monogamy in marriage | Some moron is always questioning it | Mariage Counseling News
monogamy in marriage
| Some moron is always questioning it | Mariage Counseling News
Every so often someone – apparently trying to be cute – goes out and claims that something is dead which is very much alive.
A few years ago we had people saying that God is dead. The novel was dead. Religion was dead. The Internet was dead. Heck way back, the horseless carriage (the automobile) wasn’t going to stick around long.
One of the stupidest of all these constantly recurring themes is the idea that heterosexual monogamy is dead or needs to be replaced.
It always turns out to be some liberal, some philosopher, some gay guy who has gotten reputation as a relationship advice guru or some other oddball who apparently doesn’t have the sense God gave a squirrel to see that if monogamy were in question it would kind of show up by people being happy with infidelities.
At least there would be SOME people happy with that, wouldn’t there? As it turns out, NO ONE is happy about infidelities.
This past Sunday the New York Times did a magazine cover story based on the ideas of gay sex-advice columnist Dan Savage, whom it referred to as America’s leading sex advice guru (really?), about how infidelity just might save monogamy, the idea being that monogamy is tough and it’s about time we acknowledged it. Savage argues that couples should be far more understanding of infidelities and even discuss them before they happen so as to receive each other’s informed consent, should that prove appropriate to the relationship. Couples should trade in the straightjacket of strict monogamy, which essentially doesn’t work, and instead seek to be ‘monogomish,’ that is, being essentially faithful but allowing for outside liaisons which just might prevent the dissolution of the primary relationship.
Yawn. What a bore. This is what passes for news in the world’s leading publication?
The New York Times would devote an ocean of ink to an idea that has been unsuccessfully argued by scores of ‘experts’ who have caused couples untold suffering by arguing for open relationships that have later been destroyed by jealousy and woundedness?
Indeed, the argument for open relationships goes back to the beginning of time, its most famous modern advocate being the celebrated British philosopher Bertrand Russell who wrote long letters to his wife about his consensual infidelities. But his open-mindedness could not surmount his jealousy when his own wife starting taking lovers.
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