Your Questions About Marriage Counselling

MarriageCounseling answers:

Please run reviews online about who you select. Google their names and look up recommendations. Its not fun walking out of an office and wondering what the heck you just accomplished – or the trial and error of finding a good one. Your marriage depends on a good one. Social work degrees are a dime a dozen. My husband and I made sure ours had a Phd… A psychiatrist in the business. Right off the back, we could tell the difference between them, and just a counselor , although they are not easy to book. – but that also tells me how good they are.

Every session we had made a world of a difference. We are still newbies at it, but a really good one helps you communicate with each other in ways you wouldnt think. Also, because they are experts in the area (PhD,) they can understand you a heck of a lot better, and help you rationalize what you do, and what you are going through. Seeing an expert is helping us understand each other – which is our money’s worth.

MarriageCounseling answers:

We tried marriage counseling a few times, before a divorce was initiated, during the divorce, but before any trial dates, and after all the trial dates, but before papers were finalized. We never got divorced and our marriage is better than ever. The first time we went to marriage counseling, it didn’t help at all. It was a waste of time and money due to the fact that we picked a counselor who was very poor at her job. I don’t think it was just that she was wrong for us but that she just wasn’t good at it. To give you an example of what I’m talking about, she said that marriage was like a business, in which the husband was the president and the wife was the vice-president. Enough said? The one we went to before the court dates was okay but not the best – he actually gave up on us and said there was nothing more he could do for us until after the divorce, if we wanted to come back. What’s that – divorce counseling? The last one was by far the best. He was also expensive but had the knowledge and ability to get to the root of things. He was fair and compassionate and very, very good at his job. I don’t think he alone was responsible for saving our marriage, because by this time, my husband and I both wanted to save it and didn’t want a divorce at all, but he definitely helped and it was not a waste of time or money at all. My answer to your question is that marriage counseling can help if, and this is a big IF, both partners are wanting to save the marriage and are willing to really try. The other part of this is finding a good marriage counselor who will truly help you to understand each other and the problems and whether it is possible to make it work. If you both love each other and want to stay together and remain married, then it is worth it to try marriage counseling. You may have to give it more than one try, though. If you are thinking about this yourself, good luck!

MarriageCounseling answers:

We tried three different counselors and finally decided they were a waste of money.

The first counselor mediated us into arguments in his office that almost reached the explosion point, and then he would tell us session over, without doing anything to calm down the strong sentiments he stirred up. Don’t know why he kept us angry at each other.

The second counselor was after a pay check, and completely bored with our problems.

The third counselor couldn’t make up his mind what was the proper course of therapy for us. He would take one tac during a session and the next session he would take 180 degree different course. I don’t thing he was good at keeping his clients and the type of therapy needed for each couple separate and confused what was going on with each couple.

Finally, it came down to we had to decide on our own, could we live with each other and all that has happened. If so, then we would stay together. If neither of us could live with the other and our problems, then we should divorce.

MarriageCounseling answers:

It was annoying… If I was happy with him when we were dating I didnt think we needed it. But we ended up breaking it off and calling off the wedding.. I guess It helped me avoid making the worst decision of my life