Keeping your individuality in marriage

One of the hardest things to do in marriage is to keep your individuality.

There are so many pressures to be someone your spouse desires that you be.

Heck it’s easy at first to surrender yourself.

You are in love…. blind, crazy love.

You’d give anything to keep that feeling.

How wonderful to feel that passion!

But after a while, you begin to feel homesick.

Homesick for your old self.

He/She is still waiting for you to get over that "sickness" of being in love.

It’s not really a sickness of course, it is the most wonderful thing on earth.

But sooner or later you feel that old pull to have "yourself" back again.

More often than not this is when the trouble starts.

The "trouble" is that your new spouse doesn’t like the change.

They don’t like you going back.  They like you being theirs, all theirs!!

They like you thinking, feeling, talking and acting just like they do.

But there’s a calling back to yourself.

What do you do then?

How do you answer this dual calling, this calling to be yourself and also to serve your spouse by being what they want you to be?

It’s a tough problem.  No doubt about it.

I’ll be talking more about it soon.

I’ve got some answers you haven’t thought of before, and you haven’t heard anywhere else.

Give this all a think and let me know your views.

I’m going to keep at it here until I know you have a great marriage.

To your Great Relationship future,
Dr. Max

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