

Can I legally act as a counselor in California even though I have no psychology license?

I want to start working as the equivalent of a therapist — helping people with their typical domestic neuroses such as marriage, family, parenting, loneliness, etc. I don’t have and don’t have plans to get a psychology degree, nor do I want to be an MFCC or social worker. Can I simply charge a fee for therapy or counseling, or do I run afoul of legal difficulties?
Someone recommended an alternative path: that I obtain a certificate as a pastor through the Universal Life Church, which ordains by mail, and has been found by the courts to be as valid as any other ordainment. I would then nominally be a “pastoral counselor” and be subject to the very loose scrutiny of the state in that capacity. I would call myself a “counselor” or “relationship counselor.” I would also get clients to sign a waiver indicating they are aware I am not a psychologist nor qualified to diagnose or treat mental illness.
What is your opinion of the legal and professional issues? Thank you in advance for any help you can give.

MarriageCounseling answers:

You can have business cards drawn up that read, “consultant,” “life coach,” etc. Or hang out your shingle for that matter.

As long as your not trying to pass yourself off as a licensed therapist or other licensed mental health care provider there is nothing illegal about it.

Provide your clients with written documentation/disclaimer regarding your lack of credentials and if they still choose to pay for your services, it’s up to them.

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