Your Questions About Christian Marriage Counseling

What can I do to save this marriage?

I love the most difficult man on Earth. I have been with him since I was 17, now 34. His best qualities are that he is loyal, hardworking and responsible. over the years he has become the most unpleasant man i ever known. He is totally unaffectionate, zero compassionate, and talks to me with an attitude of disappoint and or disgust most of the time. I believe he has deep rooted anger issues. I am the easiest person to get along with. Im loving , kind, and compassionate. I never get touched or kissed. the only time he ever touches me, is if we have sex. Im not some troll. I hope this don’t come across arrogant, cause I sure am not… but i want to b straight forward. I get alot of attention from men, although it just makes me feel awkward and I am not a flirt. Recently after my boss relentlessly pursued me, i buckled, and gave into some kissing and such, no sex of any kind. It felt so wonderful just to be held and told how incredible he thinks I am. My boss has been in love w me for a long time, but nothing ever happened cause we r both married. We enjoy each other immensely and click on every level… but i quit my job, because I am a married woman and I have children… and cant bare to be selfish and cause anyone any pain. Its bad enough what I did already. I need a good Christian counseling website, where I can talk to someone… Im at a loss, I was much happier when I ws in denial and blamed my husbands bad behavior on work stress. But now that I have faced the fact that t is a form of emotional abuse, im very unhappy. I am open and upfront and tell my husband exactly how I feel about everything…except of course about kissing my boss. I have begged and pleaded for what I need from him, but he seems unable to give it. If he turns this behavior towards the children, then we will leave, but he loves them, although he yells far too much. I really dont want to divorce, but what can I do????
I apologize for sounding like im rambling. I wor in animal rescue and received a severe bite wound, and the pain killers are making me a lil loopy. That another thing….zero compassion, even though i just went through surgery

How should churches and Christians respond to the gay marriage issue.?

I think Christian pastors should preach against homosexuality and gay marriage. Homosexuality is forbidden in both the Old and New Testemants. However, I don’t like to see churches get all involved politically. But I do think individual Christians in a democracy should be involved. Instead of putting so much of our efforts into politics, I think churches should concentrate on winning gays to Christ and then teaching them to live a pure life. Many churches now have counseling and accountability ministries to help and encourage gays to get well and become heterosexual. Ideally, when a gay person accepts Christ as his savior and becomes a Christian, he should give up the sin of homosexuality. But since many gays, even some Christian gays, have trouble doing this, churches need to have strong counseling programs to help gay Christians to become abstinate and to develop healthy heterosexual desires.

should I get divorced? as a christian?

I know all the scriptures in the Bible about divorce so please don’t quote scripture to me! I have been married for a few years, I am only 24. My husband is physically and extremely emotionally abusive. I am completely miserable. My “Christian” influences all say I should stay in the marriage and seek counseling. If I get a divorce they say I cannot remarry. My husband won’t go to counseling and I honestly have no desire to stay married to such a psycho! It is going to kill me. How as christians (who follow the belief of loving your neighbor as yourself etc…) can you people tell me that I have to stay in such a terrible situation?and if I do get out I don’t have the right to remarry unless adultery occurred? I WOULD MUCH RATHER BE CHEATED ON! Why are the majority of you so legalistic and take scriptures out of context? This makes me so upset I want to leave the church

I would like some opinions on wife selection for the Christian male?

I am a learning Christian. I have been reading the Bible and I came across some information that inspired some thoughts in me. That and I read Ken Nair’s book, “How to Understand a Woman.” He is a pastor who does ministry, and he does counseling on marriages, even to atheist to great effect. He teaches that the majority of marriage problems are failure of the man to be Christ-like. And when the husband fails to be Christ-like, that puts the marriage in jeopardy; God makes the laws, the husband executes the law, and the woman is the judge of the husband on how he executes God’s will of him being Christ-like. Well I agree with 99.3% of what the book taught.

Basically, the husband, once he marries the woman and makes her his wife, he is responsible for caring for her in every way, and that includes financially, spiritually, and emotionally. With that said, it is very important for the man to choose his wife carefully since God will hold him severely accountable for failing to be a proper husband to his wife. My next question is, is there any scripture you know about that gives knowledge and understanding for proper wife selection?