Your Questions About Couples Therapy

MarriageCounseling answers:

If he is critical of you personally and not of the way you treat him, then he is the one who needs to change his behavior and stop being critical. Or else your relationship with him will never work well.

If he doesn’t like his relationship with you. Then perhaps you can do something to make it better for him. But if he doesn’t like you and is trying to change you. Then you need to break up with him and find a guy who does like you.

MarriageCounseling answers:

It is definitely hard to come to the conclusion that a couple needs counseling. But when your relationship is in trouble, that’s the resort that people happen to turn to. During these sessions, not only will you both be spilling out your emotions, but you’ll come to a full realization of your problems. Both of you will learn things about yourselves that you didn’t realize before.

When you’ve been with your partner for a long time, things will change no matter how well you know your partner. Interests change. Hobbies change. Beliefs change. If there’s been changes in career positions or a lot of stress at work, this has a huge impact. All of these changes create the lack of communication that has developed between the both of you. You’re not the couple you used to be in the beginning. But now you need to deal with changes that have occurred and solve the problems that have been arising.

Counseling will give you a better understanding of your spouse and help you communicate better in new ways. But don’t fully depend on counseling as your only solution to save your relationship. The sessions will give you the first steps to take, but it’s up to you both to take the the remaining steps.

If you need additional advice, feel free to email advice.relationship@yahoo.com. We are a free service offering relationship help to couples in need.

MarriageCounseling answers:

So basically,:
- it is extremely dangerous, especially if that person has anger management issues and/or is abusive!
-don’t have any weapon what-so-ever! No exceptions! If they get to it (which they will, even if you hide it) things will not go good!
-take self defense class on how to defend yourself without using any type of weapon at all!
-don’t panic, keep a clear, focused head, and defend at last resort, try calmly talking to them without doing anything at all to get them more upset first.
- the family members might attack each other too, but once again, no weapons! And it is illegal to injure someone more than needed to get away!so if someone attacks you, just injure them or inflict pain just enough (and no more) to be able to get away to safety.

MarriageCounseling answers:

Ive been a counselor over 10 yrs, Yes there are a small percentage that end , but most learn how to improve and better the marriage, more then 80% do stay together and are happy.
Maybe you just chose a bad counselor…..