Your Questions About Christian Marriage Counseling

MarriageCounseling answers:

According to the scriptures below, It’s my understanding that Jesus allows divorce for marital unfaithfulness.. You have to research the scriptures and pray concerning your situation and quietly wait for the Lord to speak to you.. It may be instant, or it may take awhile.. Let God’s word and the Holy Spirit be your guide.

Even though He hates divorce, in Mt. 19:9 He say’s “except for marital unfaithfulness..” you will not be considered an adulterer.. A life living in sin or separated from the Lord is in jeopardy of hell.. Eph 2:”8For by grace you have been saved through faith, and that not of yourselves; it is the gift of God, 9 not of works, lest anyone should boast. 10 For we are His workmanship, created in Christ Jesus for good works, which God prepared beforehand that we should walk in them.”

‘I hate divorce,” says the LORD God of Israel. (Malachi 2:16)

I tell you that anyone who divorces his wife, except for marital unfaithfulness, and marries another woman commits adultery. (Matthew 19:9)

Moses permitted you to divorce your wives because your hearts were hard. But it was not this way from the beginning. (Matthew 19:8)

It has been said, “Anyone who divorces his wife must give her a certificate of divorce.” But I tell you that anyone who divorces his wife, except for marital unfaithfulness, causes her to become an adulteress, and anyone who marries the divorced woman commits adultery. (Matthew 5:31-32)

Let us behave properly as in the day, not in carousing and drunkenness, not in sexual promiscuity and sensuality, not in strife and jealousy. Romans 13:13 (NASB ©1995)

MarriageCounseling answers:

You have to make time for each other. Even if that means you have to get up a bit earlier so you can spend a few minutes alone to talk and connect with each other before starting your day. You don’t mention working so I’m assuming you don’t. Perhaps get out there and get a hobby, something interesting and new to talk about when your husband gets home. I believe you can speak things into being, negative or positive. So only bring love and loving feelings into your home. It helps. Another great thing to do: pray together, out loud. Praying with your spouse is one of the most intimate times you can spend together. You learn their hopes and dreams and fears in the most honest form. They are allowing you see fully into the core of them by sharing their time with God with you.

Good luck honey. Marriage is tough, but if it was easy, everyone would do it!

MarriageCounseling answers:

The story you and your friend thought up is too coincidental.. && i dont think your wife will buy it.

Instead why dont you just tell your wife about your “friend”. Start off by explaining how much you love and care about her. Then go on to tell her that you are uncomfortable with bringing other people into your sex life. Then go on to tell about your “friend”.. How her and her husband brought in another couple and how they both ended up with an incurable disease (genital herpes).. Just remember to use a fake name because you could get sued for slander.

I do agree with you about bringing this up with christian counseling. It is morally wrong, and I believe if you dont agree to this swinger idea that your wife will just take it into her own hands, and go cheat without your consent.

Well i hope you two work this thing out. Cheer up! =) after you explain this to her she should understand. Good luck! Let me know how it goes.

MarriageCounseling answers:

Two wrongs don’t make a right.

If your sister has any intentions of attempting to “do the right thing” the FIRST thing she needs to do is decide what to do with her PRESENT relationship. Obviously, she has biblical grounds for divorce, IF that is what she chooses to do.

GOD intends for sex to be the icing on the cake of marriage; whomever the two people happen to be.

Debra