I’m normally the biggest proponent of “divorce is not an option” but I am starting not to feel that way anymore.
My husband and I argue all the time. Over everything. Our one year wedding anniversary is next month and I really don’t think we’re going to make it because all of this constant bickering has worn me down. I’m truly tired of it – and of him. We have an eight month old and I tried to hang in there for her but it’s not working.
Today, we argued because I didn’t agree with him on something. Each time I respectfully disagree, he gets upset and then the conversation goes south. I’ve tried to tell him so many times that we’re two different people and we’re not going to agree all the time! What’s so hard to understand about that? But he doesn’t get it. Then he ends up hanging up the phone on me. I call him back and he does it again. Tonight, I’ve called him no less than 30 times and he refuses to pick up the phone. I’ve since stopped trying and let it be. I really don’t have time for that childishness.
I’m tired of being disrespected and I really don’t have any respect for him. I would like us to try marriage counseling like other couples but Mr. Know It All refuses to go.
I’m just trying to find ways to deal with someone like this because as far as I’m concerned, the marriage is over. But even in light of that, I have to deal with him because of our child.
So any suggestions on how to deal with someone like this?
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Get out of there. Pretty soon it will turn physical. Dont wait til your 30 years old and no other guy is interested. Always date two to three years before marriage.
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you are too young to be married..
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being 30 years old and not finding a guy is ahhh Not true! ya find them at any age lol but to your question. Tell him you two are not able to talk or come to agreeable things has worn ya down and ya need a break from it and that you are afraid that if this contiues there will be no you as a team! Tell him what ya suggest before ya get to hate the man ya loved! ……Its not ez i mean pressures from jobs the child the bills its hard! And yeah he feels ya should agree with him but tell him he asked ur opinion and ya gave it its ok that they are not the same! if he contiues to be as u say childish then he wasn’t ready for the whole marriage thing and the child …she’s here so he has no choice but to deal with that but you on the ohter hand don’t need a life time of arguing just becasue ya feel differently about things then he does! Talk first then go from there! Hey Good Luck! ……………And yes there is life after 30 friend!s..Really! Actually more exciting!
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you dont walk out because of personalities differences, you have to learn to deal with it, marriage is tough, we all go through this.
get into a good church, a bible preaching church and learn to do it God’s way.
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YES. Read this article!
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You could trying reading Men Are From Mars, Women Are From Venus together.
You should try ignoring him a bit, calling him 30 times bc he hung up is not productive, give him some space, let him cool down for a few hours, after the both of you have cooled down – then peacefully discuss the issue(s).
You can pray to Jesus for help – He will help you.
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Well for starters I wouldn’t be calling my husband 30 times if he hung up on me. Don’t get involved in arguing with him just say, that’s your opinion and drop it. I know it’s infuriating to be around a know it all who won’t allow you to have your own opinion, but if he doesn’t have anyone to argue with there’s no argument. Good Luck.
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Ok…. huney your not completly respectful. “Mr. know it all”. I understand how you feel. Don’t just back out. My advice buy the movie Fireproof. there is also a book from the movie called “The Love Dare” I would recommend you actually try the love dare and do not give up. Pray and pray hard. A marriage takes the two of you and God. Don’t give up yet. God never intended marriages to end in divorce. Hang in there. Besides the first year is always hard. Tell him gently how him hanging up and not answering the phone makes you feel. I’m sure it hurts so don’t tell him that it’s childish and you don’t have time for it tell him it hurts and why it hurts. Be open in your communication in a loving way. Pray that you have a desire to want your marriage to work and that God will teach you the meaning of true love. Be open and senistive to God.
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Marriage is not easy, rather it takes hard work and a unresolved commitment to make it work by both parties. marriage becomes bickering and unsatisfying when both parties become selfish and want things their own way. marriage is about giving, not taking. yet there is big award from a life long relationship with spouse and children when you commit to giving it your all, You might need professional help to guide you, but it is worth trying,
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You need to get out. He sounds like a cheater to me. No one has this kind of behavior unless they are doing something seriously wrong that they are afraid their spouse will find out about. Why dont you confront him about it. If he isnt willing to work on it then it shouldnt be a question anymore. Unfortunately its time to leave.
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