Your Questions About Marriage Counselling Questions

MarriageCounseling answers:

My husband and I had a bunch of sessions of premarital counseling, and we found them to be helpful. Pre-marital counseling helps you to address a lot of aspects of marriage and communication that you might not have thought of on your own. Statistically speaking, couples who have any kind of counseling tend to have a lower divorce rate, but perhaps the reason for this isn’t so much the counseling itself as the couple’s willingness to address problems and put effort into making the marriage work.

Communication problems aren’t unusual in a newer relationship. Men and women tend to communicate differently anyway, so this is often a problem for newlyweds or engaged couples. There are also great books out there for couples that you could both read and then discuss together. If you get counseling, ask the counselor what books they’d recommend to you. My husband and I loved the book “The Five Love Languages.” It’s a great book to help couples understand what makes each other feel loved and how to communicate love more effectively.

The bottom line, of course, is that if you don’t feel 100% sure about marrying him, don’t go through with it. However, it sounds to me like you are willing to put effort into having a great marriage, and that’s really important!

I hope you have a great wedding and a wonderful life together!

MarriageCounseling answers:

I would say….

From the first day I saw you, I knew there was something about you that intrigued me. Getting to know you, falling in love with your mind, your heart and your soul has helped me realize that while Iife was good before you, its so much better since you chose to walk with me, as my friend, my lover and now my husband. I will forever be grateful for the gift the Lord has blessed me with in you.

Thank you, for being a man who cares enough about our children to show them by example, how a lady should be respected and adored. Thank you for being a father, who cares enough about his family, to make certain they are well provided for. Thank you for being a man, who understands how important being a husband and father is and accepts and respects the awesome responsibility he has been blessed with.

I love you man…..

MarriageCounseling answers:

Worthwhile – yes

it was required by the pastor who was going to marry us.

It identified a lot of things -that i ignored with rose colored glasses and naive optimism- that said were going to be a problem down the line. Guess what? 15 years later i filed for divorce for those exact same issues.

MarriageCounseling answers:

Nope it didn’t do anything. The suggestions made by the counselor only work if both parties abide by the suggestions. Most people know what the counselor is going to say even before they go in. You know what the problems are and i am sure they have been brought to your husbands attention. If they haven’t changed now, having a counselor tell you the same thing you already know and have tried to work on isn’t going to change anything. It was a waste of money. Save that money for a good lawyer