Comments on: What are some phases of marriage counseling?

By: ibme999

ibme999 — Fri, 18 Jul 2008 21:43:30 +0000

I’ve gone through marriage counseling twice with two different husbands. So I think I know what I’m talking about on this subject.

The first phase is the honeymoon stage. The couple is newly married and life is good. He/she can do no wrong.

The next stage is when each other begins to notice each others bad habits: dirty clothes on the floor, not helping with the dishes, laying around the house in their under-ware watching t.v.

Then comes the nagging stage. The couple begins to tell each other that they don’t like his/her bad habits (dirty clothes on the floor etc.)

The nagging becomes worse, the yelling starts. Doors are slammed, snide comments are said under each others breaths, loud enough to be noticed but low enough not to be understood.

The yelling stage quickly begins. “I never did like your mother!” “If you would only take me out once in a while, I wouldn’t be this way”

Money problems begin, more yelling….infidelity begins in most cases or worse yet, the physical abuse.

Total upheaval is in the household, things get out of hand and no one can stand each other. Someone sleeps on the sofa, the sex stops, meals at the table cease and no one speaks to each other.

Divorce is waiting right around the corner.

It sucks. It’s not fun and I never want to go through this ever again as long as I live.

I hope that I’ve helped you with your book.

By: niteeyes_69

niteeyes_69 — Wed, 16 Jul 2008 17:56:45 +0000

Im actually going to my first marriage counseling session tomorrow but we did have an intervention together which led to this appointment. I guess it depends on the issues at hand that would lead to different ways the counselor will initiate the session.

I looked online and found a website not sure if this is what you are looking for but it kind of goes into what happens with divorce and different stages. Hope this helps!

By: Rhetoric

Rhetoric — Mon, 14 Jul 2008 13:18:36 +0000

I’m not an expert but I’ve been through marriage counseling. I believe that the basic phases are to separate the two, get both of their sides/opinions/questions. Then after they have both expressed themselves they are placed together to talk about what they think, get everything they’ve been hiding out, discuss what they are willing to compromise on, ect ect… Then once everything is on the table the couple recieves counseling on what they need to do to create a better relationship. They are given tools, diagrams, and all kinds of stuff that they go home and never look at again. That’s basically in a few sessions what it was like for me and my wife. Hope that helps.

By: Hector V

Hector V — Sun, 13 Jul 2008 03:00:41 +0000

A lot of arguing, lack of sexual relations, cheating, bankruptcy, and obesity are all main ones…