tangerine asked:
I know that there are a lot of couples who seek marriage counseling to straighten out their relationship problems. I can’t help but wonder why, though. Obviously these people aren’t making each other happy, so why do they even bother? Personally, I see nothing wrong with cutting one’s losses and leaving a miserable situation. After all, the main point in life is to be happy, and if a thing or a person makes you unhappy, the best thing you can do for yourself is remove it/him/her from your life as much as possible.
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I know that there are a lot of couples who seek marriage counseling to straighten out their relationship problems. I can’t help but wonder why, though. Obviously these people aren’t making each other happy, so why do they even bother? Personally, I see nothing wrong with cutting one’s losses and leaving a miserable situation. After all, the main point in life is to be happy, and if a thing or a person makes you unhappy, the best thing you can do for yourself is remove it/him/her from your life as much as possible.
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With your hypothesis on life, we don’t need doctors.
with all that commitment, you should have no problem making it work
you know, when you remove what you think is the source of your unhappiness, chances are, you’re still left with the miserable you.
ask my ex.
I think that a marriage counselor can only work if BOTH people in the relationship are willing to work out their problems and BOTH people REALLY want to stay in the marriage more than anything. IF only one person wants it then nothing can save the marriage.
A counselor can offer an unbiased opinion and helpful advice and ideas for TWO people who WANT to stay together.
There is Every point Cause A counsellor Can Help them Straighten Things out by For One Putting A perspective on the problem that maybe they hadn’t thought of or giving them tips to work things out
Just cause you don’t believe in it doesn’t mean it’s pointless
There’s Every Reason in the world to seek Help
wasn’t ready to give up. hoped a noninvolved person could hear both sides and give an unbiased view of what was going on. worked for a while til she quit going. now things are right back the way they were before. next step is the hardest to decide on
Good outlook on the whole situation. I agree. If you can’t communicate and solve your own problems why is it necessary to seek outside assistance?
Most people can solve their own problems if concessions are willing to be made or if one party is wrong (and actually knows it) then points of pride have to be swept aside and you knuckle under because the other person not only presetns a valid argument, but leaves you no avenue to respond sensibly and logically.
This is where the “Well you’re fat” or “You’re lack of (whatever) has MADE me do this”. (I love that ‘made me’ line. As if a gun was placed against your temple).
So good point. Cut your losses and move on. problem is people take stuff to a personal level. Because they hate to be wrong and won’t admit it so they become pri*cks about the whole thing.
Immaturity in its purest form.
A lot if you can act upon
Marriage Counseling is only going to work if both parties want to make it work. It is for people who want to find that love again that they once had. I think it is a waste of money b/c things might change for a little while but what happens months down the line when all the feelings come back again that they want out again. You shouldn’t have to go to marriage counseling every couple of months to make a relationship work. If so its not meant to be.
theres ALWAYS issues in life.
yer never gonna have anything perfect
what cousneling does it help you learn to cooperate
learn how to interact and be fair
I think it can work if both parties are willing to try to change and collaborate with their partner. If either one of your are not truly willing to be open to counseling – I don’t see it working. JMHO.
One guy I use to work with told me that the marriage counseler told him and his wife to basically be sluts to each other. It worked I guess since they are still married.
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