Your Questions About Does Marriage Counseling Work After An Affair

If one partner is not interested in counseling, does it mean that he is not interested in saving the marriage?

After he had an affair, I suggested counseling but my partner refused saying it was not neccessary. Is this a sign of disinterest in making the relationship work?
Judy

Wife still having online affair after I caught her and we are in counseling?

Found emails on her laptop that she is talking in a bad manner to a guy she met on Facebook (hate that place now). I confronted her and she told me she was unhappy for sometime and that it just happened as an outlet for her. She felt the guilt. We agreed to work on our marriage and go to counseling. I even acknowledge that my inactions (not helping w/our 2 young children, not paying her attention etc) is what led a lot to her doing this bad thing. I asked her to stop talking to him and she said she did. The last 3 weeks things have been great, I have changed so much – for myself and for her, and she says that she is much happier now (and in love again). BUT, I have found out she is still talking to him and it’s really graphic, they say they love each other, and they plan to meet – thankfully he is 3 states away. Should I confront her and risk all the good progress we have made or continue to watch it and hope she ends by herself as she sees how good we are now. She is addicted.

When to just man up and leave after an affair?

So, wife had a 7 month affair that ended 9 months ago. Went to counseling and it helped resolve a lot of issues which lead up to this. Wife claims no sex, just touching, kissing but who knows. Stated that she was uncomfortable with the physical stuff when it happened, but again who knows.

Wife still works with OM daily, and still talks to him but insists that it is much different. OM is a doctor and it took our counselor to convince her that he should not be the physician for our three kids. She is also a patient of him (delivered one of our kids) and still has not found another doctor even though I want that and counselor suggested it and she “agreed” to it. He manages her depression and another medical issue and to me is just asking for further emotional attachment. She has not even made an appointment to see anyone else yet and her scrips are all up at the end of the month. I wonder who is going to refill them? She was really defiant after admitting the affair about maintaining a normal coworker relationship with him insisted that she is now in control because “now she knows how much I love her”. She considered leaving me because I got pissed off and yelled when she admitted to me (piece meal wise over a couple of weeks) what she has been up to.

Anyway I’ve been trying to give this time but still cant seem to get over what happened. visualize it a lot. some days are better than others, but often times I worry about what is happening when I am not around. I believe nothing physical is happening but know for a fact that they still talk a lot and that he is her support system at the office. Counselor told her to phase him out. To me that ment gone, to here that ment not so attached. Often times worry that when she goes into work on her day off, goes to the store by herself, or comes home late from work that they are together.

I love her, and believe that she loves me and is trying to do better but often times wonder if I should just move on. I dont want to for the kids sake, but I also dont want to worry for the rest of my life about if she is really acting in our marriages best interest.

What do you think

When ur struggling after an affair.?

I had an affair my husband and I are going through counseling with our pastor , but the process is wearing me down however he seems to be benefiting from it. I was the offender (cheater) I do want my marriage to work. But when will he stop treating me like the grinch who stole Christmas.