A question asked by a reader is so important I’m moving it to a post:
Q: Do you think that both husband and wife should attend therapy individually and then together to save a marriage? If addictions are involved, should that be addressed before marriage counseling starts? Or as part of?
A: No, if you look on http://www.EasyMarriageCounseling.com you’ll find the answers to these questions. You have to address the core beliefs and not behavior nor symptoms. “Same-Old” Marriage Counseling and individual therapy embroil you in the same problems over and over and over again. The problem with most therapy is that people are constantly pushed into dealing with issues they have NO tools to deal with, using the same defenses and reactions over and over again and nothing moves forward. Most therapists, even fairly seasoned marriage therapists, neither have the knowlege nor skills to handle directing a change, and in regular therapy therapists get “co-opted” into the pathology of the client, siding, having emotional reactions, getting “politically swayed” by their own belief system, biases and cultural leanings. EasyMarriageCounseling.com avoids all those issues and handicaps.
-Dr. Max
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Thank you. After MANY years of traditional “therapy”, I now understand that the therapist that we used must have been ill equipped to deal with our situation. Although the ending is the same, at least, I have some closure. =)
I'm sorry for the outcome for you but glad I could provide some
understanding… I think one of the hardest things to deal with at the
end is not getting any real closure. It can linger and linger.
Thank you. After MANY years of traditional “therapy”, I now understand that the therapist that we used must have been ill equipped to deal with our situation. Although the ending is the same, at least, I have some closure. =)
I'm sorry for the outcome for you but glad I could provide some
understanding… I think one of the hardest things to deal with at the
end is not getting any real closure. It can linger and linger.