Linda asks…
couples counseling! please help if you have experienced it!?
me and my boyfriend have not been together to long, we have a great relationship but recently broke up. he has big time parent issues from the way he was raised…and i later found i did not give him space, hes a very independent guy.
my question is does couples counseling work…is it something we should try? we are both willing, me more than him unfortunately:)
please let me know your experience and if it helped any or if this is just a lost cause. also can counseling bring back the ‘spark’ if its gone?
MarriageCounseling answers:
Yes, counseling can work if you have a good one. Also, you both have to be honest and receptive to changing yourself, based on recommendations from the counselor.
James asks…
free online couples counseling?
where can you get online couples counseling?my boyfriend works alot and he has lost his dad mom and little girl within 5 years i no he is depressed and he wont get help and it is broking us a part. it is alot for me to deal with the loss of are little girl . and i know he is going though alot more.pleas help!
MarriageCounseling answers:
I recommend you both get personal counseling for grieving first. You have to remember, although he cares about you and you care about him, you guys need to help yourselves as individuals first. Then work on what you have together.
Maria asks…
Has Couples Counseling Worked For You?
Has your relationship been saved by a counseling? Is it really worth it? What are the real numbers on successfully counselled couples? Is it a scam? Is it really the “nail in the coffin” for a relationship?
MarriageCounseling answers:
My husband and I were very skeptical about the “Engaged Encounter” or pre-cana that is required for getting married in the catholic church (a weekend spent with outher couples in pre-marrital counseling), but we ended up having a great time and highly recommend it
We’ve not been to any other counseling since and it seems that you are asking about counseling when there is a problem…. (I only raised the pre-marital situation b/c I don’t think it’s fair, or wise, to say all counseling is bad…)
The problem is that if you are having a problem that is really just a character flaw on the other person’s behalf (or yours) then what is the point of counseling? If one is cheating, being abusive, refuses to get a job, stop drinking or treat their spouse with love, then these are all decisions made by that person following with thir charatcer and sense of responsibility and obligation ot their vows….
So I say skip counseling if the problem is that one person is choosing to behave in a way that harms their spouse — there is nothing counceling is going to do to fix that situation and you know deep down what to do anyway, so listen to your gut and make your gut feelings be based on what your brain tells you, not what your heart wishes….
Good luck 
David asks…
Couples counseling? Individual therapy? Anyone tried it with success??
Having relationship problems. Considering couples counseling and possibly individual therapy. Has anyone taken part in either and experienced success?
MarriageCounseling answers:
YES, my husband and I both went and it has helped us. We learned a few tricks together to improve our communication skills.
Go for it. If it turns out that you feel uncomfortable or it is not helpful then do not return. Even if it does not help save your marriage it could help the breakup go easier.
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