Your Questions About Marriage Counseling

MarriageCounseling answers:

Unless you can point to an employment contract, company policy or some kind of labor union protection, your employer can dictate yours hours and whether you can get time off regardless of the reason. Even though there is apparent inconsistency between having the benefit of marriage counseling and getting time off to avail yourself to it, your mere challenge to the employer’s authority to control your life may result in your loss of employment.

MarriageCounseling answers:

I believe that’s there’s always room for improvement. Just because you have a great relationship doesn’t mean it can’t be greater. Marriage counseling could help you move up a level in your relationship.

You said your rediscovering yourself and a friend of mine once told me that when you start changing something drastic happens concerning personal relationships. I’m in that stage of rediscovery right as we speak and your husband has no business telling you what to do. He’s also very afraid that he might lose you to the changes that occurring within you right now but that’s the price of change.

If you need private counseling tke it, you have questions and your looking for answers, an old Chinese proverb goes like this:
“A man who asks is a fool for five minutes, a man who never asks is a fool forever”. Keep asking questions and rediscovery why you are here, who you are and what path you are taking. And you’re not being selfish, your husband is, and no you weren’t selfish for asking him to go to counseling, you just wanted positive change but it seems like your husbands likes the old ways because it’s comfortable and most people like to stay in their comfort zones and become defensive when people try to take them out of it.

Hopes this helps, if you need more help, email me.

Tony

MarriageCounseling answers:

Marital counseling will only work if BOTH parties want it to work. The fact that he has moved out to be with another woman sounds to me as if he’s not interested in resolving whatever issues there were that prompted him to not only cheat on you with a “mistress” over two years ago, but to move completely out of your life and the marital home. I would think that you’d have consulted with an attorney by now and moved toward severing your relationship with him as he has done with you and then resolved the financial issues that need to be addressed. Then you can move forward with your life and find a man that is going to be there with you for the long term. Counseling will only work – individually – if he believes this his ways are wayward as hyou think they are. Obviously he doesn’t agree with you.

MarriageCounseling answers:

It depends… Do they want counseling? You can suggest it to them. A marriage counselor can help couples learn to communicate better with one another, which is usually a big part of what is wrong.